To be a Hijabi or not?

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To be a Hijabi or not?
OP - May 22, 2011, 04:02 PM

Ugh. I just saw a comic thing showing a White stereotypical woman trying to pull a hijab off of a muslimah. What. The. Rainbows. So a question for ex-muslims out there; did you, or your sister/wife/female friend wear hijab (Or niqab, jilbab, etc)? And did they like wearing it?

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Reply #1 - May 22, 2011, 04:20 PM

Mother wears the hijab as a daily dress code outside the house, very embarrassing at awards evening... remembering one time my friend joked 'why have you hired a ninja?'. Sister wears it when my mum is around outside, otherwise she hates that stuff.

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Reply #2 - May 22, 2011, 04:26 PM

Once, when I was eleven, I decided to wear the hijab throughout Ramadan. It was crap.
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My mum and plenty other female relatives are hijabis and they complain about it CONSTANTLY but only one has decided to stop wearing it. Her husband and children are all closet apostates though.
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Reply #3 - May 22, 2011, 05:09 PM

I wore hijab off and on in elementary and middle school since I went to an Islamic school. I started wearing it full time in high school and all the way up to my second year in college. I despise the hijab. Not because of its limiting sartorial ability, nor the slight loss of hair when wearing it, nor the fact that it doubles the heat I have to deal with in a hot, humid climate. I hate it because it's somehow become a measuring stick of piety or modesty. It pains me to hear women cluck their tongues at you if you're not up to their particular standards of what proper hijab is. That people make it into some kind of liberating practice when it's really only the result of parental indoctrination and peer pressure muddled into spirituality. And then there are the hijabi victims, oh gosh. The ones who claim that it's okay for nuns to wear head coverings (habits) and not be chastised, blah, blah, blah. They don't realize that nuns have given up everything worldly and devoted themselves to god. It's just a silly game that women practice to show off more than others, I think. My opinion is mostly rooted in the fact that people don't bother to translate it the verse accordingly and I guess people don't have a problem band wagoning as long as they find some kind of benefit from it.

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Reply #4 - May 22, 2011, 05:14 PM

I've been wearing it since I was 11. I went to a basically all-white elementary school and got stares from my teachers...oddly enough the kids were more understanding. I still wear it and only take it off in places I know I won't run into anyone.
I guess since I've been wearing it so long I am really used to it. I wish I didn't have to wear it and I'm really scared to take it off and tell my mother.

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Reply #5 - May 22, 2011, 06:17 PM

Quote from: SunbulRocket on May 22, 2011, 04:26 PM
Once, when I was eleven, I decided to wear the hijab throughout Ramadan. It was crap.
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My mum and plenty other female relatives are hijabis and they complain about it CONSTANTLY but only one has decided to stop wearing it. Her husband and children are all closet apostates though.

Quote from: The Wyre on May 22, 2011, 05:09 PM
I hate it because it's somehow become a measuring stick of piety or modesty. It pains me to hear women cluck their tongues at you if you're not up to their particular standards of what proper hijab is. That people make it into some kind of liberating practice when it's really only the result of parental indoctrination and peer pressure muddled into spirituality. And then there are the hijabi victims, oh gosh. The ones who claim that it's okay for nuns to wear head coverings (habits) and not be chastised, blah, blah, blah. They don't realize that nuns have given up everything worldly and devoted themselves to god. It's just a silly game that women practice to show off more than others, I think. My opinion is mostly rooted in the fact that people don't bother to translate it the verse accordingly and I guess people don't have a problem band wagoning as long as they find some kind of benefit from it.

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Reply #6 - May 22, 2011, 09:18 PM

You poor girl Lara.

I live near Bradford and there are lots of girls walking around with headscarves there. The thing is, IMO, the ones that are truly gorgeous, manage to emanate this vibe strongly, despite what they are wearing to cover their hair. These girls in fact come across as being more alluring than even most women who are in complete western dress... I'm saying this, not because I have a hijab fetish, but because I do believe that you can still let your true beauty and personality shine through, despite the headscarf you are forced to wear. I realise that this will not solve the other problems caused by having to wear this thing, but at least it will negate the last complaint you had above Lara.

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Reply #7 - May 22, 2011, 09:43 PM

Well, I've been wearing the hijab since ii was 5 (on and off) and fully wen I turned 8.
I never really minded it when I was a muslim- I never had to fix my hair, or worry about it every morning. I just put it on and bounce.
Although I just didn't see the point, It became like breathign to me, you know? Its not something that ii can chose.
but it would get really really annoying during hot weather, I would hate wearing it (esp wen im wearing the abaya with it).
But now since i've apostated, I HATE it, its irritating, and ii just dont like it and still dont see the point of it at all.
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Reply #8 - May 22, 2011, 09:47 PM

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Reply #9 - May 22, 2011, 10:21 PM

Thanks lara, you're a sweetheart for saying that.

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Reply #10 - May 22, 2011, 10:23 PM

Nobody in my family wears a hijab or niqab, although my mum sometimes puts a veil over her head when she's out and about.

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Reply #11 - May 23, 2011, 01:49 AM

no one in my fam wears that crap either. just many on my mom's friends do and they keep messing up with her head.

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Reply #12 - May 23, 2011, 10:20 AM

@ Lara's avatar.

I don't wear the hijab, and never will, obviously. 95% of the women in my extended family wear it (my mother included) and it's seen as something unavoidable, you eventually will wear it if you have a vagina. Myself, my three and sisters and the few women who don't wear it are often chided about it, and we get a lot of "I'll pray for Allah to guide you on the path to sutra". Keep praying.

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Reply #13 - May 23, 2011, 10:29 AM

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and we get a lot of "I'll pray for Allah to guide you on the path to sutra". Keep praying.

Just say to them, 'Im on the path to Kama sutra, baby'

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Reply #14 - May 23, 2011, 11:58 AM

Quote from: billy on May 23, 2011, 10:29 AM
Just say to them, 'Im on the path to Kama sutra, baby'

that's the mother of all sutras!

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Reply #15 - May 23, 2011, 06:52 PM

I've been wearing it for 2 years and still do. My mum wears it as well and she's the type of person who is serious about religion. EVERYONE from my dad's side wears it, but only 80% from my mum's side do. I have a few cousins who don't wear that shit, and whenever my mum sees them she makes them do it. Although I was religious when I started wearing it, deep down I was extremely embarrassed of it and slightly resented it but I guess it grew on me. It was really convenient at first (except in hot and humid weather), but I hated having to explain it to others because I couldn't find a good reason for wearing it myself.

I hate to admit this but in a weird way, it kind of built my confidence, although for all the wrong reasons. Before wearing it I was so insecure, but I became a lot more confident and pleased with myself because I didn't have to worry about people judging me or obsess 24/7 about how my hair looked or what I was going to wear the next day etc. In reality, people were still judging/staring at me but because I convinced myself that I was only doing this for Allah and whatever I went through was only a 'test', I didn't pay attention to that. I almost didn't want to stop wearing it, because it gave me that extra layer of protection. Behind it I could just be myself without having to worry about what people thought of my appearance as I was an insecure bastard, and having non-muslims stare at you, for me at least, was nothing next to this new found confidence.

Then when I apostatised I couldn't fucking stand it. I didn't want to be associated with muslims. Just having to wear the scarf and make sure my clothes were baggy enough etc was the biggest kick in the balls. Now, I give slightly less of a fuck. I don't really wear baggy clothes but I still wear the scarf properly. All the muslim girls here in my dorm judge me, but they can go cover their bodies in Vaseline, then walk up to a dark corner and fuck themselves. I don't want to be that girl that wears it around muslims and removes it when she thinks no one's looking, but it looks like sooner or later I'm gonna have to resort to that and just give myself a break. lol

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Reply #16 - May 23, 2011, 07:06 PM

Quote from: QueenOfShrooms on May 22, 2011, 04:02 PM
Ugh. I just saw a comic thing showing a White stereotypical woman trying to pull a hijab off of a muslimah. What. The. Rainbows. So a question for ex-muslims out there; did you, or your sister/wife/female friend wear hijab (Or niqab, jilbab, etc)? And did they like wearing it?

My sisters hate wearing it, as moderate Muslims. They don't wear it on a daily basis but have to when visiting strict uncles.

Any well balanced woman who's not been indoctrinated by Islam (or made to feel guilty for being a bad Muslima) would want to show her hair and face and beauty. That's how females evolved the last 200,000 years of modern human evolution.
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Reply #17 - May 23, 2011, 08:21 PM

Umm, i wore the hijab a total of two years. The first was when i was 12 and i had started secondary school and was in a way forced to wear it by my parents. However, i decided to take it off for the rest of the years to come at my secondary school.

Five years later, when i was 17 i went on Umrah and felt i experienced a spiritual conquest (yes i really did believe Islam was the true religion, Allah was real etc). When i came back home, me and my sister were hesitant in committing ourselves in exercising full hijab, we believed it was more than just the covering of our hair, we did a lot of research and questioned a lot - to no avail, to assure ourselves that it wasn't compulsory to do hijab. I observed the hijab for a year, the first six months were my peak of religiosity, and i felt proud wearing the hijab on the tube to college etc. As time went on, i learnt a lot about Islam and other religions, hence my trip to apostasy began.

Now i consider the hijab as just another hairstyle. I genuinely wish our society didn't hold so many aesthetic meanings, so that women could wear the hijab as lightly as putting a hair accessory on. I know that sometimes i'd love to dress myself up in a hijab for unimportant reasons, but i'm unable to exercise my right to free dress due to the aesthetics that the hijab holds.
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Reply #18 - May 25, 2011, 09:48 PM

I have a friend who wears the hijab, but absolutely hates it, but her parents make her. I think at first it's Allah and parent pressuring, but later it's self choice. Zaiba that's a good point, some hijabs are indeed very pretty. And not to mention sparkly. *_*

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Reply #19 - May 25, 2011, 10:50 PM

I started wearing the hijab at 13, I wore it not out of choice but because I had to. Then I got religious and decided I wanted to wear the abayah and niqab which I did for about 2 years. It was the hardest 2 years of my life. I hated wearing it during the summer and I hated wearing it out. The coolest part though was that I still managed to get a job even with niqab, it was a huge confidence booster

Eventually got tired of the niqab and took it off, then off went the abayah and now its just hijab/skirts, havent transitioned to pants yet but im working on it

My whole family wears hijab, my mum wears that long hijab I dont know what the actual name for it is but we call it a Jalbab...every female in my family wears a hijab both from mum and dads side

Only have 1 cousin who doesnt and well no one really talks to her because she's the rebel of the family and left home

I dont know of anyone who doesn't like it really in my family. I know a few cousins who took it off for a while but ended up going back to it. My sister also took it off but put it back on after a year

I hate it but Im stuck with it for now

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Reply #20 - May 26, 2011, 08:04 PM

Omg was that character wearing all black like a ninja? If so that was might have been mine

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