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  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #90 - June 23, 2010, 10:57 PM
    Facebook bores me. Too many unnecessary news feed stories (i.e. I really don't need to hear that 10 minutes ago you were having dinner with your boyfriend  Cheesy) and I am the type who doesn't like to show off photos of her personal life, etc.

    No offense to those who use facebook though. To each his/her own  grin12
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #91 - June 23, 2010, 11:01 PM
    Quote from: wizzie on June 23, 2010, 10:47 PM
    Wait that guy who was part of your life 5 years plus..was he an ex boyfriend or ex best friend? *Confused*


    Ex-best friend but i put dumped in quotations marks to refer to how it felt for me. I think I'm probably done having best friends for now.
    "The ideal tyranny is that which is ignorantly self-administered by its victims. The most perfect slaves are, therefore, those which blissfully and unawaredly enslave themselves."
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #92 - June 23, 2010, 11:13 PM
    Awww :( Don't give up.

    Back in college, I had a female ex best friend, we used to share so much but she always manipulated me, deceived me and even backstabbed me when I least expected it. She liked being the centre of attention and hated it if anyone stole it from her. We were friends for a year plus.

    Now when I study in UK, I've gotten another female best friend. She is amazing, she made me a more humble person in my life and unexpectedly I feel thankful that I'm not close to my female ex best friend anymore. If I was still close to my female ex best friend at this stage of my life, I would probably still be stuck being the old me.

    Sometimes there are reasons why some people are not in our lives and we discover those reasons much later than we expected.
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #93 - June 23, 2010, 11:21 PM
    Very true. I guess the experience does make your wiser but I'm just trying my best to forget about it, granted this whole thing happened a couple of months ago so i will take time but I feel I have moved on a lot from it. I would prefer we never bump into each other again - it's a small world. I do agree with what you mentioned, there is a reason why he is no longer in my life.


    Well I still got this place and a few friends that I hang out with but no one close.
    "The ideal tyranny is that which is ignorantly self-administered by its victims. The most perfect slaves are, therefore, those which blissfully and unawaredly enslave themselves."
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #94 - June 23, 2010, 11:35 PM
    Yeah life's just like that. Sometimes you don't know the reasons until much later. Sometimes you suddenly wake up and unexpectedly feel grateful that it happened.

    Like me, when I found my female best friend as we study in UK together, I am thankful that she's not at all like my old friends. She taught me to be more humble and to be less self centered. (I'll give my female best friend the nickname 'Maria')

    I was crushed when my female ex best friend back in college cut me out of her life. (I'll give my female ex best friend the nickname 'Lisa' *all real names are kept secret to protect identity*)

     My mum used to tell me that Lisa has a crush on a guy who has a crush on me (she could tell, I guess) but I never took it seriously. Well that particular guy is good looking but he's very arrogant (I dislike arrogance. once a guy displays any aspect of ego centric personality i dislike, i would be turned off REGARDLESS of his looks and other qualities) Anyway Lisa kept talking bad about this particular arrogant but good looking guy to me, and being the 'best friend' I believed her I suppose. My mum told me Lisa was only doing that to keep a distance between me and the guy, I did not take my mum seriously at that time. Plus, I never know what is the big deal because even though the guy showed interest in me, I was not at all interested in him. I was in a relationship with my first love at that time.

    Anyway when I went overseas for a while for a vacation, I was surprised to find out via a social networking site that Lisa went out with that guy. I was naive a long time ago, I thought she really disliked him. I tried to contact her, to see how she was doing, but she didn't return any of my messages at that time. I was wondering,''what's wrong?''

    Then I got into a fight with her. I got angry because Lisa got herself involved in a relationship with this other guy she didn't really like but she couldn't be direct with him. And he was being a fake friend to me (As in, I felt he was only friends with me to get information about her etc). I scolded Lisa and told her that she should be more upfront with guys. Ever since that, she really started cutting me out of her life ALL OF A SUDDEN. Suddenly there were no more photos of me and her on her social networking sites etc, she never contacted me again. it was sudden.

    I was crushed because I was lost at that time. Later in life, I lost my first love and my so-called 'best friend' wasn't there.

    But when I get to study in UK, I got to know Maria and I have changed a lot. I am thankful that I am close to her instead, she's been with me through all of the hardest times in my life. She's definitely helped in changing me to be a hundred times the better person.

    Recently I just snooped on Lisa's facebook, and I saw that she still kept her old, bitchy attitude after all these years. And I feel thankful that in she cut me out of her life and that I am no longer close to her. It was a blessing in disguise.

  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #95 - June 23, 2010, 11:48 PM
    Ye, I am happy for you in that you managed to pick yourself up from what happened and find a new best friend who genuinely understood you and had a positive effect on you. Hopefully I meet someone like that when i go to study university, I wouldn't put my money on it happening, though. Like I said, I am grateful to have this site too because here at least, I have found people who understand and listen to me and actually have a positive effect on me, both intellectually and emotionally. I have grown wiser being here, truly.
    "The ideal tyranny is that which is ignorantly self-administered by its victims. The most perfect slaves are, therefore, those which blissfully and unawaredly enslave themselves."
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #96 - June 24, 2010, 12:04 AM
    Did I make you feel better? Sorry I thought maybe I was talking about myself too much heh.

    That's good that you've found people here on this site who've helped you emotionally and intellectually. I came here to sympathize with others when they need it (and at the same time talk about some of my personal stuff under the safe cloak of anonymity lol)

    Maybe it's also time for you to rediscover all the good things about yourself. Remind yourself of the good things about you that he didn't appreciate.
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #97 - June 24, 2010, 12:06 AM
    Nah, it's good to share experiences and know that I am not alone in what I feel.  Smiley
    "The ideal tyranny is that which is ignorantly self-administered by its victims. The most perfect slaves are, therefore, those which blissfully and unawaredly enslave themselves."
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #98 - June 24, 2010, 12:24 AM
    Quote from: wizzie on June 24, 2010, 12:04 AM
    Did I make you feel better? Sorry I thought maybe I was talking about myself too much heh.

    That's good that you've found people here on this site who've helped you emotionally and intellectually. I came here to sympathize with others when they need it (and at the same time talk about some of my personal stuff under the safe cloak of anonymity lol)

    Maybe it's also time for you to rediscover all the good things about yourself. Remind yourself of the good things about you that he didn't appreciate.


    Hey sorry i posted that gif it was just i joke but know that I think about it...it seems really insensitive. I apologize and I hope you didn't take it the wrong way.
    I'm an asshat.
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #99 - June 24, 2010, 12:31 AM
    It's alright.

    I apologize if I talk too much about myself, oh well nobody knows who I am anyway Cheesy

    Btw, I am a Muslim, but I still hope I am welcome here at some point so far.
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #100 - June 24, 2010, 12:37 AM
    ok cool cause I felt bad there for a minute

    I'm an asshat.
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #101 - June 24, 2010, 02:14 AM
    I don't know why I'm posting here of all places, maybe it's because I feel too lost right now and because nobody knows who I am in this forum.
     
    Dear first love, I can't stop thinking of you tonight. When I go back to my home country and meet you again, should I ask you to marry me? (I don't even know what's your relationship status now heh I wonder if you're married). That would be stupid, irrational and sudden after years of being apart. You might call me crazy.

    But there's also this other guy in my life, I care about him and I know he cares about me, even though things are hard and complicated between us. I sense the hurt in his heart sometimes, and it hurts me a lot. He was a best friend to me too. If I stopped waiting for him and run off to you, I don't know if I'll ever get another chance with him again. Last time when I left him for someone else, I almost lost him permanently and I don't think I can go through that again. I just don't know now, I'm stuck again.

    ____________________________________________________________

    I am not asking for advice here, just filling the empty void with my confused, private thoughts.
  • Re: Who can't you forget?
     Reply #102 - June 24, 2010, 10:08 AM
    Quote from: wizzie on June 23, 2010, 10:06 PM
    You're serious?

    I am sorry to hear that =( I hope you feel okay and supported here.




    I am, but it's really no big deal. I don't think I'm traumatized by it. It happened about twenty years ago, it was a guy I didn't know (I guess it was my father's fault for being distracted and not cautious enough, but I don't resent him for that, not at all) and it's not like he raped me. I guess I used to repress those memories for many, many years, until fairly recently, when I started thinking about it more and more, but it's not something that will drive me to suicide or drugs.
    He's no friend to the friendless
    And he's the mother of grief
    There's only sorrow for tomorrow
    Surely life is too brief
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #103 - July 31, 2016, 02:49 PM
    -The girl in preschool who used to steal my lunch and threaten me with her fists.

    I do not miss her but will never forget her face lol

    - My childhood friends. They were the first friends that I ever called my best friends.

    But I had to move out so I never saw or heard from them again.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #104 - July 31, 2016, 03:39 PM
    my beautiful father. Never raised his voice at us or laid a hand on us. I miss him badly.

    always there for us. and he would do anything for anyone. always ready to help.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #105 - August 01, 2016, 01:52 AM
    The people who were kind to me when I was small. Who asked me questions about my preferences, myself. I don´t even remember some of their names any longer, but I remember how they made me feel.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #106 - August 01, 2016, 02:27 AM
    My first love. Corny as it sounds.

    The girl that I talked to online for 10 months and never once met.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #107 - August 02, 2016, 03:03 PM
    Aah yes, the girl at secondary school who I had a massive crush on but didn't have a clue how to handle my feelings. I'll never forget when she came over and pecked me on the cheek one Christmas. Eh hem.. that we were in our classroom after lunch, waiting for class to start, and that she did the same to the other boys sat round the same table, I try to forget. It was probably a dare or something. Still it was my first kiss  dance
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #108 - August 02, 2016, 03:34 PM
    Quote from: zoomi on June 22, 2010, 04:29 AM
    Everyone.


    This. Unfortunately.

    Everyone who touches my life seems to have a permanent space in my memory bank. Ech.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #109 - August 03, 2016, 01:52 AM
    I understand that. It gets harder. Eventually you run into people from high school who clearly never missed you in the sentimentally sloppy way that you have missed them all these years. Because they missed you not at all.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #110 - August 03, 2016, 03:27 AM
    I don't forget people, but I'm too used to separation to miss people. I usually miss someone for a while then my feelings evaporate.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #111 - August 03, 2016, 09:10 AM
    Memory is the source of all suffering...
    No free mixing of the sexes is permitted on these forums or via PM or the various chat groups that are operating.

    Women must write modestly and all men must lower their case.

    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?425649-Have-some-Hayaa-%28modesty-shame%29-people!
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #112 - August 03, 2016, 12:21 PM
    Quote from: three on August 03, 2016, 01:52 AM
    I understand that. It gets harder. Eventually you run into people from high school who clearly never missed you in the sentimentally sloppy way that you have missed them all these years. Because they missed you not at all.


    No  I definitely dont miss that nazi kid from elementary and middle school.

    Why did we end up in the same class?  finmad

    Nor do I miss the bullies from middle school.


    But my memory just likes keeping these files stacked up somewhere.

    Now that I remember, I cant forget the teacher who hit me with the wooden stick  Cry   (this was in Pakistan lol)

    Quote from: Absurdist on August 03, 2016, 03:27 AM
    I don't forget people, but I'm too used to separation to miss people. I usually miss someone for a while then my feelings evaporate.


    Same. I feel it's better to move on.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #113 - August 03, 2016, 12:43 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on August 03, 2016, 12:21 PM
    .............  finmad

    Nor do I miss the bullies from middle school.


    But my memory just likes keeping these files stacked up somewhere.

    Now that I remember, I cant forget the teacher who hit me with the wooden stick  Cry   (this was in Pakistan lol)

    Same. I feel it's better to move on.


    don't lie to me.  ,you were also a  teasing bully in your primary school
    Do not let silence become your legacy.. Question everything   
    I renounced my faith to become a kafir, 
    the beloved betrayed me and turned in to  a Muslim     
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #114 - August 03, 2016, 12:45 PM
    Quote from: three on August 03, 2016, 01:52 AM
    I understand that. It gets harder. Eventually you run into people from high school who clearly never missed you in the sentimentally sloppy way that you have missed them all these years. Because they missed you not at all.


    Eh, I don't really miss many people from that long ago. But I just can't forget that they existed and and had some sort of influence on my life.

    Harder to forget the ones that sucked, in all honesty. Although I suppose there were just as many, if not more who were good or neutral.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #115 - August 03, 2016, 12:47 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on August 03, 2016, 12:21 PM
    Nor do I miss the bullies from middle school.


    I miss no longer having the chance to kick their ass.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #116 - August 03, 2016, 01:08 PM
    Quote from: yeezevee on August 03, 2016, 12:43 PM
    don't lie to me.  ,you were also a  teasing bully in your primary school


    I guess sometimes you have to put up with the unfairness.

    AFAICR I  was never a bully.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #117 - August 03, 2016, 01:09 PM
    Quote from: asbie on August 03, 2016, 12:47 PM
    I miss no longer having the chance to kick their ass.


    Life is too short to care about some bratty, spoilt kids.  Tongue

  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #118 - August 03, 2016, 05:08 PM
    I loved it when everyone got Facebook and all the people who used to bully me decided to add me. Pressing the rejection button felt sweet.
  • Who can't you forget?
     Reply #119 - August 03, 2016, 05:08 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on August 03, 2016, 01:09 PM
    Life is too short to care about some bratty, spoilt kids.  Tongue


    On the contrary, life is not long enough for me to plot their suitable revenge.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
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