Ugh! I had such a hard time trying to find the right clothes which suited my tastes and style whilst not showing off my curves too much when I wore hijab. I ended up dressing like a frump for awhile.
I have been without hijab for about two years and only recently have I started to learn or realize that I should not buy clothes that are one to four sizes too big for me. Because this was how I had to dress for a long time, it is second nature to me now that my clothes should be baggy. I would look in the mirror and think, "I'm still looking like a frumpy convenience store clerk after I took off the hijab," and thinking this is just what it is. Then I am realizing, this is so big in my waist, these jeans are so big at the knee, this shirt hangs so baggy at the back, why is that? Because they are TOO BIG FOR ME, and what I think is "my size" isn't my size at all, it's what I had to compromise so I could wear "regular clothes" and still have on "opaque, loose fitting clothes" to fit the rules of hijab. And now I have like, $200+ of good clothing that needs to have some serious tailoring done, b/c it is too big - dresses, tops, skirts, jeans... what a waste.
I can honestly say that if you are not pleased with the way you look then you will not feel good about yourself, period. I finally gave up trying to conform to the dictats of Islam as I just felt so miserable about myself. I felt my personality was being buried alive!
I always was frustrated that my personality wasn't obvious to people when I wore hijab. But now I can see from the other side what they saw - they didn't see me inside, they saw the image. Pious possible immigrant, etc. I made very conscientious efforts to buy expensive, nice, unique, blahblah hijabs, and that made it obvious to Muslims that I was a bit off-kilter or alternative or whatever, but not to non Muslims. What is "daring" in the religious Muslim community (ie fashion hijab) looks to other people like a desert version of Little House on the Prairie, you know?
I'm flamboyant by nature so trying to be a 'proper' hijabi just went against my nature.
Yeah I just couldn't work it out. It was a lot of effort to modulate one's voice, refrain from laughing, not interject in conversations (esp those of men) and so on. I gave up about 5 yrs in, and enjoyed shocking (Muslim) people with ever greater frequency.