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OP - February 24, 2014, 08:19 PM

I don't want to have kids if I get married in the future, not even adopted ones. Am I being too weird? This may sound silly but do you think there is anybody out there who thinks along the same line?
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Reply #1 - February 24, 2014, 08:42 PM

You're not weird. Quite a few people don't want to have kids, me included.

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Reply #2 - February 25, 2014, 12:26 AM

Quote from: Rubaya on February 24, 2014, 08:19 PM
I don't want to have kids if I get married in the future, not even adopted ones. Am I being too weird? This may sound silly but do you think there is anybody out there who thinks along the same line?

It's perfectly normal to not want to have kids. It's perfectly normal to want to have kids. There are lots of people of either variety, especially among more liberal, non-theistic people. It seems that religious demands of procreation keep some people tied to a tradition of having children without really thinking about it. People who do not absolutely for sure want to have kids should not have kids. There is lots to do in this life besides having kids.

Get out there and meet people who share the same interests as you. I'm sure you'll find tons of people who are on the same page about this too.

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Reply #3 - February 25, 2014, 12:33 AM

Quote from: Rubaya on February 24, 2014, 08:19 PM
I don't want to have kids if I get married in the future, not even adopted ones. Am I being too weird? This may sound silly but do you think there is anybody out there who thinks along the same line?

Normal. I know many couples who refuse to have any children.
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Reply #4 - February 25, 2014, 02:05 AM

I have a friend who decided long ago not to have children. When she wants to spend time with children, she does.
Sometimes she comes to my house and talks with the children, we take her to the park and play and she brings them sweets and sometimes presents.
This is not the first friend I have had without children who contributed very positively to the lives of my children.
Being childless by choice is not a selfishness, and it does not mark you as hating children. In my opinion, it is better to be self aware of how you want to live than try to fulfill the expectations of others.
It is your life. You should be able to make your own choices in it, and those who love you ought to be supportive of those choices.

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Reply #5 - February 25, 2014, 02:26 AM

No it's not weird at all. Some people want them, some people don't.

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Reply #6 - February 25, 2014, 02:28 AM

Not odd, I have no interest in having children at this time. I have not considered the future as any decision will be based on the outcome of the present, which includes factors which are the backbone of my reasons at the present.
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Reply #7 - February 25, 2014, 08:13 AM

It's not odd at all. There are many people around the world who make a conscious decision to not have kids, myself included
Like allat and three said, being a parent is something that you should genuinely want to do and feel prepared for, instead of just fulfilling the wishes of parents and community etc.
If you are happy with not having children, then that's all that matters. It might not be easy at times, especially where you live. In society's view women have no other purpose in life other than having children but you have to stick by your principles and ignore the inquisitive, and sometimes downright rude, comments and questions.
You can always choose to volunteer with a charity that helps children or pick up some other hobby or worthwhile cause. It can be a more fulfilling way to contribute to humankind
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