Well, they don't get stoned or killed. But they are frowned upon.
Oh and just because these muslims here are "secular" and more "open" they still are against homosexuality
and I know a girl who has a hijab on and all, she said this lesbian girl should be killed. There you go! Islam, religion of peace.
Frowned upon usually changes to tolerance and then acceptance. In my life, it has done so. Maybe by the time you are ready to settle down with someone, it will be easier. I am sorry you have to listen to such awful stuff.