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OP - October 29, 2013, 04:15 AM

I have a bad anger problem. For some that means that they get angry at the slightest provocation. For me, that means that once something actually gets to me, things that I normally brush off (I am pretty easy going) can set me into a fit of rage very quickly. Contact with my family in any way usually sets me off. So does reading about domestic violence and rape cases; especially ones with a religious taint to them. Contact with the family is a necessity at the moment due to some debts that I have incurred, collection agency would not stop calling the family and I have just finished settling into a new location. As for the reading goes, most of the time I steer clear, but I read to stay informed on world issues and those topics pop up now and then.

The root of anger tends to be pain most of the time. Anger is a defense mechanism that can be useful. Right now, I just feel like it's counterproductive to my current situation and I feel like it is spiraling out of control. I feel like I am letting my son down when I get this way. Work and my own emotional problems has made me emotionally distant and he reciprocates that.

It is hard for me to verbalize how I am feeling about this at all to anyone...and the thought that haunts me till this day is always "they don't love me for who I am. They don't even know who I am." People come and go, even ones that claim to be your new family, but none can ever make up for the ones that have made you.

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Reply #1 - October 29, 2013, 04:18 AM

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Reply #2 - October 29, 2013, 04:37 AM

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Reply #3 - October 29, 2013, 01:44 PM

Thanks for reading and responding. I feel better after getting that out in some way.

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Reply #4 - October 29, 2013, 01:54 PM

Quote from: movingfeet on October 29, 2013, 04:15 AM
I have a bad anger problem. ..............

Quote from: movingfeet on October 29, 2013, 04:37 AM

Hmm you are really angry jumping feet Oops I mean "movingfeet". How are you doing? and welcome to CEMB . Well there are number of ways to control the anger.. Trust me Many times I wanted to kill people .. I tell you very simple medicine for instantaneous control of that raging anger .. here buy them

And that medicine is Chick peas coated with mixture of wasabi powder, soy sauce and sometimes sugar., keep them in small pockets and eat them when you are very angry.. Lol.. seriously it does a good job..

and again welcome to CEMB..
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Reply #5 - October 29, 2013, 03:50 PM

I really like honey roasted nuts. I dislike wasabi.

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Reply #6 - October 29, 2013, 06:35 PM

Quote from: movingfeet on October 29, 2013, 03:50 PM
I really like honey roasted nuts. I dislike wasabi.

Noooooooooooooo..

That will make you raging angry., Then you will be like that guy Pastor Manning

honey roasted nuts will increase your anger ., Only Wasabi Chick peas

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Reply #7 - October 29, 2013, 07:08 PM

but I hate wasabi

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Reply #8 - October 30, 2013, 12:12 AM

Quote from: movingfeet on October 29, 2013, 04:15 AM
I have a bad anger problem. For some that means that they get angry at the slightest provocation. For me, that means that once something actually gets to me, things that I normally brush off (I am pretty easy going) can set me into a fit of rage very quickly. Contact with my family in any way usually sets me off. So does reading about domestic violence and rape cases; especially ones with a religious taint to them. Contact with the family is a necessity at the moment due to some debts that I have incurred, collection agency would not stop calling the family and I have just finished settling into a new location. As for the reading goes, most of the time I steer clear, but I read to stay informed on world issues and those topics pop up now and then.

The root of anger tends to be pain most of the time. Anger is a defense mechanism that can be useful. Right now, I just feel like it's counterproductive to my current situation and I feel like it is spiraling out of control. I feel like I am letting my son down when I get this way. Work and my own emotional problems has made me emotionally distant and he reciprocates that.

It is hard for me to verbalize how I am feeling about this at all to anyone...and the thought that haunts me till this day is always "they don't love me for who I am. They don't even know who I am." People come and go, even ones that claim to be your new family, but none can ever make up for the ones that have made you.

Make sure you are taking the time to do things for yourself. Even small things, like painting your nails or making your favorite salad. Sometimes anger is indicative of depression, too. For your son, you have to take care of yourself first. Then get down on his level and connect. Guilt gets in the way. Please avoid triggers like you mentioned. I am so sorry, and I understand where you are coming from. I am glad you can talk about it.

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Reply #9 - October 30, 2013, 12:31 AM

Take up boxing or martial arts. Seriously. Turn all that negative, corrosive and volatile energy into fuel for something productive and rewarding. At the very least, get a punchbag or find some other physical way of expending it, like chopping wood or sprinting.

Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
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Reply #10 - October 30, 2013, 12:39 AM

Thank you both for the replies and advice. It makes sense, so, in that case, I will pick up drumming solo instead of waiting for the flake in VA to drop by that extra drum kit.

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Reply #11 - October 30, 2013, 12:41 AM

I really love percussion. Feel free to post up some solo drumming.

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Reply #12 - November 03, 2013, 03:52 AM

I will when able for sure.

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