ok, i will show, but i will cut out his email from it...
first one from him:
assalamoallaikum brother.
I myself am a brother and not a sister. I have given cogent arguments to them but they try to pluck out an inconsistency that doesnt exist out of their own ignorance. I seriously believe brother you are wasting your time - there are other sites such as TSR where you can guide people who arent narrow-minded.
Here is my email: imran.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx@gmail.com
I want you to join TSR - there is a muslim community there - and we help each other out as well as learn more about islam and answer questions from non-muslims about islam occasionally.
Please email me and join and I will explain the wives issue some of which I posted parts to as well.
my reply:
hi brother imran,thanks for getting in touch,i will join that site in a few days,but will you like to explain to me the issue about the wives?
his reply:
This link explains it clearly:
http://www.answering-christianity.com/polygamy.htmIn short, polygamy is not endorsed but it is accepted in islam. Alot of the reasons included when men had to go to war and some died - some women had no income because they couldnt have a job and look after their children - so they relied on a new husband - some of which were already married.
But the link explains more reasons and in better.
my reply:
brother those reasons are true,but surely the fact that men have a higher sex drive is also taken into consideration there as long as a man can provide for them?for example this is a hadith about the holy prophet pbuh:
Narrated Qatada:
Anas bin Malik said, "The Prophet used to visit all his wives in a round, during the day and night and they were eleven in number." I asked Anas, "Had the Prophet the strength for it?" Anas replied, "We used to say that the Prophet was given the strength of thirty (men)."
this from Sahih Bukhari- Volume 1, Book 5, Number 268
his reply:
no alsaeem. Once you marry more than one wife it is your duty to give them each the same amount of love and attention.
my reply:
of course you can give them same love,but sexually its possible to take turns,holy prophet pbuh also did turns with his wife,it is sunnat
after that he didnt answer me....