A few weeks ago I was
perving on watching a girl who for some reason really intrigued me. It took me a while to realise that it was because it was probably the first time I'd seen a Desi girl showing her legs off outside in Bradford. She was duly howled at by a couple of teenage Desi boys, because obviously dressing like that means she's free meat.
2 things I have noticed about Indian girls that show legs/wear minishorts.
1) they either expect me to look at them (and when I do - in my head I'm like "oh what the hell, alright what do you want?" - they smile and feel very satisfied with themselves, you know that shy "uh he looked at me" smile and they do it with their eyes turned away usually downwards while brushing hair behind the ear or a smile that just signals "I like you and I am pleased with you liking me too")
2) if they are pretty and they know it, and they feel good about their prettyness in otherwords stuck up, they will keep glancing towards me to see if I am looking at them. If I did then the reaction would be
#1-
no reaction (these are the ones who think they are of high standards and are often looked at by guys and have guys advancing towards them, and may want me to play hard to get them, or they have no interest in me, I think the former because I consider myself good looking for South Asian standards - I have Desi girls hitting on me all the time and I'm not bragging here, it in no way helps me with my confidence or self-esteem whatsoever, I'm saying this for conversation's sakes and also I don't really care and most importantly I'm not an asshole. If I'm an asshole at times, its simply because I'm just being an asshole, nothing to do what I think about myself. And that can be changed. You have to pardon my assholeness because I tend to be unaware of my assholeness when I'm being an asshole. It's natural. Just like gay guys can be queens and bitchy, masculine heterosexual men such as myself tend to be assholes at times without even knowing it. That's what testosterone does. You can't exactly blame me for that. There's also a difference between being a jerk and an asshole. I know that I'm a good guy, I am very loyal to good people and my friends.)
if I didn't look back at such girls, they would get upset or curious
#2-
pretend like as if it didn't matter that I looked at them by immediately looking away or doing something like as if they had intended to it
#3-
do the "flip the hair sideways" thing and turn head sideways or look upwards. this is a reaction that affirms that they aware of you looking at them and that they registered it yet it is negative. These are simply bitches. they have a problem, not me, and its their attitude. They are good looking and they know it, and they feed off men looking at them, way too many men have looked at them. this reaction can happen while the girl's expectation can be the same as that of #1 (that is she may want me to make advances)
this is not to be confused with the "flip hair sideways and make a 'hmpf' face" thing that women with low confidence make when you simply happen to meet eyes with them or try to speak to them very casually/normally.
There are many reasons why a girl, especially a desi girl may wear minishorts/skirts/revealing clothing in public. It can be to gain attention. And by this it can either be that she wants to be a little more flaunting or even sultry. It can be that she thinks she's unattractive and therefore by showing skin appear more attractive. It can be that it doesn't matter and that its a norm in the culture, such as America.
I wish to recount an incident. I was waiting for the train, and I happened to catch this tall, athletic, lean, tanned and very pretty Indian-Chinese mixed girl. And, by the way that she looked at me, I could tell that she was attracted towards me.
After the train arrived and we boarded it. We sat facing each other but quite far apart and not right opposite. The train was crowded. As she was wearing track shorts, her legs were showing off well, I thought I could get away with ogling at her legs like a piece of meat, as there were people standing infront of me blocking me from her sight. Then afterwhile, she stood up and moved away, got all the way inside to another train compartment, so far that she was completely hidden from sight, and this was a crowded train mind you, so its not easy walking inside it. Which means that she caught me being rather creepy. And this really opened me to the psychology of women. That women might like you but if you even strongly show them that you want to get into the sex-mode with them, it totally puts them off. Needless to say, I felt ashamed and like a dick. I just felt sunken to my seat and kept hitting myself in the head all through the ride.
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