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  • SEX
     OP - October 11, 2010, 08:31 PM
    If I am a 18 year old virgin who use tto think , I will wait until I am in love but now I do not mind casual sex , should I still not do casual sex until I had given my virginity to somebody I love ?   I do not want to stay a virgin for ever  but would I regret wasting it in casual way ?

    oops 
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    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

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  • Re: SEX
     Reply #1 - October 11, 2010, 08:35 PM
    If you had sex with your hand before, then technically you are not virgin!  whistling2
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  • Re: SEX
     Reply #2 - October 11, 2010, 08:38 PM
    I am female !!  Shocked
    If you would like to know more about me send me a message Smiley

    ___________
    All the kids have always known that the emperor wears no clothes
    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

    (Arcade Fire, Ready to Start)
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #3 - October 11, 2010, 08:50 PM
    At least do it with someone you trust.  Not a rudeboy loser who'll boast about his conquest to his mates.
    .
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #4 - October 11, 2010, 08:58 PM
    I lost my virginity, but I've still got the box it came in.
    Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #5 - October 11, 2010, 09:00 PM
    Quote from: Shahid Raza on October 11, 2010, 08:50 PM
    At least do it with someone you trust.  Not a rudeboy loser who'll boast about his conquest to his mates.


    *HIGH FIVE*

    Man she was screaming my name out and was so wild in bed haha

    Oh wait you said NOT. And loser.
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #6 - October 11, 2010, 09:02 PM
    It is ultimately your decision to make, and only you know best how you feel about it, but personally I would agree Shahid Raza. Don't be with some random person off the street. I'd want my first time to be with someone special.
    Also, personally, I wouldn't really agree with having sex for the sake of having sex, but that's just me and I don't really know much about this. So good luck with whatever path you choose to take. Smiley
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #7 - October 11, 2010, 09:03 PM
    Quote from: laces on October 11, 2010, 08:31 PM
    If I am a 18 year old virgin who use tto think , I will wait until I am in love but now I do not mind casual sex , should I still not do casual sex until I had given my virginity to somebody I love ?   I do not want to stay a virgin for ever  but would I regret wasting it in casual way ?

    oops  


    Yeah, I can relate alot and understand

    I wanted to wait till marriage and "love" but then I realised, I don't want to get married and love seems like a hassle ... but I still want sex. So I'm just going to open myself up to a relationship if it comes but won't deliberately seek it and if I do decide to go down the no relationship/just sex route, it will be with a close friend who I trust and knows what he is doing.
    Blind faith is an ironic gift to return to the Creator of human intelligence

  • Re: SEX
     Reply #8 - October 11, 2010, 09:09 PM
    Hey laces, don't worry about casual sex. The only thing you should be worried about wasting is the chance to have lots of sex while you're still young dance

    Just be responsible about it. Don't rely on your boy toys for protection. Keep your own supply of condoms on you, and get yourself on birth control. Insist on the condoms, too. If he refuses to wear one, think about all the other women he's probably had unprotected sex with. Ew. Don't settle for a trashy guy like that. Let a ladies' man seduce you and pamper you, and go into it just for the fun and the experience. If you expect a commitment out of it, you will likely only be disappointed.

    I'm sure you're nervous about your first time, but if it's with a decent guy who will show you a good time and make you feel comfortable, then the second, third, nth time after that will be easier and much more fun.

    Let us know if you get any good prospects Smiley
    The only thing we have to fear is fear itself
    - 32nd United States President Franklin D. Roosevelt
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #9 - October 11, 2010, 09:10 PM
    Quote from: Ishina on October 11, 2010, 08:58 PM
    I lost my virginity, but I've still got the box it came in.

     Afro
    The only thing we have to fear is fear itself
    - 32nd United States President Franklin D. Roosevelt
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #10 - October 11, 2010, 09:15 PM
    Thank you , Igreatly appreciate the advice , I understand there are many who would not have sex for the sake of it but I am young !  And have raging hormones !   signnvm   Cheesy   although I will have definitely agreed with you some months ago .  I will have to get to know somebody a bit more first but I will tell you when it happens !  Thank you Luthiel for the practical advice
     dance
      Tongue
    If you would like to know more about me send me a message Smiley

    ___________
    All the kids have always known that the emperor wears no clothes
    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

    (Arcade Fire, Ready to Start)
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #11 - October 11, 2010, 09:16 PM
    Quote from: Ishina on October 11, 2010, 08:58 PM
    I lost my virginity, but I've still got the box it came in.


     Grin
    "we can smell traitors and country haters"


    Quote from: arX on May 01, 2011, 03:33 AM
    God is Love.
    Love is Blind. Stevie Wonder is blind. Therefore, Stevie Wonder is God.

  • Re: SEX
     Reply #12 - October 11, 2010, 09:20 PM
    Quote from: laces on October 11, 2010, 09:15 PM
    although I will have definitely agreed with you some months ago

    Agree with who?
    .
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #13 - October 11, 2010, 09:21 PM

    laces, when you meet someone that you like it will happen naturally. Don't stress about the 'casual' / 'love' side of things. As l
    long as you're not having unprotected sex with multiple partners, all sex is healthy and natural.

     
    "we can smell traitors and country haters"


    Quote from: arX on May 01, 2011, 03:33 AM
    God is Love.
    Love is Blind. Stevie Wonder is blind. Therefore, Stevie Wonder is God.

  • Re: SEX
     Reply #14 - October 11, 2010, 09:23 PM
    Lassan becuase they said they would not have sex just for the sake of having sex .  Smiley
    Billy thank you for your input , I like seeing this differnt points of view  thnkyu  although to me the majority of sex would always be linked with romance relationships ?
    If you would like to know more about me send me a message Smiley

    ___________
    All the kids have always known that the emperor wears no clothes
    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

    (Arcade Fire, Ready to Start)
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #15 - October 11, 2010, 09:25 PM
    Yeah, make sure he is clean and everything.
    Another reason why it is good to choose a close friend/or someone who you know alot about (e.g. their sexual history)
    Blind faith is an ironic gift to return to the Creator of human intelligence

  • Re: SEX
     Reply #16 - October 11, 2010, 09:30 PM
    Quote from: laces on October 11, 2010, 09:23 PM

    Billy thank you for your input , I like seeing this differnt points of view  thnkyu  although to me the majority of sex would always be linked with romance relationships ?


    Yes, of course, and thats great. And when you do get with someone, and you are attracted to each other, it happens naturally.


    "we can smell traitors and country haters"


    Quote from: arX on May 01, 2011, 03:33 AM
    God is Love.
    Love is Blind. Stevie Wonder is blind. Therefore, Stevie Wonder is God.

  • Re: SEX
     Reply #17 - October 11, 2010, 09:38 PM
    Quote from: laces on October 11, 2010, 08:38 PM
    I am female !!  Shocked


    So? Never masturbated?

    Anyways, I wad just teasing you.... Welcome to the forums. parrot





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  • Re: SEX
     Reply #18 - October 11, 2010, 09:46 PM
    Thank you Loki , yes I would definitely make sure I would not get STDs , very aware about them especially after receiving many leaflets from college   cool2  I would be sure to be protected  Afro
     Smiley Thank you billy
    RIBS  Cheesy signnvm   but I would not have called that having sex with my hand !  Oh this is embarrassing  lipsrsealed   hahaha thank you parrot
    If you would like to know more about me send me a message Smiley

    ___________
    All the kids have always known that the emperor wears no clothes
    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

    (Arcade Fire, Ready to Start)
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #19 - October 11, 2010, 09:47 PM
    I'm an 18 year old virgin (19 in a few days).
    I'm not ashamed to say that im a virgin.
    I don't want to have sex yet. I want to find the perfect guy, I found one, but he turned out to be pretty emotionally abusive. I'm really glad I didnt lose my virginity to him.
    Its not only that, there are several reasons why I dont wanna go around having sex.

    First off, you never know how much the opposite sex has had sex, or if s/he has an STD or anything.
    And I dont think people would stop in the midst of the heat to tell you that they have an STD lol
    Also, preganancies happen because of that. And of course, abortions (which I am totally against, unless under certain situations).

    Secondly, a lot of guys (and girls) only want sex from you.
    There are guy (again, and girls) who "hit" and run.
    The result? A broken heart and being taken advantage of.
    The perfect guy would be patient, and respect ur wishing.
    In order to see if hes the one, you have to see if he's willing to wait.

    I still havent found the right guy yet.
    and if he comes around.. I'll think about it.
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #20 - October 11, 2010, 09:58 PM
    I do see where you are coming from , but I do not think I would suffer heartbreak if I was going out looking for a no ties , sex-only relationshoip ?  For STDs and pregnancies well I would never have sex without condoms .  It is your own decision but for the moment being I am just lookng to get laid  whistling2
    signnvm
    If you would like to know more about me send me a message Smiley

    ___________
    All the kids have always known that the emperor wears no clothes
    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

    (Arcade Fire, Ready to Start)
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #21 - October 11, 2010, 10:04 PM
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bhuYIr1J1zc&feature=youtube_gdata_player
    ...
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #22 - October 11, 2010, 10:16 PM
    Quote from: Loki on October 11, 2010, 09:03 PM
    I wanted to wait till marriage and "love" but then I realised, I don't want to get married and love seems like a hassle ... but I still want sex. So I'm just going to open myself up to a relationship if it comes but won't deliberately seek it and if I do decide to go down the no relationship/just sex route, it will be with a close friend who I trust and knows what he is doing.


    This is my position too.

    I have a lot of issues with sexuality though, especially with casual sex although I don't judge people who engage in it. Not the whole waiting for marriage stuff, because I don't believe in marriage, but more because I believe that judging another person's value solely based on their appearance is wrong, which is what casual sex comes down to. I have self-esteem issues too - I'm an overly insecure girl - so having sex with someone who doesn't care much about me is a terrible thought for me.
    "He hoped and prayed that there wasn't an afterlife. Then he realized there was a contradiction involved here and merely hoped that there wasn't an afterlife."
    ~ Douglas Adams
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #23 - October 11, 2010, 10:29 PM
    RIBS WTF is that , it si going to give me nightmares !   Cry Cheesy
    Lukatic yeah I don't believe in marriage either and trust me I have lots of issues with my image too , I know I am saying I don't mind to have sex now , just for fun but I probably to be honest would not recommend it to others  wacko
    I disagree that casual sex is about looks , I would probably not go for casual sex based on looks , it would be just like doing each other a favour I think ?  Like if you both want sex and you can both give sex then give it to each other  Smiley
    It use to be for me all about just to prove loving somebody but I must have changed and not realised  Tongue
    If you would like to know more about me send me a message Smiley

    ___________
    All the kids have always known that the emperor wears no clothes
    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

    (Arcade Fire, Ready to Start)
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #24 - October 11, 2010, 10:53 PM
    Quote from: laces on October 11, 2010, 10:29 PM
    I disagree that casual sex is about looks , I would probably not go for casual sex based on looks , it would be just like doing each other a favour I think ?  Like if you both want sex and you can both give sex then give it to each other  Smiley


    So you'd have sex with someone you think is physically ugly?
    "He hoped and prayed that there wasn't an afterlife. Then he realized there was a contradiction involved here and merely hoped that there wasn't an afterlife."
    ~ Douglas Adams
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #25 - October 11, 2010, 11:07 PM
    If they are nice enough yes  Smiley    Looks do help lol but I guess how good theyare in the sack is what matters when it comes to casual sex  Tongue  ?
    If you would like to know more about me send me a message Smiley

    ___________
    All the kids have always known that the emperor wears no clothes
    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

    (Arcade Fire, Ready to Start)
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #26 - October 11, 2010, 11:19 PM
    Quote from: laces on October 11, 2010, 08:31 PM
    If I am a 18 year old virgin who use tto think , I will wait until I am in love but now I do not mind casual sex , should I still not do casual sex until I had given my virginity to somebody I love ?   I do not want to stay a virgin for ever  but would I regret wasting it in casual way ?

    oops  


    if only i live close by.....
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  • Re: SEX
     Reply #27 - October 11, 2010, 11:27 PM
    Well my motto is "Do it but don't regret it ".
     Smiley

    Good luck
    Confucius:
    "What you do not like done to yourself, do not unto others."
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #28 - October 11, 2010, 11:48 PM
    Quote from: laces on October 11, 2010, 11:07 PM
    If they are nice enough yes  Smiley    Looks do help lol but I guess how good theyare in the sack is what matters when it comes to casual sex  Tongue  ?



    Well, I assume by casual sex, it means someone you don't know very well, and most often than not, it's their looks that first attract us to strangers. And how about someone you find revoltingly ugly to get into bed with? If he was a stranger, I'd find it very hard to have sex with someone I find repulsively ugly. Don't you think it's quite unfair to treat someone differently because of their looks? I have less qualms about casual sex with someone I've gotten to know as a person.

    But anyways, don't take this wrongly, this is just my belief. Good luck with your sex conquests if that's what you're looking after right now. Don't forget to tell us the juicy bits. Tongue
    "He hoped and prayed that there wasn't an afterlife. Then he realized there was a contradiction involved here and merely hoped that there wasn't an afterlife."
    ~ Douglas Adams
  • Re: SEX
     Reply #29 - October 12, 2010, 02:58 AM
     Cheesy Najia Infidel , I don't know , I wouldn't be comfortable to have sex with another ex-Muslim  wacko
    Thank you tabun
    Lukatic your point is a very good one , it seems I would not have casual sex in one meaning on the word ? I would not sleep with a completely stranger , it would have to be somebody that I know , only difference is they are not my bf  Smiley
    Hahaha thank you but I have got to find somebody to sleep with me first  Cheesy (that doesn't sound depsrate at all ) Tongue
    If you would like to know more about me send me a message Smiley

    ___________
    All the kids have always known that the emperor wears no clothes
    But they bow down to him anyway
    It's easier than being alone.

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