The ideal of how a woman would like to be treated and how a man would like to be treated. I can not speak for when he talked about the needs of the women. But for men, he nailed our needs pretty damn accurate.
No, maybe from your perspective he hit the nail on the head in regards to how men view an ideal woman,
I meant he hit the nail on how men like to be treated and what men do not like.
but I know men who found themselves identifying with the womens description.
The things men hate, women will also not like. The things men love the most, women will still like. And vice versa.
The book is geared towards explaining the typical ESTJ man and ISFJ woman, man in cave, woman all needy of emotions, only men want fixer upper advice, women just want to rant.
Those are wrong generalisations, some women have caves, some women want the advice ONLY if it comes with an action plan, which would typically be a J orientated woman.
It is true that psychologists always like to break down people into personality types and scales so that they can measure them. And I have read about some of the German and Russian scales as well. Very interesting stuff. And generally speaking much more in detail and offers many more options then the polarized points offered by Gray. But what do you expect?
I read Gray in 2004 and the E/I S T/F J/P scale in 2006. I actually read the book and I can not even remember the name of that scale. I can barely remember what was my score and what type of personality I am or what the different traits stand for. But I still remember most of the points of Gray. And I understand that different people will have those points applied on them in different ways.
Gray followed the KISS Rule. Keep It Simple Stupid. And now 5yrs later i still remember him.
i.e. When Gray made a point that above all, men despise being held in contempt. It made me also think that women also do not like to be held in contempt. It made me realize that holding anyone in contempt is probably a good way to make enemies. Regardless of what or who they are.
As for this other scale you speak of. It is much more accurate. It is still not complete and does not cover all scenarios. But it's astronomical failure, is that it is too complex and now I forgot about it. Like I forgot about the Chemistry classes that I took in University.
Ultimately both systems are useful to me. Both systems got me to think and consider things like: Is this person chatting to vent, or chatting to ask for advice? Or whether this person is chatting because he/she is an extrovert who likes to think loud. Or is this person just plain friggin crazy?
Topic: My G/F & I (Update)