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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #120 - October 23, 2010, 01:34 AM
    I know a sexual man won't adapt to me because it's like him thinking I'll adapt to him, but I won't. It just creates unneccasary tension.

    Haha, Maya, I like your suggestion. Gay guys are cool. Gay guys and guys with girlfriends are my best friends. Cheesy

    I go to the doctor on the 11th for hypothyroid. I'm sorta scared.
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #121 - October 23, 2010, 01:36 AM
    Quote from: Maya on October 23, 2010, 01:32 AM
    This is hopeless. Get a gay man, he should suit you just fine.  Afro

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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #122 - October 23, 2010, 01:37 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 01:34 AM
    I know a sexual man won't adapt to me because it's like him thinking I'll adapt to him, but I won't.

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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #123 - October 23, 2010, 01:37 AM
    And a gay man wouldn't date me, obviously. I could be friends with gay men.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #124 - October 23, 2010, 01:40 AM
    unfortunately for you, asexuality and misogyny are correlated. will be very hard to find someone who has low sex drive and yet loves and cares.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #125 - October 23, 2010, 01:40 AM
    Wait, people with a low sex drive are misogynistic?
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #126 - October 23, 2010, 01:42 AM
    i have a sample size of 2 Cheesy
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #127 - October 23, 2010, 01:43 AM
    Ohh, lol. Well, right now my possible hypothyroidism is concerning me.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #128 - October 23, 2010, 01:47 AM
    Not only my asexuality is a turn off, but all my health issues are too.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #129 - October 23, 2010, 03:08 AM
    DID NO ONE GET THE JOKE, I'M ASSEXUAL!!!!

    Okay so this is not the drunk thread.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #130 - October 23, 2010, 08:15 AM
    PB, i think it will be hard for you to find any guy like the one you are describing.

    And theres another thing... The picture you describe of sex in this thread is really demonising the whole thing.

    Sure, there are deseases... But only a handfull is really dangerous. Use Condoms and its all fine.

    And sure, with condoms its not the same as without. But they are useful when you want to...well.. have sex with people you dont know that well. Or with someone you just started a relationship with.

    Its okay if you are asexual... but men are just programmed to have sex, much more then women. there may be asexual men... but honestly, i dont think youll find a careing, loving, cute, guy that is asexual.

    And theres another thing. Just because a women likes to have sex with many partners doesnt make her a bad or a lesser person. Its their choice. When a man sleeps with a lot of women hes high fived by his friends... if a women does the same with lots of men, shes a slut. Thats the mother of all double standards if you ask me.

    Its fine that you dont want to have sex, but dont judge people because of the sexlife they chose for themselfes.

    "We are never deceived, we deceive ourselves." - from Goethes Faust
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #131 - October 23, 2010, 11:04 AM
    LMAO! This thread is comedy gold.

    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 22, 2010, 11:19 PM
    This is true. Most women I know could care less about sex. It's mostly the man thing. Hence why I hate guys sometimes. Why can't you guys control yourselves?


    That’s just what women tell you to make you feel better about yourself.

    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:13 AM
    The control issue? I can't answer because I control myself, but I'm not a slut either. I think some girls can't control themselves is because they want the attention and love.


    I want attention and love. In list of everything I want, love and attention are near the top. I manage to control myself.

    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:22 AM
    A person who is sexually premiscuous must not like herself if she's looking for it in one night stands.


    I fucked around. And I fucking LOVE myself.

    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:42 AM
    Slut is anyone who sleeps with more than 10 people in a year. Also, someone you would hire for services...


    Cool! Do I get a T-Shirt?

    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:26 AM
    I didn't say a bad person, they're just sluts. I don't agree with their lifestyle. I think a person only having one night stands are at risk for diseases. I'm also sure the guys she sleeps with night after night don't respect her either. Why would someone want to disrespect themselves? I dunno, to me loose isn't good, but neither is prudish. I do believe in temperance. And most girls I knew who were known for sleeping around with multiple men were generally unhappy and hated themselves. I mean I don't think sex is bad, but I think you really need to be careful with the diseases out there.


    Ok, thanks for the sex advice, virgin.

    Do you have a newsletter I could subscribe to?
    Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #132 - October 23, 2010, 11:25 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 22, 2010, 11:19 PM
    This is true. Most women I know could care less about sex. It's mostly the man thing. Hence why I hate guys sometimes. Why can't you guys control yourselves?

    Quote
    Slut is anyone who sleeps with more than 10 people in a year. Also, someone you would hire for services...

    I can see what you saw in Islam & why you converted to it. 

    Shame you still hold uphold those Abrahmic social values, make you feel better about your assexuality & gives you the moral highground right?
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #133 - October 23, 2010, 11:35 AM
    Good luck on finding a guy that doesn't want to have sex.........You're going to need it.
    19:46   <zizo>: hugs could pimp u into sex

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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #134 - October 23, 2010, 01:33 PM
    Quote from: IsLame on October 23, 2010, 11:25 AM
    I can see what you saw in Islam & why you converted to it. 

    Shame you still hold uphold those Abrahmic social values, make you feel better about your assexuality & gives you the moral highground right?


    I'm sorry, I just don't see sex as something that should be given freely. I think it should be done with someone you truly love after all it is a big part of whom you are. I don't understand sex for recreation with multiple people. How could something be done without love? It's not the whole Abrahamic social value thing, I just am very careful about my body and I wouldn't give my body to someone I felt no love for. Then again, I do value sex until marriage. But, I'm not getting married, so taking a life of celibacy doesn't bother me.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #135 - October 23, 2010, 01:34 PM
    Quote from: GodIsNotGreat on October 23, 2010, 11:35 AM
    Good luck on finding a guy that doesn't want to have sex.........You're going to need it.


    I give up on guys. Thinking about it, maybe I'm not attracting to guys. But, I'm not attracted to females either. Is this possible?
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #136 - October 23, 2010, 01:40 PM
    Quote from: Ishina on October 23, 2010, 11:04 AM
    LMAO! This thread is comedy gold.

    That’s just what women tell you to make you feel better about yourself.

    I want attention and love. In list of everything I want, love and attention are near the top. I manage to control myself.

    I fucked around. And I fucking LOVE myself.

    Cool! Do I get a T-Shirt?

    Ok, thanks for the sex advice, virgin.

    Do you have a newsletter I could subscribe to?


    We just have differing values. I may be a kafir of all the Abrahamic faiths, but I still revere sex as something done in love and with a special person. I see it more than just recreation. In fact, I can't see sex as a recreation. Then again I don't like something shoved up my vag. I remember one time I tried putting on a tampon and I cried and screamed... didn't like it. So, I don't wear one. I guess maybe I'm just not attracted to men because I don't want them to touch me.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #137 - October 23, 2010, 01:46 PM
    So, you regard sex as something awesome and precious, but you claim to be asexual?

    You must be lying to yourself about something.
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #138 - October 23, 2010, 01:49 PM
    It's not awesome, I find sex disgusting. But, for sexuals, it should be precious.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #139 - October 23, 2010, 01:58 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 01:49 PM
    It's not awesome, I find sex disgusting. But, for sexuals, it should be precious.

    Uhm, and why should it be precious exactly?
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #140 - October 23, 2010, 02:24 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 01:40 PM
    We just have differing values.


    I don't even think you know what your values are.

    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 01:40 PM
    I still revere sex as something done in love and with a special person. I see it more than just recreation. In fact, I can't see sex as a recreation.


    These two things are not mutually exclusive. It is you who are restricting yourself to one of these two possibilities, not me.

    Its the same with anything. Its the same with any activity we enjoy. Its the same with movies for example. I can appreciate dumb-fun, less-cerebral, and casually crude and filthy action or comedy like Zombieland, and also fully appreciate and be wholly, passionately absorbed and swept away in a master class like Apocalypse Now, or admire the sheer technical brilliance of Children of Men.

    These values can be just as easily be applied to different kinds of sex. And different kinds of lovers.
    Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #141 - October 23, 2010, 02:35 PM
    You know what, I'm not arguing about this. I'm asexual, my values are no sex because sex is disgusting. I can't argue it with sexuals because sexuals just don't understand.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #142 - October 23, 2010, 02:41 PM
    This is generally what happens when you start talking about subjects you know nothing about and dont even have an interest in anyway.
    Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #143 - October 23, 2010, 02:43 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 02:35 PM
    You know what, I'm not arguing about this. I'm asexual, my values are no sex because sex is disgusting.

    Out of interest what kind of porn do asexuals watch, or dont they experience sexual arousal at all?
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #144 - October 23, 2010, 02:49 PM
    I don't watch porn because I don't experience any type of arousal. Most don't because we find it disgusting.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #145 - October 23, 2010, 03:20 PM
    Also, when Prince Spinoza asked me all those questions, what was I supposed to do? I think he egged me on.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #146 - October 23, 2010, 03:24 PM
    So now you are blaming others for your answers? And egged you on? You're on a computer, you don't have to answer immediately, if you feel flustered then step away from the keyboard.

    I wish we still had the remove post option, I regret writing.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #147 - October 23, 2010, 03:28 PM
    http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/46927-sexual-husband-asexual-wife/
    I read this article and it gave me hope. The man is a sexual and is married to an asexual. He just looks at porn. Couldn't I do that if I dated a sexual?
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #148 - October 23, 2010, 03:29 PM
    Quote from: BlackDog on October 23, 2010, 03:24 PM
    So now you are blaming others for your answers? And egged you on? You're on a computer, you don't have to answer immediately, if you feel flustered then step away from the keyboard.

    I wish we still had the remove post option, I regret writing.

    Well, I wanted his answer so I answered his question (assuming Prince Spinoza is a guy).
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #149 - October 23, 2010, 03:54 PM
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    I read this article and it gave me hope. The man is a sexual and is married to an asexual. He just looks at porn. Couldn't I do that if I dated a sexual?


    I can tell you right here, right now that this wont work. As a man who has sex on almost a daily basis, i still masturbate regularly, with or without porn.

    Masturbation cant replace sex. But its good to relax or release sexual tension. (say when you meet a hot women and you need to blow off some steam afterwards  Afro)

    On the other hand, i cant possibly imagine how it is to be asexual. But i guess, to have good sex, you need to like body fluids, sweat and these things. Getting a bit naughty and dirty is part of the fun. (recently i get a kick out of sextalk  dance)

    Sex can or cant be about love. It can just be two people, covered in sweat, expiriencing exctatic moments together without ever seeing eachother again.

    The other thing is... men are not good at seperating sex and love. If you want a man to be near you in a spiritual and intellectual way, you can count on it that he wants you to drop your panties sooner or later.

    But i wonder, why exactly do you think sex is disgusting? Im just courious. Whats so disgusting about it? (the deseases you are so paranoid about aside) I mean, there has to be a reason you got a football player as avatar, right?



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