I agree with every thing you said 100% except that bit. would you say the same is true for men raping women at college dorms or frat houses? that it was primarily about ego and the sexual rape was a secondary thing?
Cornflower, honestly, you are no more asking for rape than this woman:
(Clicky for piccy!)in my first post i said skirts because i was commenting directly on the video. but when people started jumping on that, i added burkah/hijab. so for me, you posting that pic and asking me 'am i asking to get raped' is like another woman posting her pic in a burkah and asking me the same question. ofcourse you are not asking to be raped. but do you think a rapist cares? do you think a rapist will ask, hey cornflower do you want to be raped? ofcourse not. and however true it may be that clothes do not effect on getting raped,
the rapist would think so. for him, it is just another justification to committing his crime. you look young enough to be my daughter so let me reply to from that pov. as a father it would deeply concern me that you will be going out wearing that. not because i think you are asking to be raped. but because a rapist might look at you, and think 'oh look at her.. she probably gives to everyone' or something along those lines and use that as a justification. do you understand what i am trying to say? you may put that dress on and think it is absolutely ok. but there are men out in the world who will look at you in your dress and think 'she is a legit target for rape'
is that true? does putting on that skirt makes a legit target? ofcourse not. but it does not matter to the guy who will think that and then rape you. was that your fault for putting that dress on? ofcourse not, but just like we teach kids to be careful when they are playing, to not talk to strangers, is just the kind of concern women should keep in mind when they put on dresses like that.
not because they are now asking for it, but becasue some degenerate prick somewhere will look at you in that dress and think that. we are living in a world where men like that exist. men with no self control. they are just looking for a reason. whatever that reason is. i hope you understand what it is i am trying to say.
And i doubt dawah man changed his mind. he is a showman. it is more likly that his masters at iERA told him to take it down for the sheer absurd nature of the video.
You know reading this (and all the many responses to it, what stands out to me is that this HArith guy thinks this way. It leads me to ask, when he looks at a beautifully dressed woman is he thinking all sorts of shameful things about her? Forgive me if I sound naive here, but I know plenty of men who while may appreciate a beautiful woman are not thinking of raping her. Rape mentality stems from minds like these,
You can look at a beautiful woman and think, wow she's lovely, I want her number. Or even think sexually what it would be like to be with her, but rape? Is that honestly the first thing that would come to this guys mind?
There are so many aspects of physical attraction, so many levels, so many different tastes, why is it rape is always highlighted in so many cultures.
I honestly think people miss the issue of finding out the real reasons behind rape, is this guy honestly implying that men see a beautiful woman and the rape-dar goes DING DING DING
Another point, a bit off topic here, is people will say religion is the basis for all morals, I'm not sure if a study has been carried out to show how many of the rapists out there are from a religious background.
In all honesty it is the sexual repression that causes a problem more then anything else.
PS Cornflower I love that skirt, and no I don't want to rape you
Topic: Rape: It is your fault!