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 Topic: I'm married to a Muslim

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  • I'm married to a Muslim
     OP - January 09, 2015, 04:10 PM
    This guy could be me, if he didn't sound so much like a tit, if he had balls, and if he had a better face for radio :

    http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-30715142


    Edit: this is taken from within the excellent documentary by Catrin Nye and Atthar Mohammed:
    http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p02gfcn6

    Edit 2: Tauseef is me. I realise I've been too cryptic so far. This is my story.
    Hi
  • Married to a Muslim
     Reply #1 - January 09, 2015, 04:18 PM
    This Islam thing is powerful stuff.
    My mind runs, I can never catch it even if I get a head start.
  • Married to a Muslim
     Reply #2 - January 09, 2015, 04:19 PM
    what a beautiful depiction of this guys story, whoever he is

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pFvOFgncx-M
    "we can smell traitors and country haters"


    Quote from: arX on May 01, 2011, 03:33 AM
    God is Love.
    Love is Blind. Stevie Wonder is blind. Therefore, Stevie Wonder is God.

  • Married to a Muslim
     Reply #3 - January 09, 2015, 04:20 PM
    Quote from: Idiot
    Wow, this is a new low, even for the BBC. You think it's not fishy, that you publish a report like this, a couple of days after the Charlie Ebdo attack? What are you trying to accomplish? This is a very cheap stunt. Simply disgusting!!


    The fuck is this guy on about?
    My mind runs, I can never catch it even if I get a head start.
  • Married to a Muslim
     Reply #4 - January 09, 2015, 04:27 PM
    [quote author: billy link=topic=27998.msg800557#msg800557 date=1420820391]
    what a beautiful depiction of this guys story, whoever he is

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pFvOFgncx-M
    [/quote]

    Reminds me of a song I used to like when growing up;

    That's me in the corner.
    That's me in the spotlight.

    Can't remember the next line?
    Hi
  • Married to a Muslim
     Reply #5 - January 09, 2015, 04:29 PM
    You missed an "=" in your quote code musivore  grin12

    As for now I'm going to sleep and hopefully when I wake up, the world as I know it will have ceased to exist.
    My mind runs, I can never catch it even if I get a head start.
  • Married to a Muslim
     Reply #6 - January 09, 2015, 04:32 PM
    Jesus, that wasn't a depressing listen at all. #Trapped
  • Married to a Muslim
     Reply #7 - January 09, 2015, 04:36 PM
    Quote from: Qtian on January 09, 2015, 04:29 PM
    You missed an "=" in your quote code musivore  grin12

    As for now I'm going to sleep and hopefully when I wake up, the world as I know it will have ceased to exist.


    Lol, I think. And hope.
    Hi
  • Married to a Muslim
     Reply #8 - January 09, 2015, 05:11 PM
    Quote from: musivore on January 09, 2015, 04:27 PM


    That's me in the corner.
    That's me in the spotlight.

    Can't remember the next line?


    Next line: I'm losing my religion - (R.E.M.) I think Smiley

    So sad when a person thinks their whole marriage is based on religion - my husband definitely used to see us that way until we started on the long road towards apostasy. As soon as even a bit of the Islam side fell off, we started to appreciate the other things in our relationship. But really as Muslims he (and I too unfortunately) really evaluated religion as the basis of our relationship. In a way it was important because we both had ideas about Islam that had led us to be called kafirs before, but for 'being Muslim' to be the one reason to get married...I can no longer understand that reasoning. I feel sorry for this man and for the future kids, as that plan sounded heartbreaking.
    Don't damn me when I speak my mind, 'cause silence isn't golden when I'm holding it inside. - Guns n' Roses

    3 koiraa 1 kissa <3
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #9 - January 09, 2015, 05:40 PM
    Thanks for the next line. And thanks for your sympathy: that man is me.

    I'd just like to add: it's not all bad.
    Hi
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #10 - January 09, 2015, 05:58 PM
    Oh I see, right, I just reread your first post Smiley

    We have a similar-ish situation with our family members. They don't actually know of our beliefs so we have to do a fair bit of pretending. I really don't like defining a relationship by religion alone and although some of the family's opinions are shall we say not to my liking, I still enjoy time with them when that time isn't spent on religious topics. I'm glad it's not all bad for you, I feel the same way with my family luckily. Although I tend to get overwhelmed when I think about Islam and it turns into the whole universe for a few minutes until I calm down  grin12
    Don't damn me when I speak my mind, 'cause silence isn't golden when I'm holding it inside. - Guns n' Roses

    3 koiraa 1 kissa <3
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #11 - January 09, 2015, 07:11 PM
    I don't like defining by religion, or lack of it, neither. That's partly how I got here.

    Glad you have a partner that you go on your journey with. That all sounds good Smiley

    Welcome to the forum btw. Where have you been, and how have you managed to escape my roving eye until now?
    Hi
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #12 - January 09, 2015, 07:11 PM
    Quote from: musivore on January 09, 2015, 04:10 PM
    This guy could be me, if he didn't sound so much like a tit, if he had balls, and if he had a better face for radio :

    http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-30715142


    Edit: this is taken from within the excellent documentary by Catrin Nye and Atthar Mohammed:
    http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p02gfcn6

    Edit 2: Tauseef is me. I realise I've been too cryptic so far. This is my story.


    Oh, were you trying to be cryptic?

    I kind of guessed from the outset that the guy was you  Tongue
    My mind runs, I can never catch it even if I get a head start.
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #13 - January 09, 2015, 07:36 PM
    Not really trying, just bring an ass. Never thought for a second I'd throw you though smarty pants.

    ,
    Hi
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #14 - January 09, 2015, 07:37 PM
     mysmilie_977

    Take care man, we are all here for you.
    My mind runs, I can never catch it even if I get a head start.
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #15 - January 09, 2015, 07:39 PM
    Oh dear, that's worrying
    Hi
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #16 - January 09, 2015, 07:45 PM
    My mind runs, I can never catch it even if I get a head start.
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #17 - January 10, 2015, 01:58 AM
    Quote from: omena on January 09, 2015, 05:58 PM
    Oh I see, right, I just reread your first post Smiley

    We have a similar-ish situation with our family members. They don't actually know of our beliefs so we have to do a fair bit of pretending. I really don't like defining a relationship by religion alone and although some of the family's opinions are shall we say not to my liking, I still enjoy time with them when that time isn't spent on religious topics. I'm glad it's not all bad for you, I feel the same way with my family luckily. Although I tend to get overwhelmed when I think about Islam and it turns into the whole universe for a few minutes until I calm down  grin12


    I think having your partner with you makes it a little bit easier, compare to if you are really alone. Pretending in front of families would be a bit easier when its the two of you, I think. He can cover for you and vice verse! (I am thinking of Lois and Clark here, haha, no idea why). So it's really good to hear that your husband is on the same page with you!

    Quote from: musivore on January 09, 2015, 05:40 PM
    Thanks for the next line. And thanks for your sympathy: that man is me.
    I'd just like to add: it's not all bad.


    I just listened to this program yesterday, I didn't realize it's someone from the forum. I hope all the best for you, though I imagine it is difficult, but I am sure you know better what would make you the happiest. I hope you can come to a sort of understanding with your wife and find a comfortable equilibrium. Best wishes, although in the program your story made me so sad. I am happy to know that it's not all bad.
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #18 - January 10, 2015, 07:28 AM
    Thanks Rhoeo. I think it would make me happy grow old with her, and to look after the fragile but happy old lady that she is going to turn into one day.  It would also make me happy to be there every day for my son while he grows up. Until he reaches 18. I will then tell him to fuck off and get his own life. I'm determined to see all of that through.
    Hi
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #19 - January 10, 2015, 11:32 AM
    Quote from: earlyriser on January 10, 2015, 07:42 AM
    Gosh, I ld really identify your your difficulties, Qtian. I'm married and pretend to be "Muslim enough" for my husband, kids, and family. I'm really sick of it.


    I need to read your intro again. You world never consider the alternative? I wouldn't personally.
    Hi
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #20 - January 10, 2015, 11:46 AM
    Quote from: musivore on January 09, 2015, 04:10 PM
    This guy could be me, if he didn't sound so much like a tit, if he had balls, and if he had a better face for radio :

    http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-30715142



    I don't think he sounded like a tit.

    It was moving and sad though - and I can also relate to much of what he said.  Cry
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #21 - January 10, 2015, 11:50 AM
    The chap is you Musivore?

    Sorry I can be a bit slow sometimes.

     far away hug
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #22 - January 10, 2015, 12:01 PM
    Quote
    he (and I too unfortunately) really evaluated religion as the basis of our relationship.


    What is this three (four?) in a bed stuff about?
    When you are a Bear of Very Little Brain, and you Think of Things, you find sometimes that a Thing which seemed very Thingish inside you is quite different when it gets out into the open and has other people looking at it.


    A.A. Milne,

    "We cannot slaughter each other out of the human impasse"
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #23 - January 10, 2015, 12:15 PM
    Wow. Touching story. I can hear the heartache in your voice. Hugs from Australia  far away hug
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #24 - January 10, 2015, 12:36 PM
    Thanks Abu and Questioner. I presented this thread all wrong, that's why you got confused about whether or not this is me. My bad.

    Moi, you sometimes operate on a plane that I don't get. And I am crazy enough to understand most people.
    Hi
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #25 - January 10, 2015, 12:59 PM
    Thank you for sharing your story, and for putting it on the radio. You made the rest of us less lonely.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #26 - January 10, 2015, 01:05 PM
    Awww, thanks three. That's a lovely thing to say  Smiley
    Hi
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #27 - January 10, 2015, 03:22 PM
    Well, you did a lovely thing.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #28 - January 10, 2015, 04:16 PM
    I saw this on FB, and I knew it was you without even hearing it! Just came here to confirm it. Listening to it right now.
  • I'm married to a Muslim
     Reply #29 - January 10, 2015, 05:43 PM
    https://twitter.com/BBCNewsPR/status/553519570280280064 - The whole 30 min programme is on here. Features some other interesting cases.
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