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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     OP - June 01, 2013, 01:46 PM

    What life would be like if we weren't taught that it had a point? How different we would all be if we weren't constantly seeking meaning in everything we do? I don't mean cosmic meaning, because we don't live life on that scale. That is to say that, you and I don't do the things we love because the universe gives a shit. I realise that. But we do all, subconsciously at least, maintain that life is worth living for some particular reason. That life is not devoid of meaning, be that external (if you believe in a God) or otherwise. That life has a purpose. That if you happen to disagree, you're not psychologically healthy and require urgent psychological intervention. We all wish to burn for something, to feel passionetly about it and let it consume us. We feel the need to find something to dedicate our lives to. Why? Why is the assumption that life has a point the default position?

    Biological inclinations and instinct to survive aside, I think it's just a matter of socially enforced ideas. Many of us lose hope and will to live because we can't find a reason to be alive. The current default position creates an unattainable goal (purpose) and stigmatizes the actions (e.g. suicide) of those who can't achieve it. So I ask you, if this baseless assumption was not drummed into our psyche again and again growing up, how different would life be? How would we all feel? Would life be more bearable or less tolerable? Better or worse? We're constantly searching for something to live for because we believe we need a reason to carry on. We initiate the quest for purpose and create the problem of an unfulfilling and meaningless existence ourselves when we decide to include that criterion. What if we were never brought up to think like that? What if we were taught that life just is and purpose is not necessary? Is such a thing even possible? Am I making any sense at all? No? Ok.

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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #1 - June 01, 2013, 02:14 PM

    I think about this a lot. Excuse the terse response, I'm on my phone. The purpose of life throughout the animal kingdom is only to avoid death for as long as possible. As human beings who are consciously aware of just how futile an exercise that ultimately is, nature has given us other reasons for playing the pointless game. Religion is, in my opinion, also a part of that.
  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #2 - June 01, 2013, 03:17 PM

    Same Jema, I think about it too. Back in one of my classes we were talking about Lacan's theory of the womb, where babies' needs of warmth and food and safety are all met. Then we are born and it's taken away from us and no matter what we do, we'll never get back to that stage of safety. We are seeking something that no longer exists. Idk that lesson always stuck with me and rang true.

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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #3 - June 01, 2013, 03:31 PM

    I used to have those kind of thoughts until i delve into existentialist and nihilist literatures then i stopped, well it was more a gradual thing. Although i do have a goal of moving out of my parents house and live on my own with a job, after that then maybe i will consider the next goal to aim for. It sounds pointless but thats the only way i can keep living i guess.Its the same sentiment i share with Iblis' post on that "advice to young ex-muzzie" thread.

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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #4 - June 01, 2013, 08:48 PM

    The body without organs.
  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #5 - June 02, 2013, 02:35 AM

    What if we were taught that life just is and purpose is not necessary? Is such a thing even possible? Am I making any sense at all? No? Ok.

    Of course it's possible. It's my standard assumption. Tongue

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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #6 - June 02, 2013, 12:04 PM

    Came across this!

    "
    How to Be an Explorer of the World
    by Maria Popova
    “Every morning when we wake up, we have twenty-four brand-new hours to live. What a precious gift!”

    As a longtime fan of guerrilla artist and illustrator Keri Smith’s Wreck This Box set of interactive journals, part of these 7 favorite activity books for grown-ups, I was delighted to discover her How to Be an Explorer of the World: Portable Life Museum (public library) — a wonderful compendium of 59 ideas for how to get creatively unstuck by engaging with everyday objects and your surroundings in novel ways. From mapping found sounds to learning the language of trees to turning time observation into art, these playful and poetic micro-projects aren’t just a simple creativity booster — they’re potent training for what Buddhism would call “living from presence” and inhabiting your life more fully.

    It all began with this simple list, which Smith scribbled on a piece of paper in the middle a sleepless night in 2007:



    http://www.brainpickings.org/index.php/2012/08/24/how-to-be-an-explorer-of-the-world-keri-smith/

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    When you are a Bear of Very Little Brain, and you Think of Things, you find sometimes that a Thing which seemed very Thingish inside you is quite different when it gets out into the open and has other people looking at it.


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    "We cannot slaughter each other out of the human impasse"
  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #7 - June 02, 2013, 08:16 PM

    As of now my purpose in life is to consume coffee and cupcakes. This is the  driving force that keeps me going. Tongue Apparently this person agrees with me-

    “Should I kill myself, or have a cup of coffee?”
    -Albert Camus


    No, because humans are aware of their demise, its like our ego doesn't want to accept mortality.  I remember even as a child when people talked of eternal paradise, eternal bliss...I always thought "for living such a short existence? do we deserve such a place?"  Tongue

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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #8 - June 03, 2013, 01:34 PM

    It seems Lincolnshire folk have a phrase "Now then".

    Dr Who is embedded in our culture!

    When you are a Bear of Very Little Brain, and you Think of Things, you find sometimes that a Thing which seemed very Thingish inside you is quite different when it gets out into the open and has other people looking at it.


    A.A. Milne,

    "We cannot slaughter each other out of the human impasse"
  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #9 - June 03, 2013, 09:32 PM

    Some thoughts I made earlier:

    I take Alan Watts' approach to life and meaning; "We are overlooking the significance of the world by our constant quest for it later."

    We are wanting 'meaning' which in this context seems to me to be an unproductive sense of the word. Meaning as some kind of comprehendable explanation that would 'neaten up' life and encapsulate the whole of living enough to make immediate sense. But this seems to me to be meaning only in retrospect, detached from life and living. It is meaning as an afterthought, a reason for having done it all, significance attached afterwards, awarded after life is lived, as in: I did all these things so I could have this eventual thing, or, I did all these smaller things so that this bigger thing was then complete.

    If this retrospective meaning was gained, would it even satisfy you? Is that the thing that would truly make you happy? The parts of me that feel and want and need and crave meaning, would they be satisfied with a rational answer to it all? It seems to me that all of the parts of me that want meaning are individually satisfied by being in use and stimulated. And it seems that, when all of these individually fulfilled elements conspire, there is a satisfying fulsomeness and momentum to my life that an overarching explanation in the form of "this is what your life meant" would add nothing to.

    Moreover, I just don't understand why something has to have eternal cosmic meaning in order to have meaning. The idea of the necessity of eternal cosmic meaning seems to me to be a by-product of a religious universe model. It supposes there is some kind of powerful agency with a standard external to us, that life is only valuable if it is deemed so according to these higher powers of the universe. As an atheist, this makes no sense to me. I can't help feeling something essential is being lost when we search for meaning external to us. It is a distraction from the significance of now.

    My life is most meaningful when I am present. The times I have felt truly alive are the times where I have been completely present, completely absorbed in the sensual soup of experience, be it good or bad, pleasure or pain. The past is a memory, the future is a mental construct of expectation. But neither are as powerful and real and significant as now. Right now.

    To taste the sweetness of fruit, to hear Pavarotti reach that high C, to catch an elderly couple holding hands, to see the face of a child light up with a smile, to watch the moon and stars go about their course, to make time for others, to laugh with them, dance with them, share yourself with them, appreciate them for who they are, to go on small adventures, to learn new things, to overflow with too much knowledge, to make yourself dizzy with loving and living, to connect with another soul, to make love and lose oneself in hot chemical romance and kinetic poetry, to give yourself over to someone fully without inhibitions and bullshit fears, to truly see them and for them to see me, to have the whole universe pivot upon a moment, where time is meaningless, where there is no time, no temporal path that extends from past to future. Just give me that. That's enough for me. Because in these moments, I am the universe. The whole universe is me. It extends not in two ways, but in all ways, from me, from now. There is no room for deeper or higher meaning. No need. No lacking or void to fill.

    Don't ask what is the point of life. Instead ask, what would satisfy you? And is it within your power to have?

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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #10 - June 04, 2013, 09:07 PM

    Life doesn't have a point. That's what gives it room to be fun sometimes.

    how fuck works without shit??


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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #11 - June 07, 2013, 05:40 PM

    The purpose of life throughout the animal kingdom is only to avoid death for as long as possible. As human beings who are consciously aware of just how futile an exercise that ultimately is, nature has given us other reasons for playing the pointless game. Religion is, in my opinion, also a part of that.

    Not quite, otherwise we wouldn't observe extreme cases of seemingly selfish acts of altruism that lead to death at times. It's mostly to pass on as large a proportion of your genes as possible. My question is though, why can’t we just live for the sake of it without the nagging necessity of an ultimate or even temporary purpose? Religion definitely provides many of us with a ready made narrative regarding our purpose so that we don't have to face the challenge of finding it for ourselves.

    Same Jema, I think about it too. Back in one of my classes we were talking about Lacan's theory of the womb, where babies' needs of warmth and food and safety are all met. Then we are born and it's taken away from us and no matter what we do, we'll never get back to that stage of safety. We are seeking something that no longer exists. Idk that lesson always stuck with me and rang true.

    Interesting. Never heard of that theory before.

    Although i do have a goal of moving out of my parents house and live on my own with a job, after that then maybe i will consider the next goal to aim for. It sounds pointless but thats the only way i can keep living i guess.

    Perhaps, but my point is that you, much like the rest of us, only follow that line of thought/logic because of the way you were raised. I want you to now imagine that you were never introduced to that way of thinking. How different would your life be? Would it be different at all?

    Of course it's possible. It's my standard assumption. Tongue

    Well, you’re probably the only one then Tongue Fill us in, how’sit working for ya?

    No, because humans are aware of their demise, its like our ego doesn't want to accept mortality.  I remember even as a child when people talked of eternal paradise, eternal bliss...I always thought "for living such a short existence? do we deserve such a place?"  Tongue

    I’m not denying my mortality. I fully accept it. In fact, I would argue that acknowledging our mortality is what gives our lives meaning. My issue is that we NEED to derive meaning from an external entity whether it’s God or coffee. All of us (but Os up there) think that life has a point and some of us spend our whole lives trying to find out what that is. Why? Why is it necessary for us to assume that life has a point? Why do we need reasons to live? Are we not able to live otherwise? I think we could (exhibit A: Os).

    What I meant in my original post is that because we deem purposeless lives unworthy we create the hunt for purpose. The whole system perpetuates this struggle, and in my opinion, creates more frustration and suffering. If we were to rid ourselves of that, I think we’d be happier. Those of us who are driven enough to still search for it won’t be robbed of much, but the rest of us (i.e. me) don’t have to constantly face the fear of never finding it. As for eternal paradise, it is merely the poorly thought out fiction of greedy mortals.

    Don't ask what is the point of life. Instead ask, what would satisfy you? And is it within your power to have?

    The problem is I don't know what would satisfy me. Asking that question is just a different way of asking what the point of life is. It just makes it more personal. This pretty much sums it up:

    If we didn’t need reasons to live, rather if we weren’t taught that we did, we wouldn’t be so damn miserable for not finding any. We wouldn’t give up on life when we realise we have nothing to live for because that necessity wouldn’t exist. I dunno, it’s probably a stupid cop out on my part. I guess I’m just personally so tired of trying to find something I’m passionate about, or a good reason to stay alive that I’d like to entertain what life would be like if I didn’t have to do that - if I could be content with life as it is. Meh. Or maybe I’m just lazy and want to shift the blame onto society instead of getting off my ass to explore the world and myself and find satisfaction on the way.

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  • Do you sometimes wonder....
     Reply #12 - June 08, 2013, 04:21 PM

    I'm not sure I understand. Aren't there things that you are already passionate about?

    Too fucking busy, and vice versa.
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