There's this hadith in Sahih Bukhari, the most famous collection of hadiths.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 16:
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
While we were returning from a Ghazwa (Holy Battle) with the Prophet, I started driving my camel fast, as it was a lazy camel A rider came behind me and pricked my camel with a spear he had with him, and then my camel started running as fast as the best camel you may see. Behold! The rider was the Prophet himself. He said, 'What makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, I am newly married " He said, "Did you marry a virgin or a matron? I replied, "A matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?"
Why did Mohammed even recommend virgin girls rather than matrons, the benefit of marrying a "virgin" being that she might play with him? This language is slightly disturbing to say the least.
I think you are missing the main point of this story. The lesson is not about marrying virgins. The moral is that camels are lazy, so if you are in a big hurry to get home and bang your wife, you should get a horse, or better yet a Dodge Charger.
Regardless of whether I'm missing the main point of the story or not, the story doesn't end there in this particular hadith, it continues. The
next part which I hadn't quoted is in bold.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 16:
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
While we were returning from a Ghazwa (Holy Battle) with the Prophet, I started driving my camel fast, as it was a lazy camel A rider came behind me and pricked my camel with a spear he had with him, and then my camel started running as fast as the best camel you may see. Behold! The rider was the Prophet himself. He said, 'What makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, I am newly married " He said, "Did you marry a virgin or a matron? I replied, "A matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?"
When we were about to enter (Medina), the Prophet said, "Wait so that you may enter (Medina) at night so that the lady of unkempt hair may comb her hair and the one whose husband has been absent may shave her pubic region.Camels are more conveninet than horses in many desert climates, & with the next part of the story, we can even conclude that the Prophet thought that its wrong to bang wives who haven't shaved their pubic regions!
Course, these issues might not even arise if the bride is a 9 year old like Ayesha.
What is
playing with virgins about?