Learn your trade slowly. You'll end up a better architect than those splashy high-fliers who give the impression of knowing it all.
There's too much ego in architecture, not enough craft. Why not spend time really learning the technical aspects of construction? Europe's great cathedrals were built by master builders, not architects.
Is your new hubby any help? If not, give him a boot up the arse
My dear hubby has been trying to make me understand that I will do great for years now haha. Every time I had an exam I would freak out telling him I will definitely fail, like guaranteed and he would chuckle and remind me of how many times I said that and came out with an A instead (and I still blame luck on almost every exam). He does need a boot up his arse though for smoking again after having quit.
Luckily the firm I'm working with naturally are very technically oriented, so they hire many building constructors to work with architects. I mentioned my degree differs slightly from most architecture degrees because ours is a bit more technical as well, inspired by the old master architects you mentioned who designed and built the big churches
And I already feel much more at home at the firm now, people are very helpful and they don't make you feel stupid for not knowing every command in AutoCad