In any case these two are minor issues. You need to show me hadith where it shows she had menses.
I have been unable to find a hadith where aisha literally says "and then I had my menses" but I think everybody knows that this is the cultural practice of the arabs at the time. Even the extreme critics don't try and suggest Muhammad had intercourse with her before her menses.
Abu bakr gave permission for her to be married The fact that aisha's own mother prepared her for the marriage show that there was no problem with the marriage. If there was a problem, the Muslims would have questioned him (as they did with his marriage to zaynab) let alone his enemies using this to attack him.
Also there is evidence from the quran
Such of your women as have passed the age of monthly courses, for them the prescribed period, if ye have any doubts, is three months, and for those who have no courses (it is the same): for those who carry (life within their wombs), their period is until they deliver their burdens: and for those who fear Allah, He will make their path easy.
This shows that women are not to be married until they have had their courses. The part of that ayah that refers to women who have no courses is those that menopausal.
Now as for the points you mentioned.
1. her hair falling out.
The hadith clearly shows that this was due to illness and it would be unfair to suggest otherwise. It was merely a factual account of events that happened in the 3 years of the engagement. (she was also engaged to someone else before Muhammad as well)
2. the hyperventilation
Once again this had nothing to do with the marriage if we look at the wording of the hadith. Her mother grabbed her by the hand and Aisha said herself she had no idea why. This caused her to be nervous and hyperventilate (as many others do including stardust)
3. the toys
Does this mean that any girl who has stuffed animals on her bed is not sexually mature?
We need to be fair in our criticisms. I came across this website
http://www.angelfire.com/extreme4/infidels_bunker/other/Wondrous_Treatment_Of_Women_In_Islam.htm and I was just like WTF man. Basically everything said on that site is wrong. We have to avoid looking like the owner of that website at all costs if we want to be taken seriously.
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Here is some quick info I found on the historical practise of child marriage just in case anyone isn't convinced...
Child marriages such as this were relatively common in Bedouin societies at the time, and remain common in some modern societies worldwide.[20] American scholar Colin Turner suggests that such marriages were not seen as improper in historical context, and that individuals in such societies matured at an earlier age than in the modern times.[20] In modern times, however, the issue of Muhammad marrying and having sexual relations with a child so young has been used to criticize him, especially in societies where child sexual abuse and related issues are considered serious crimes. - Colin Turner, Islam: The Basics, Routledge Press, p.34-35
The Baker Ency. of the Bible says about Jewish marriage customs in volume 2, page 1407, under "Marriage": "Subsequently, minimum ages (for marriage) of 13 for boys and 12 for girls were set." And Jim West, ThD, writes online, [at
http://www.theology.edu/marriage.htm], in "Ancient Israelite Marriage Customs": "The wife was to be taken from within the larger family circle (usually at the "outset of puberty" or around the age of 13) in order to maintain the purity of the family line". Even in the Mishnah, the age of maturity for a female is 12.5 years: "she won her case in court before she matured [at the age of twelve years and six months], lo, they belong to the father." Mishnah Ketubot, 4:1. So we see that Jewish culture also allowed young girls to be married at an early age. Not as young as 9, but as young as 12. The beginning of puberty was not the cultural norm for the Jewish culture to allow marriage. I assume marriage was allowed if the girl had her menarche, AND she reached the age of 12. This is superior to Islam's standard. Judaism insists that a girl must be at least 12, Islam allows for marriage following the first menses. I believe that there have been documented cases of girls having menarche as young as 8. So here is the crux of the matter: do I, or anyone else, have the right to reprove Muhammad for instituting an accepted cultural norm as a legally permissible practice? Is it unjust criticism from me (and others) when we say that it is wrong to marry and engage in sex with young girls?
This reflects my statements about 12 year old marriage being common worldwide. Also...
Girls start menstruating at the average age of 12. However, girls can begin menstruating as early as 8 years of age or as late as 16 years of age.
As girls approach their teen years, many changes occur to prepare their bodies for adult life. The body grows taller, forms breasts, and grows hair. Another change prepares the body for pregnancy.
Once the body, brain and womb
are old enough, a monthly bleeding cycle occurs..
http://womens-health.health-cares.net/menstruation-age.php
Topic: Evolution and Morality