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     Reply #60 - July 05, 2016, 01:14 PM
    Quote from: asbie on July 05, 2016, 12:27 PM
    See I'm not really too keen on someone else's experience in that being particularly helpful to someone anyway. Every person when they first start dating/flirting what have you, is going to make mistakes, and those mistakes will build your experience a hell of a lot better than what some old fogeys from another time and age telling you would give.  Tongue

    I agree 100%. At the end of the day you gotta get your own experience to build confidence and overcome your anxiety.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #61 - July 05, 2016, 04:17 PM
    Those of you who love to party, but call yourself 'introverts'…

  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #62 - July 05, 2016, 05:13 PM
    What.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #63 - July 05, 2016, 07:12 PM
    Lmao. Extrovert privilege/supremacy!
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #64 - July 05, 2016, 08:31 PM
    No, fool. I'm an introvert. You're the ones using your extrovert privilege by calling yourself 'introverted' when you're not.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #65 - July 05, 2016, 08:37 PM
    Lol k
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #66 - July 05, 2016, 08:57 PM
    Precisely what I was alluding to, Mr Keyboard.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #67 - July 06, 2016, 03:36 AM
    Quote from: Kodanshi on July 05, 2016, 08:31 PM
    No, fool. I'm an introvert. You're the ones using your extrovert privilege by calling yourself 'introverted' when you're not.

    So it's against the rules for an introvert to control their reservations in unfamiliar situations, or step outside their comfort zone? Hmm. Well I don't agree with you, although there must be differing levels of introvertedness, if that's even a word.

    I'm an introvert -- perhaps most of us here are -- but it doesn't stop me I don't let it stop me from striking up conversations with random people in the supermarket or petrol station. I'd be useless in a nightclub though. And my introverted nature is probably why I chose a job where 90% of the time, I'm by myself driving my van. Again, I don't let that hold me back from conversations with the people at goods in/out. In fact I'm probably more confident with these meetings, as I'll likely never see most of them again ,or for several weeks/months at least.

    But the phone is different: the number of times I've found excuses not to call for work I'd probably get is frustrating, to say the least. It costs me money ffs. It really does depend on how I'm feeling emotionally / psychologically. Talking on the phone can be a huge hurdle for me.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #68 - July 06, 2016, 04:51 AM
    An introvert is someone who needs time alone to recharge. They often have a small group of close friends they're more comfortable with than large groups. Introvertedness has absolutely nothing to do with being social or asocial. Some of the most social people I know are introverts. They'd go to parties and meet everyone and have a great time then head back home and spend the next few days alone, reading or writing or just watching shows.

    People often conflate introvertedness with social anxiety, but the two are not the same. It's entirely possible to be a socially anxious extrovert.

    I'm a social introvert.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #69 - July 06, 2016, 07:50 AM
    Mee, too  far away hug

    I'm also an introvert
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #70 - July 06, 2016, 09:33 AM
    Well for every person it depends. I met my bf when I was 15, we didn't have a relationship till I was 18. Never expected it tbh. And he considers himself a Muslim, even though he doesn't practice it. And my parents are just waiting for us to get engaged, the only thing they want. They met him already and they think he is a really good guy. They should know what we do haha. I think the greatest challenge here is the difference is religion. I don't believe at all and he does. So having kids will be hard... I want them to be free choosing whatever religion they want to choose. My bf wants them to be religious.
    So yeah that's my story Smiley
    Dogs never bite me - just humans. ~ M. Monroe

    Religions seem to cause more grief than good.

    Exmuslim Chat
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #71 - July 06, 2016, 12:09 PM
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     Reply #72 - July 06, 2016, 12:36 PM
    There's nothing you can do about it, really. Either do what she wants or leave. There's nothing to "cure". People can want different things, and the religion of your potential future children is a fundamental difference.

    When religion comes in the middle of an intimate relationship, that's a pretty huge red flag that the relationship is not gonna last.

    Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #73 - July 06, 2016, 01:41 PM
    I second Absurdist.

    I she chooses religion over you, there is little you can do.
    (Except to be happy that she says it now, and not after you have had the first child!)

    It may be her family who has started leaning heavily on her or it may be her own faith.

    Liberal and easygoing people sometimes forget that once they start thinking about kids.
    When my own dear mother asked me: "does that mean you're not going to baptize the kids?" I looked her straight in the eyes and answered:" That is correct".

    And there we stood, looking each other in the eyes...

    In the silence that followed, I could literally hear the little gears turning inside her head, then she wisely decided to change the subject, and it has never been an issue since.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #74 - July 06, 2016, 02:04 PM
    Oh you already have a girlfriend?

    Well, I also think that there isn't much to do. I mean you could try to convince her that there are many couples around the world with different religious beliefs and it usually works fine. However, I doubt that this will convince her. And also I think that there will always be the problem that she might get more conservative over the time and wanting you to get back to religion too. It is better to break up early than to get married and divorce then. Correct me if I'm wrong, but the far as I know a Muslim women can't live together with a infidel.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #75 - July 06, 2016, 03:33 PM
    Thanks everyone, for replying. Especially absurdist you were here throughout.

    Anyway I'm removing my above message for personal reasons. Enjoy your day!
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #76 - July 06, 2016, 03:36 PM
    Okay, would you like us to remove our responses, too?
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #77 - July 06, 2016, 03:46 PM
    No it's fine ElToro.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #78 - July 07, 2016, 11:34 AM
    my family wanna put me in jail they are not ashamed of it but were ashamed of letting me marry the ex christian syrian dude i love so they scared him and we broke up. I'm looking for new arab khaleeji partner maybe i thought it will stop this crazy idea of putting me in jail  Cry
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #79 - July 07, 2016, 05:24 PM
    Regarding what your former girlfriend told you about pressures on Muslim girls... she left out the pressures on Muslim girls and women to be "pure", "pious" and "modest", in addition to constantly pre-occupied with religion. That's been my experience when I was Muslim and wore a headscarf, anyhow.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #80 - July 07, 2016, 05:57 PM
    It's over now. I guess making it work wasn't going to happen.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #81 - July 07, 2016, 06:40 PM
    It sounds like you did what you could, though.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #82 - July 07, 2016, 06:59 PM
    Quote from: Bolton34 on July 07, 2016, 06:40 PM
    It sounds like you did what you could, though.


    I know she will have to reconcile why we met with her conscience. Is it a waste of time? Is there fate? Does God have a sense of humour? He has a cruel one if he does exist.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #83 - July 07, 2016, 07:06 PM
    Part of love is learning to let go. It doesn't stop hurting, but you learn to be happy for people even when you're not with them. It's an important life lesson and makes you a much happier person.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #84 - July 07, 2016, 07:41 PM
    I understand. But right now I need to allow myself to feel my emotions.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #85 - July 07, 2016, 07:43 PM
    I understand. Smiley
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #86 - July 08, 2016, 11:07 AM
    Wish you all the best Hsnake  far away hug
    Hope you'll find a better girl
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #87 - July 08, 2016, 11:27 AM
    Thank you Toro. I hope we all find what we want from life.
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #88 - July 09, 2016, 12:35 AM
    Quote from: ladybird on July 06, 2016, 09:33 AM
    Well for every person it depends. I met my bf when I was 15, we didn't have a relationship till I was 18. Never expected it tbh. And he considers himself a Muslim, even though he doesn't practice it. And my parents are just waiting for us to get engaged, the only thing they want. They met him already and they think he is a really good guy. They should know what we do haha. I think the greatest challenge here is the difference is religion. I don't believe at all and he does. So having kids will be hard... I want them to be free choosing whatever religion they want to choose. My bf wants them to be religious.
    So yeah that's my story Smiley


    Hey Ladybird, welcome back!  Smiley

    Even though I see potential challenges for you and your boyfriend, I do hope the best for you both. Let us know how things are going with him!
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • (Ex)Muslim dating
     Reply #89 - July 09, 2016, 04:46 PM
    Quote from: Hsnake on July 08, 2016, 11:27 AM
    Thank you Toro. I hope we all find what we want from life.


    Before finding the prince, expect to kiss a few frogs.
     grin12

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=n0WAJMgBYk8
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