Right now it seems to be appealing to the perversions of men. I'm finding it hard to figure out what's in it for us.
Obviously there are good things about islam. It would be simply untrue to say it's all bad, but it's a religion not only created in but fixed to the social customs and norms of dark age arabia. People like Hassan are obviously reinterpreting it to fit with the 21st century and hopefully that will catch on.
Your step dad is an non-Muslim? Does that apply to most of you family, if you don't mind me asking?
No one in my family is muslim. I suppose you could say I come from a Roman Catholic background, but out of the five children my grandparents had, four of them are atheists and the other is more cultural/deist. None of my siblings or cousins are religious in the slightest, though my brother thinks there's some kind of energy. At this point I'm basically from an atheist family.
Having children and grandchildren with no belief in god had a profound effect on my grandmother. She couldn't rationalize a merciful and just god punishing who she knew were good, decent, kind, honest, loving people with unimaginable torment for all eternity, and before she died she told me she didn't believe in hell. I'm happy she didn't have that fear towards the end.
It's a pity she couldn't throw the whole thing away. Catholicism is as fucked up as islam when it comes to hell, fear, guilt and shame. You said you're from England, you've probably come across the term "Catholic shame". It's an actual fucking phrase.
I think a large part of her remaining faith was a desire to be reunited with my granddad and uncle. Neither of them ever got over watching their son die of cancer.