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 Topic: Sexual Double Standards

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  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #30 - June 04, 2010, 06:31 AM
    Yes--I mean be more confident and outward about it.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #31 - June 04, 2010, 06:48 AM
    Why do you assume I haven't been doing that?  grin12
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #32 - June 04, 2010, 06:54 AM
    I was actually talking about guys in general. But good luck in your hunts. Tongue
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #33 - June 04, 2010, 07:13 AM
    Quote from: thinkfree on June 03, 2010, 09:30 PM
    Sorry, it's a condition of my bail that I don't discuss incidents which may lead me to re-offend.


    lol
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #34 - June 04, 2010, 07:19 AM
    Quote from: IsLame on June 03, 2010, 09:15 PM
    Has any male or female done it or got funny stories to tell about exposing themselves?

    I know a guy who apparently tried pulling it off. It was after a party, we spent the night there, he was sleeping on the bed with a girl, and apparently he tried taking off his pants while in bed. Obviously it didn't work.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #35 - June 04, 2010, 07:23 AM
    He had a small penis. The secret is having a really large member.

    I do it all the time and ladies practically climb over each other to get to me.

    Fuck yeah  cool2
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #36 - June 04, 2010, 07:33 AM
    You fail. Girls fight over you and you don't offer to have a threesome?
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #37 - June 04, 2010, 07:39 AM
    *facepalm*

    I promise to redeem myself. Next time a 4some.

    I hope this will bring back some of the lost honor in your eyes?
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #38 - June 04, 2010, 08:19 AM
    Quote from: deusvult on June 03, 2010, 11:46 PM
    I would say biology plays a large part of it and economical issues are the driving force behind changing viewpoints ( almost to the point of being dependent on them).  

    I'd add, biological "economics" has to do with the situation arising in the first place.  Females invest significantly more into developing offspring than males. In humans, males make (and waste) lots of sperm, while females take 9 months to create an offspring).  So from a male perspective there is not much cost in having sex with any available female- while for females there is significant cost in having sex with a sub-standard male (especially if he then does not invest time in raising the offspring).  

    Looked at from this perspective, it is surprising that males are not even more willing to take up any offers of sex.  

    Also from a biological and a "battle of the sexes" perspective, the investment between males and females is different in different contexts.  In sea-horses for example, the male bears the young (though doesn't provide nutrients).  Eggs for animals generally require a wet environment to survive - so in animals which are land based, this can only be provided in the female.  In animals which are sea/river based, eggs can be simply pumped into the sea/river around them (as with fish) - in this context, the investment between males and females would be quite comparable.  

    EDIT:
    Worth reading is Matt Ridley's book "the Red Queen" - or even googling the term "Red Queen hypothesis".  There are a number of interesting aspects around human reproduction - e.g. while our DNA is derived from a large number of early females, it is derived from a far smaller number of early males.  The reason is that males are much less likely to reproduce than females, however those that do reproduce, reproduce with larger numbers of females. 
    In many species (including humans), a trigger for females for determining how attractive a male is, is to see how attractive to other females he is.  (Similar to how the google algorithm works). 
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #39 - June 04, 2010, 12:09 PM
    Quote from: Abood on June 04, 2010, 07:19 AM
    I know a guy who apparently tried pulling it off. It was after a party, we spent the night there, he was sleeping on the bed with a girl, and apparently he tried taking off his pants while in bed. Obviously it didn't work.

    I've heard similar stories from the female side. It usually entails having crashed on some random sofa after a party and waking up with some dude waving his wang his her face. The reactions have ranged from, "Go back to sleep, idiot..." to "WTF, you pervert!" depending on how well she knew him - not generally the pr0n film ending the guys must have been hoping for. It's strange (in a comical sort of way in this instance) that sometimes guys don't consider the situation from the woman's perspective. ie. Wake up feeling trashed to what looks like a gormless erection through bleary eyes - instantly feel sexy at sight of random bone, obviously.  dance
    Each of us a failed state in stark relief against the backdrop of the perfect worlds we seek.
    Propagandhi - Failed States
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #40 - June 04, 2010, 04:59 PM
    Quote from: Abood on June 04, 2010, 06:54 AM
    I was actually talking about guys in general. But good luck in your hunts. Tongue

    Wait you mean I should bring up sex with strangers I'm trying to get with?  mysmilie_977
    I thought you meant be outward about your sexuality with the girls I'm already dating cuz that's what I do  Afro.



    Quote from: thinkfree on June 04, 2010, 12:09 PM
    I've heard similar stories from the female side. It usually entails having crashed on some random sofa after a party and waking up with some dude waving his wang his her face. The reactions have ranged from, "Go back to sleep, idiot..." to "WTF, you pervert!" depending on how well she knew him - not generally the pr0n film ending the guys must have been hoping for. It's strange (in a comical sort of way in this instance) that sometimes guys don't consider the situation from the woman's perspective. ie. Wake up feeling trashed to what looks like a gormless erection through bleary eyes - instantly feel sexy at sight of random bone, obviously.  dance

    I'm always baffled by these stories. I mean what is the guy thinking? why whip it out? why not ask? do they expect the girl to be hypnotized by the sight of the penis?
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #41 - June 04, 2010, 05:25 PM
    Guys pee-pees are not as nice as girls boobies.

    Hence the double standards.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #42 - June 04, 2010, 05:32 PM
    Quote from: thinkfree on June 04, 2010, 12:09 PM
    I've heard similar stories from the female side. It usually entails having crashed on some random sofa after a party and waking up with some dude waving his wang his her face. The reactions have ranged from, "Go back to sleep, idiot..." to "WTF, you pervert!" depending on how well she knew him - not generally the pr0n film ending the guys must have been hoping for. It's strange (in a comical sort of way in this instance) that sometimes guys don't consider the situation from the woman's perspective. ie. Wake up feeling trashed to what looks like a gormless erection through bleary eyes - instantly feel sexy at sight of random bone, obviously.  dance


    I've heard of that kind of thing. Someone I know once woke up to some perv feeling her up, and he wouldn't stop even after she told him to feck off.

    People that do that kind of thing make me sick
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #43 - June 04, 2010, 05:52 PM
    I personally view Female sexuality as control over Males, and no I don't view it as icky. As for the situations, if both happened, I would probably laugh a lot. I flirt to get my way, I admit it. Neither side would be pervy in the situations tho to me as I don't view the Human body as icky.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #44 - June 04, 2010, 06:05 PM
    Quote from: Zebedee on June 04, 2010, 05:32 PM
    I've heard of that kind of thing. Someone I know once woke up to some perv feeling her up, and he wouldn't stop even after she told him to feck off.

    People that do that kind of thing make me sick


    That's rape.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #45 - June 04, 2010, 06:53 PM
    Badly formulated scenarios.

    In scenario #1 the woman goes to the bathroom then comes back naked. That can either be pervy or classy.
    In scenario #2 the man just whips his cock out. That alone makes it sound rude and tasteless.

    So, your scenarios are already biased to begin with.
    Do not look directly at the operational end of the device.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #46 - June 04, 2010, 06:57 PM
    You're quite right Tlaloc, though tbh I'm not sure how a guy could ever be 'classy' if he went to the bathroom and came back naked.


    On second thought, I'm not sure how either sex could be classy or sensuous under such circumstances. Nakedness in itself isn't a turn on (well for me any way, but maybe because I'm female). It's more the undressing and also leaving some things to the imagination.

    I think I would either laugh or be creeped out if either sex did that to me.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #47 - June 04, 2010, 07:28 PM
    Quote from: Tlaloc on June 04, 2010, 06:53 PM
    Badly formulated scenarios.

    In scenario #1 the woman goes to the bathroom then comes back naked. That can either be pervy or classy.
    In scenario #2 the man just whips his cock out. That alone makes it sound rude and tasteless.

    So, your scenarios are already biased to begin with.

    I edited the OP. What are your thoughts now?
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #48 - June 04, 2010, 08:03 PM
    Men are perverts.
    Girls rule, Boys drool.
    Girls go to Mars to become superstars, Boys go to Jupiter to get stupiter.
     cool2
    "A good man is so hard to find but a hard man is so good to find"
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #49 - June 04, 2010, 08:09 PM
    lol
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #50 - June 04, 2010, 08:31 PM
    Quote from: Iraqi Atheist on June 04, 2010, 04:59 PM
    Wait you mean I should bring up sex with strangers I'm trying to get with?  mysmilie_977
    I thought you meant be outward about your sexuality with the girls I'm already dating cuz that's what I do  Afro.

    Not strangers, but girls you're getting to know. I think the best thing to do is not bring it up completely out of the blue, but instead try to sneak the subject in. Otherwise it'd just sound creepy.

    I actually tried it with a girl I had just met. We were so open about the subject that I explicitly suggested we should have sex. Didn't sleep with her, but she wasn't creeped out about it at all.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #51 - June 04, 2010, 08:33 PM
    Abood please don't tell me you're in the PUA community.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #52 - June 04, 2010, 08:37 PM
     Cheesy

    I ain't no pick up artist, nor do I intend to be one.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #53 - June 04, 2010, 08:38 PM
    *phew*

    I was worried I had to strike you off my list of cool people in my cool people book. You know because you're cool in my book.


    ^^^

    DID EVERYBODY GET THAT JOKE BTW??? BECAUSE I CAN REPEAT IT.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #54 - June 04, 2010, 08:39 PM
     cool2
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #55 - June 04, 2010, 08:57 PM
    Quote from: Abood on June 04, 2010, 08:31 PM
    Not strangers, but girls you're getting to know. I think the best thing to do is not bring it up completely out of the blue, but instead try to sneak the subject in. Otherwise it'd just sound creepy.

    I actually tried it with a girl I had just met. We were so open about the subject that I explicitly suggested we should have sex. Didn't sleep with her, but she wasn't creeped out about it at all.

    Well I once told a girl on the 4th date that I was very eager to have sex with her. Does that count?

    P.S: I did sleep with her eventually.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #56 - June 04, 2010, 08:59 PM
    I have had 4 posts left to 7000 and that comment was so funny I had to spend a smiley on it.

     Cheesy

    Damn you IA!! (I'm trying to reach 7000 in style)
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #57 - June 04, 2010, 08:59 PM
    I don't think it's a matter of sleeping with her as soon as possible. You just have to make sure you don't fall into the "friends zone" 'cause otherwise you're screwed. I'd personally rather commit than have a one-night stand.
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #58 - June 04, 2010, 09:03 PM
    ^^^this i agree with

    and flirting, which is talking about sex while not talking about sex, it's called sub-text and is something madonna could have learned about
  • Re: Sexual Double Standards
     Reply #59 - June 04, 2010, 09:07 PM
    Usually I don't initiate it TBH. But once she gives me the green light, I lose all my inhibitions.
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