Like the title asks, what is the big deal about it?
This is expecially relevent to the dismissal of those who have suicidal thoughts but are regarded as merely attention seeking.
My question is really, what is so bad about that?
I've known people, and I guess I am a person who expresses those sadder moments when you feel like you can't go on. For some reason expressing this means I am labelled an attention seeker who probably isn't likely to really attempt suicide (which I call bullshit on as a theory anyway
MYTH: People who talk about suicide rarely attempt or commit suicide.
FACT: Approximately 70-75% of the people who attempt or commit suicide have given some verbal or non-verbal clue to their intentions. ).
Now, maybe I am, maybe I am not. Maybe things are so bad that I reach out, or others reach out hoping to not feel that alone and have someone understand for a moment how bad you feel.
Why is this a bad thing?
Why is there such a negative judgement around it?
Sure there are incidences in which it's extremely negative, or at least the action and consequence is what makes it negative.
But is the act of seeking attention in a world in which we often feel alone, really that bad?
I dunno, I can see where it would be bad. If it badly affected someone else, but then sometimes that goes further into emotional manipulation which is completely different from reaching out and saying "I feel so alone right now, does anybody care".
Like I know people who have pretended to commit suicide, or greatly exaggerated the incident, but I'm more understanding about their reasons for acting out. I guess I understand because I want to know people care.
Sometimes I think about dying, more as a way to imagine if anyone would even shed a tear.
I talk about suicide and have tried to commit it (again, the whole people who talk are less likely to do....well not only is it wrong, but it also pushes those who feel it, to prove they aren't lying), there were times when no ones reaction mattered, and times where someone caring mattered.
I just find it hard to see what is so wrong about the motivation behind these actions that makes many sneer and act superior with "it's just attention seeking".
So fucking what, it's a cold and lonely world more often than not. If someone needs to reach out, is it too much to listen to them really?
Thoughts?
(oh, and no, this is not a suicide thread, this is a discussion on attention seeking as it relates to suicide)
Topic: What is so inherently bad about attention seeking?