I have never heard of men feeling intimidated by a girl making the first move. In fact that is every man’s fantasy. Men are not used to this kind of thing so they would feel super complimented by it. Even if they don’t find the girl attractive I doubt they would be rude or embarrass her because it would be a massive compliment to the guy’s ego. It is not like for women where guys are constantly hitting on them so they feel justified to be rude to guys because it gets tedious.
Not with my X, if I tried to hug him he'd get angry (most of the time), if I made the first move in the bedroom, he'd get really angry. And I mean really angry, 'cause he was "the man", THE MAN.
It was all about control - I was his property, I had to come at his beck and call, let him fuck me whenever he wanted, no matter how I felt about it. And in being his property, I had no right, in fact it was a big no no to make any advances no matter what, he felt like I was taking away his power in doing so. He had to have all the power, all the control, all of the time. I was HIS sex object, his sex toy. I had no such privileges. It was about ownership. If he gave me permission to hug him (like if I asked him and he said yes, which was rare), I could, or if he hugged me then I could hug him back, but I couldn't just go up to him and hug him. If I tried to initiate sex with him, he'd blow up so fast and I'd get a bashing (I think I only tried to initiate sex with him maybe twice), but if he wanted to have sex, then sex it was, no matter how I felt. If I tried kissing him, he'd backhand me. If he told me to do something, than I had to do it (like give him a blow job, massage, kiss etc...), but if I tried to initiate physical affection it was a big no no, or if I asked him to say kiss me on my neck 'cause it feels nice, he wouldn't do it and get angry and hit me 'cause I was acting like a man by asking for what I want. No wonder I never had an orgasm when with him.
So I rarely tried to initiate any physical affection towards him, it was a guaranteed way to get him really angry really quickly and probably end up with a punch in the face.
Mind you, he used to come home and tell me about how ALL the women who walked into the shop he was working in desperately wanted him (and I'd be thinking,
you're deluded mate) and he'd moan and moan about it, asking me how to stop women from wanting him. How to stop them from wanting to fuck him. He was very concerned about zina and was concerned that he might sleep with one of these women 'cause they all wanted him so badly.
He'd ask me what's wrong with women that they are all sluts and want him so badly. He'd say to me that I'm a woman, so what are those women thinking when they wear mini skirts and revealing clothing. Blah blah blah blah, he'd go on about their boobs etc, and he asked a few of the women who come into his shop if they would become second wife and couldn't understand why none of them would take him up on the offer. He said to me that the only reason they didn't want to become second wife was 'cause they are sluts and only want to have sex with him and nothing more.
Funny thing, is that the X is not that attractive, not to mention sporting a long black beard and wearing a jelabiyah most of the time, and acting like a pompous arrogant arsehole... so the chances that some woman would walk into the store and want to fuck him is very unlikely, it was more likely that they'd think he was a complete and utter wanker.
He used to try to convert women who'd come in the store, he'd try to convince them why polygamy is a good idea, he'd tell people why a wife needs to be taught a lesson at home by her husband (and wonder why the fuck no one took him up on his "second-wife" offer
) whilst he was on the phone with me - I'd have to listen to him telling these people these things more times than I can count when he'd call me at home from the shop whilst he was dealing with the customers. Aka giving dawah. He was a very good dawah giver, funny no one converted 'cause of him though.
Crazy wanker.
Topic: Women making the first move?