I know I'm young and I shouldn't really think about marriage per say but I'll be entering my 20s soon and before you know it, I'd want to get married.
I debate myself from time to time telling myself I'll never get married since most marriages don't last long any ways. I don't want to end up divorced so I just want to avoid it altogether. I felt this way when I was a Muslim as well but I remember hearing from imams and such that marriage is almost mandatory. It's kind of hard to explain it but I'm sure some of you would understand what the imams was saying.
So now... as an ex muslim, i can marry whoever I want in the future but I actually no for a fact that that man won't be a Muslim. If he's an ex muslim, I'm fine with that... but a Muslim? I don't want to take the chances. I pretty much know that my family will disapprove and all that.
I don't even have anyone in mind... this is almost just a rant for the mere future. I don't know...
It's natural to think like that especially if you come from a family where getting married is their top priority. But like most of the posters here, I think it's best for you to enjoy this time and do whatever you want without having any responsibilities of a relationship, let alone a married one.
When I was in my teens I wanted to get married because I fantasised about the bollywood fairytale wedding (note wedding, not marriage) and as a stupidly religious young girl I was infatuated with the notion of marriage. Getting proposals at the age of 16 used to make me blush.
Funny how when I got to that stage I absolutely hated it. I wasn't as religious and I wasn't willing to be a wife, but I loved my partner and wanted to move in with him and start my own independent life. As thinkfree said, we took the best option available to us. In my eyes the only merit of marriage for me was that I successfully got out of a sticky situation whilst retaining my family.
Heh, I remember at one point we contemplated about getting a divorce because what's the point of remaining married when you don't believe in the institution? But decided against it as we are lazy people.
I guess once you take out the religion, there isn't much left for marriage, technically anyway.
Topic: Marriage