I don't like talking too much these days

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I don't like talking too much these days
OP - August 27, 2011, 09:41 PM

Just something I've noticed - and others who know me have noticed. Even though I may seem like a chatter box when I'm on the forum - and when I've had a few pints

But actually since leaving Islam I have withdrawn into myself a lot more and just don't like talking too much - or at all!

Could have something to do with the emotions of leaving Islam - could be the personal difficulties I'm going through - I don't know.

I just wondered whether others here feel they have become more or less chatty with those around them since leaving Islam?
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Re: I don't like talking too much these days
Reply #1 - August 27, 2011, 09:47 PM

Nah, I'm still just as quiet and reserved as ever.

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Reply #2 - August 27, 2011, 09:49 PM

I'm usually pretty much silent, but I've always been like that.
Then again, I was a fairly young apostate, so I dunno.
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Re: I don't like talking too much these days
Reply #3 - August 27, 2011, 09:49 PM

I have always been a reflectvie and contemplative person. So my interactions with others has not changed.

My struggle and transformation has been an inner one without affecting anyone around me ...

I guess I am lucky that my loss of belief was not a sudden departure but a slow ebbing away of tide of faith....

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My thoughtless hand has brushed away.

I too dance and drink, and sing,
Till some blind hand shall brush my wing.

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Reply #4 - August 27, 2011, 09:50 PM

I've become less chatty mostly because the things I want to say in certain situations could give me away. I never really was much of a chatter, it's safer to stay quiet. Less chance of embarrassing myself as I usually do.

But in the chatroom you won't be able to shut me up
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Reply #5 - August 27, 2011, 09:58 PM

I feel like it has made me more extroverted as I have allowed myself to approach people I would have previously considered kafirs. Also, around muslims I feel much less constrained by peer pressure to act in a certain way.
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Reply #6 - August 27, 2011, 10:09 PM

I've actually become a little more chatty than I used to be, well more confident in where I stand, more confident to say things when I must to stand up for myself and less confused about finding the 'true religion' and from feeling guilty for not being a 'good' muslim etc.

And similar the Eliphaz, I feel less separated from people of other religious/racial backgrounds.

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Reply #7 - August 27, 2011, 10:24 PM

hassan
(and no, Im not flirting or playing but a geniune hug)

Are you sure its just islam? I understand the depression,
even moments of despondency. You have alot to struggle
with, and losses of those you love, as well. I understand that too.

Be gentle with yourself. Your reactions are normal for the
things you have had to endure and experience.

Its always wonderful when you chime in, and you can be
so funny and cute sometimes.

But your periods of silence are understood, and its OKAY!

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
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Reply #8 - August 27, 2011, 10:31 PM

Yes, I suspect it has a lot to do with the general shit in going on my life - and thanks for the hugs - as those who have met me will testify - I love hugs
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Re: I don't like talking too much these days
Reply #9 - August 27, 2011, 10:35 PM

More huggies

Little Fly, Thy summer's play
My thoughtless hand has brushed away.

I too dance and drink, and sing,
Till some blind hand shall brush my wing.

Therefore I am a happy fly,
If I live or if I die.
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Reply #10 - August 27, 2011, 10:37 PM

Yay!
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Re: I don't like talking too much these days
Reply #11 - August 27, 2011, 10:50 PM

I haven't experienced this. Although my apostasy affected me emotionally, social interactions were my only escape from the daunting reality of leaving Islam. If anything I became more of a chatter box and socialised more in order to shut out the feelings of nihility.
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Reply #12 - August 27, 2011, 10:55 PM

Maybe because everytime you talk with people, it's always about Islam and Ex-Muslims, and youre tired of it?

I rarely talk with anybody and I'm always alone in my room. But I try to talk with people even when I don't feel like it, just to stay in touch with the world.

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Reply #13 - August 27, 2011, 11:00 PM

Quote from: MoeAlharbi on August 27, 2011, 10:55 PM
Why don't you take your kids to a theme park?

lol...
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Reply #14 - August 28, 2011, 03:12 AM

i never liked talking too much, but i'm probably as quiet as before. probably say more on this forum than in RL on a typical day, lol. doesn't depend too much on my mood either - in fact when i'm really happy and content i can sometimes get uber-quiet for some reason, to the extent that my wife thinks there's something wrong, lol.

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Reply #15 - August 28, 2011, 05:33 AM

Quote from: MoeAlharbi on August 27, 2011, 10:55 PM
Maybe because everytime you talk with people, it's always about Islam ~~and Ex-Muslims~~, and youre tired of it?

+1, that has been the case for me. I used to be more extroverted until i became an apostate plus i dont like people in my area anyway. Its best to drown myself into reading books,watching TV,browse internet and get stoned.maybe when i moved out, things may change.

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Reply #16 - August 28, 2011, 09:48 PM

I've always been quiet and an intelligent speaker. As a child I was smart, I never talked crap. I found that as I aged, got more angry, more insane and hateful of islam I sort of lost it (my mind!)- I gradually found myself not being alone and silent as part of my character, but as part of a withdrawal from people. When I did find myself in a group I started to get manic, talking for the sake of it from nerves, getting nervous and coming across super bitchy. I don't know why but somehow my nerves and fear come accross as super confident super bitch which usually turns people against me! Agggghhh damn my super defense mechanisms

I don't think this is entirely due to islam directly, but the people I grew up around (the muslim people ) which have created my psychotic persona- I'm so defensive, always. I can't stop it. And now, since I actually left islam and my family I am suffering from stress so much that I can't handle any stress at all or I'm a wreck! Ugh, time's are tough. I live in the country, see nobody but my bf, only friends I have are online, can't go anywhere or do anything cos got too much work... oh well, better than life this time last year!
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Reply #17 - August 28, 2011, 09:51 PM

Quote from: Hassan on August 27, 2011, 09:41 PM
Just something I've noticed - and others who know me have noticed. Even though I may seem like a chatter box when I'm on the forum - and when I've had a few pints

But actually since leaving Islam I have withdrawn into myself a lot more and just don't like talking too much - or at all!

Could have something to do with the emotions of leaving Islam - could be the personal difficulties I'm going through - I don't know.

I just wondered whether others here feel they have become more or less chatty with those around them since leaving Islam?

That would be me.

I miss my chatty talkative old self, these days I find I've even gone quiet on the forum, which is a serious cause for concern.
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