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 Topic: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?

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  • Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     OP - June 18, 2010, 11:23 PM
    I'm just wondering.. how we're you able to escape once you became and ex-Muslim?

    That is, if you had to escape from family, or maybe from where you lived.
    How did ur family react? How did u survive?

    I'm just curious, id like to hear some of ur stories please Smiley
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #1 - June 18, 2010, 11:25 PM
    read the intro posts.
    "A good man is so hard to find but a hard man is so good to find"
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #2 - June 18, 2010, 11:31 PM
    The intro posts often don't tell the whole story. Tongue
    Devious, treacherous, murderous, neanderthal, sub-human of the West. bunny
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #3 - June 18, 2010, 11:40 PM
    They presumably tell as much as people are comfortable telling though.
    "Befriend them not, Oh murtads, and give them neither parrot nor bunny."  - happymurtad's advice on trolls.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #4 - June 18, 2010, 11:41 PM
    Quote from: osmanthus on June 18, 2010, 11:31 PM
    The intro posts often don't tell the whole story. Tongue


    okey then start typing...
    "A good man is so hard to find but a hard man is so good to find"
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #5 - June 18, 2010, 11:45 PM
    I'm not an ex-Muslim woman.
    Devious, treacherous, murderous, neanderthal, sub-human of the West. bunny
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #6 - June 19, 2010, 01:54 AM
    I know someone on youtube who had an arab family and she lived in a western country. When she was around 18 or such, she ran from home to the police station. They helped her change her identity and move to a different city. She's close to 30 now and has been living quite happily.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #7 - June 21, 2010, 12:44 PM
    I didn't escape.
    He's no friend to the friendless
    And he's the mother of grief
    There's only sorrow for tomorrow
    Surely life is too brief
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #8 - June 21, 2010, 03:04 PM
    Quote from: osmanthus on June 18, 2010, 11:31 PM
    The intro posts often don't tell the whole story. Tongue


    Yep, so they should read the Bios, which do.    Tongue
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #9 - June 21, 2010, 03:16 PM
    I think it's a good idea to have a thread for this, I feel like it's an important subject.

    The idea of leaving my family is scary, not because I'll be alone, but because I'm very paranoid about people finding me.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #10 - June 21, 2010, 03:24 PM
    Aurora, we need advice on how to become financially independent... quick! My family pays for almost everything for me.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #11 - June 21, 2010, 03:54 PM
    Quote from: DARKEYED9 on June 21, 2010, 03:24 PM
    Aurora, we need advice on how to become financially independent... quick! My family pays for almost everything for me.


    Working or start your own business?
    you have any special skill?
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #12 - June 21, 2010, 04:10 PM
    I'm 18. I do work but that barely helps!
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #13 - June 21, 2010, 04:49 PM
    Quote from: DARKEYED9 on June 21, 2010, 03:24 PM
    Aurora, we need advice on how to become financially independent... quick! My family pays for almost everything for me.


    Are you asking me for advice? I need that advice too, my family pays for everything and don't except me to ever be independent so they never teach me anything.

    You have more knowledge about these things, since you work. I'm a few years younger and don't.

    I wish I could help everyone here.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #14 - June 21, 2010, 06:20 PM
    To be financially independent, you just need to look for job vacancies in the newspaper, waiter/waiteress, receptionist, salesgirl, burger flipper at KFC, telemarketer, etc, and give them all a ring / submit your resume. You'll end up finding work one way or another. this may/may not be enough to support you and your education..
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #15 - July 05, 2010, 11:53 AM
    a higher education in computer science is a good bet to find some kind of job better than burger flipping etc. of course law and medicine are better careers but they need more groundwork and commitment to get into compared to comp sci which is pretty easy to break into.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #16 - July 05, 2010, 12:05 PM
    I tend to agree with liberated on this. Any work is better than no work, even if it's just to put a little money in your pocket and prevent gaps in your CV. It's all experience, at the end of the day. Also, some of the better paid people I know in the IT industry have much more in the way of industry certification than academic qualifications.
    Each of us a failed state in stark relief against the backdrop of the perfect worlds we seek.
    Propagandhi - Failed States
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #17 - August 04, 2010, 01:00 AM
    Well, my family is non-Muslim. I was tricked into the religion after visiting a mosque. Anyway, my family was happy when I left because they thought it treated women pretty badly. I know my grandma will be happy to hear the news when she gets home.

    Other Muslim friends have deleted me, but I know they weren't my friends anyway.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #18 - August 04, 2010, 01:55 AM
    Aurora and DARKEYED9,
    Be patient. Finish high school and get some college education. Get your family to pay for it if you can. Or learn a skill which pays well. Talk to some job counselors in YWCA or some college etc. It may take some time but you need to prepare yourself for independence. Don't do something out of anger or panic.

    वासुदैव कुटुम्बकम्
    Entire World is One Family
    سارا سنسار ايک پريوار ہے
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #19 - August 04, 2010, 03:21 AM
    independence above all.  Without the ability to support oneself you will always be at the mercy of someone else's whims. 
    So once again I'm left with the classic Irish man's dilemma, do I eat the potato or do I let it ferment so I can drink it later?
    My political philosophy below
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwGat4i8pJI&feature=g-vrec
    Just kidding, here are some true heros
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBTgvK6LQqA
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #20 - September 09, 2010, 02:30 PM
    Go to the police in your local area, find out the laws in your country about identity change. That is a start. Email me if you want more information. CJ
    Miss CJ
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #21 - September 09, 2010, 10:12 PM
    Quote from: Ram on August 04, 2010, 01:55 AM
    Aurora and DARKEYED9,
    Be patient. Finish high school and get some college education. Get your family to pay for it if you can. Or learn a skill which pays well. Talk to some job counselors in YWCA or some college etc. It may take some time but you need to prepare yourself for independence. Don't do something out of anger or panic.




    Also. Remember, you can have a job and be independent, but you may or may not, be able to live at the level you were accustomed to as a minor who depended on your parents. You may have to do without some things, like internet when you first start out. But if you care about your independence, you'll go without.
    I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I remain.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #22 - September 09, 2010, 11:20 PM
    My mom is atheist and dad is an agnostic Christian. When I reverted to Islam mom wanted to kick me out. I just tried to keep opinions to myself until the other Muslims got on me to convert them and stir up trouble. They were thankful when I deconverted. I'd say keep it cool until you can support yourself. As Biaxident said you REALLY don't want to do something out of anger because you'll be up shit's creek if you can't afford things. I say finish school, play by the family rules, and start saving now.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #23 - September 09, 2010, 11:33 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on September 09, 2010, 11:20 PM
    My mom is atheist and dad is an agnostic Christian. When I reverted to Islam mom wanted to kick me out. I just tried to keep opinions to myself until the other Muslims got on me to convert them and stir up trouble. They were thankful when I deconverted. I'd say keep it cool until you can support yourself. As Biaxident said you REALLY don't want to do something out of anger because you'll be up shit's creek if you can't afford things. I say finish school, play by the family rules, and start saving now.


    *sigh*

    Can you please not use that word?
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #24 - September 09, 2010, 11:50 PM
    Okay, how about "tricked" into Islam. Sometimes "revert" just rolls off the tongue.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #25 - September 09, 2010, 11:55 PM
    Anything else is fine. Islam assumes the high ground with its claim that it is the original religion therefore you are not "converting" but rather "reverting". Nice tactic.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #26 - September 10, 2010, 12:14 AM
    Haha, yes. Every other religion is a conversion, this is a reversion. Cult tactic? I'd think so.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #27 - September 13, 2010, 08:59 AM


    escape? to give you my story:


    I did not escape, i live in the same city as my family, the country i live in as many many muslims almost 3 million. I realised you cannot escape. i married my hubby when i was 28 years, some of my family understood and accepted some have not, that is their choice. I Just live my life, focus on what is important. If  you start escaping you will end up escaping all your life. Tell your family of your decision, if you fear they will kill you then you will have to take other actions, if you think they will not harm you then stay and live your life. i am strong woman, like ayan hirsi, i fear no one.
  • Re: Ex-Muslim women... how did you escape?
     Reply #28 - November 22, 2010, 08:26 AM
    Good advice, its is important for both you girls to be come independent, i know it is not easy especially if you come from a strict muslim family that wants you be dependant. i am a 30 yr old ex muslim woman married to a agnostic husband, i have tried to be self sufficient as much as possible, when i married my non believing husband, my father clearly made it clear that whatever happens in my marriage, i should not run to him, i am entirely on my own. I have under graduate degree and going to do my masters next year. Try as much as possible to keep your 'ex muslim status' to your self.

    I hope you will take my advice.... get a college degree, get a job or start a business, save  your money, make sure you have enough to keep you going for atleast a year. your both young dont play with fire at this time. Make sure you get your act straight.
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