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Staying Put or Moving?
OP - August 26, 2011, 03:10 AM

Hmm... I was thinking today about how a lot of my childhood was spent moving around the country. The longest I've ever lived in one place was four years, and on average I've lived in each place for a year and a half (the shortest being a mere two months!)

Needless to say, this has brought its share in both the positives of being able to see the sights of different places of the country (I wish I could say countries), and the negatives of having to make new friends wherever I went, and made the task of keeping friends a lot harder.

I've often wished I could have lived in one place, to kind of grow up in one community; to grow up with my friends, but then I suppose I may have wished the opposite if I had.

What are your thoughts on this? If you spent your childhood moving a lot, how do you think it impacted you, for the better or worse?

If you lived in one place, how do you feel about that?

What do you think is better if one is raising children?

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Re: Staying Put or Moving?
Reply #1 - August 26, 2011, 03:48 AM

I moved a lot from country to country, I'm very happy about that though. I feel like I experienced more than I could have if I had stayed put. I guess part of my wants to stay in one place, but the only place my parents would let us stay is a hellhole But I do want to settle down somewhere one day, but I love traveling too much not to on a vacation somewhere every now and then.

Both staying pit and moving have its pros and cons when raising kids, it really depends on where you plan to stay and where you plan to move to.
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Re: Staying Put or Moving?
Reply #2 - August 26, 2011, 04:48 AM

I spent my childhood moving around a lot from country to country (9 in total). The longest I've lived in one country was 4-5 years. When I was younger I HATED it. It was really frustrating how I was just expected to leave everything behind and start a new life somewhere else. You'd have to get used to the new weather, a new language, get used to a new neighbourhood, the school, make new friends etc
Sometimes I liked it either because I hated the school/people or the country and I thought it gave me a fresh start somewhere else. Most of the time though it was horrible. It takes a while for me to get to know people so by the time I properly started making friends I always had to move. So i just ended up having a lot of friends but I wasn't really close to anyone.

Now though, I'm actually glad my parents were that fucking nomadic. In retrospect all my previous problems and complaints about moving seem so trivial in comparison with what I've gained from the experience. I know people from all over the world and it's always nice meeting them during the summer when I travel somewhere or bumping into them (which does happen A LOT btw). It taught me a lot about different countries, cultures and most importantly I can swear in many different languages I think it made me a lot more open minded and tolerant as well.

I actually can't imagine myself staying in one place for too long because of it.

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What do you think is better if one is raising children?

Moving every year or year and half is hard and frustrating. But staying in one place just seems so boring. There's a big world out there that they're gonna be missing out on :/

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