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  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     OP - November 09, 2014, 08:28 PM
    I think of how hard it will be everyday once I come out and how bad I will feel about it.. to have to let go of people who have raised you and loved you.

    How did you overcome that feeling of 'rejection/unwant' from your families and friends?  Huh?
    ✿ Bad news is: ✿
    You cannot make people like, love, understand, validate,
    accept, or be nice to you. You can't control them either.
    ✿ Good news is: ✿
    It doesn't matter.
  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     Reply #1 - November 09, 2014, 08:32 PM
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M8DL-o-POcU
    No free mixing of the sexes is permitted on these forums or via PM or the various chat groups that are operating.

    Women must write modestly and all men must lower their case.

    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?425649-Have-some-Hayaa-%28modesty-shame%29-people!
  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     Reply #2 - November 10, 2014, 01:08 PM
    Quote from: Ri on November 09, 2014, 08:28 PM
    I think of how hard it will be everyday once I come out and how bad I will feel about it.. to have to let go of people who have raised you and loved you.

    How did you overcome that feeling of 'rejection/unwant' from your families and friends?  Huh?


    You don't overcome it. You learn to live with it.

    There's so much in life to do and enjoy. It would be better to concentrate on gaining more from your life than to dwell on your past. Things cant always work out they way you want it to, this is a fact of life which manifests in different ways. For us, it's the rejection from our loved ones. As painful as it is, we can learn to accept it.
    ~My story~
    ~Collection of unethical hadiths/surahs~
  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     Reply #3 - November 10, 2014, 02:18 PM
    Quote from: Ri on November 09, 2014, 08:28 PM
    I think of how hard it will be everyday once I come out and how bad I will feel about it.. to have to let go of people who have raised you and loved you.

    How did you overcome that feeling of 'rejection/unwant' from your families and friends?  Huh?


    do you even need to tell them ?
  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     Reply #4 - November 10, 2014, 09:47 PM
    It's not something to undertake lightly. Having a non-muslim partner helps. And once you start a family, children fill that gap, especially because they love you just as you are  Smiley
  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     Reply #5 - November 10, 2014, 10:19 PM
    Quote from: PeruvianSkies on November 10, 2014, 01:08 PM
    You don't overcome it. You learn to live with it.

    There's so much in life to do and enjoy. It would be better to concentrate on gaining more from your life than to dwell on your past. Things cant always work out they way you want it to, this is a fact of life which manifests in different ways. For us, it's the rejection from our loved ones. As painful as it is, we can learn to accept it.

    Afro
    By the way, you're not required to tell anyone that you're an ex-Muslim or atheist. However, pretending to be a Muslim isn't fun.
    I left my family and community for other reasons so I'm off on my own in a new city. It's tough and I'm not dealing with it well. But creating friendships does help.
    I agree with mini-me. I won't suggest getting married now and popping out kids to fill the void. Starting a family should come out of love, not loneliness.
    turnipovich
  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     Reply #6 - November 10, 2014, 10:52 PM
    These kind of cases are common with those who leave Islam, some choose to tell others do not. Its really sad when you think about it. People who leave Islam shouldn't have to be forced to make these kind of choices, and families shouldn't feel forced by dogma to reject their own members.
  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     Reply #7 - November 11, 2014, 07:17 AM
    Sometimes I feel like I only have 2 options. Announce to the world how I feel about Mohamed and his religion and in the process lose most of my family and friends(break my sweet  mother's heart) or stay in the closet and go through life hiding the real me and keep all of my family and friends. I been thinking about this almost every day for the past 15 years and still I cant make a solid decision. but again there are millions that could DIE if they come out, and those millions of women that cant even show their own face in public. If I ever come out as an atheist/agnostic I will do it for those around the world who cant.
  • Moving on from family/friends - How difficult is/was it?
     Reply #8 - November 11, 2014, 07:18 AM
    "You don't overcome it. You learn to live with it."  Afro
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