But one thing the claim you made about most muslim marriages failing? umm thats a bold statement and I disagree. And im very modern but I still have respect for my parents and ive already caused them a lot of pain I dont want to continually hurt them im not a selfish prick. And if im able to appease my needs and keep my parents happy I will try that before I give up and be sefish and hurt the two people that care for me the most.
It is coming out quiet selfish because you are caring way more for your parents that you are suffocating the girl in it. That's a recipe for disaster.
If you still think your wife needs to get along with your parents. to the level you mentioned, I am sorry to say but your parents have brainwashed you to their own selfishness. And you are coming as mama's boy. Trust me, no girl these days want that.