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  • Should I interject in a kids problem?
     OP - July 31, 2009, 08:05 PM
    So, basically this kid is being bullied by some other kids, right outside my house, shall I intervene? or shall I just leave it, as this is really part of normal growing up, I feel like doing something and helping this kid out, this is recurrent, I've seen him being bullied now for a few days, he is forced into doing things, for example the kids make him stand near a wall and then kick a ball at him hard. It is nothing that will kill him, but it is pretty fucked up, and what pisses me off is not even one kid is standing up for him, when I was that age I always stuck up for those who were bullied and in fact I was also bullied until someone stuck up for me, but non of these kids seem to stick up for this other kid.

    I just don't want to jump in there, and try to do something about it, unless I pay some kids to stick up for him, or something. I just feel really sorry for him.
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #1 - July 31, 2009, 11:10 PM
    Of course, I would certainly interject. I would even force them to stand against the wall and hurl footballs at them to see how it feels. I hate bullies with a vengeance.
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #2 - July 31, 2009, 11:36 PM
    You're an adult, they're kids. You use physical force even in the slightest and you are either going to jail, going to be beaten senseless by the bullies' parents or both. The only way to intervene without serious personal consequences is to talk to the parents, or rat the kids out to the school or civil authorities. I'd choose the former.

    There are plenty of adult bullies around that you can handle in a more direct manner.
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #3 - July 31, 2009, 11:43 PM
    Quote from: Q-Man on July 31, 2009, 11:36 PM
    You're an adult, they're kids. You use physical force even in the slightest and you are either going to jail, going to be beaten senseless by the bullies' parents or both. The only way to intervene without serious personal consequences is to talk to the parents, or rat the kids out to the school or civil authorities. I'd choose the former.

    There are plenty of adult bullies around that you can handle in a more direct manner.

    I doubt he knows the parents, whats wrong with at least talking to them, and politely asking them to stop it?
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #4 - July 31, 2009, 11:46 PM
    I agree with Q. But I also think you should friend yourself with the kid being bullied because most likely that kid has issue with love and care by the parents.
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #5 - July 31, 2009, 11:47 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on July 31, 2009, 08:05 PM
    So, basically this kid is being bullied by some other kids, right outside my house, shall I intervene? or shall I just leave it, as this is really part of normal growing up, I feel like doing something and helping this kid out, this is recurrent, I've seen him being bullied now for a few days, he is forced into doing things, for example the kids make him stand near a wall and then kick a ball at him hard. It is nothing that will kill him, but it is pretty fucked up, and what pisses me off is not even one kid is standing up for him, when I was that age I always stuck up for those who were bullied and in fact I was also bullied until someone stuck up for me, but non of these kids seem to stick up for this other kid.

    I just don't want to jump in there, and try to do something about it, unless I pay some kids to stick up for him, or something. I just feel really sorry for him.


    You have to talk to them King Tut.Where good people is quit,evil roam.
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #6 - July 31, 2009, 11:49 PM
    Quote from: Tommy on July 31, 2009, 11:46 PM
    I agree with Q. But I also think you should friend yourself with the kid being bullied because most likely that kid has issue with love and care by the parents.


    It is not the people who get bullied that have issues,is the bullies.
    And far to often they get away with it!
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #7 - July 31, 2009, 11:51 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on July 31, 2009, 08:05 PM
    this is recurrent, I've seen him being bullied now for a few days, he is forced into doing things, for example the kids make him stand near a wall and then kick a ball at him hard. It is nothing that will kill him, but it is pretty fucked up, and what pisses me off is not even one kid is standing up for him,

    There's no way I could just sit there and watch it happen.  The authorities wont take it seriously or will take too long to act, by that time he could be emotionally scarred for life.
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #8 - July 31, 2009, 11:52 PM
    Quote from: marleya on July 31, 2009, 11:49 PM
    It is not the people who get bullied that have issues,is the bullies.
    And far to often they get away with it!


    It goes both way. The kids who are bullies have issues, but the kid who is being bullied does too. I mean, the kid that is bullied probably has problem communicating with his parents which is why he is quite and not standing up for himself. If he had a healthy relationship with his parents, he'd be more willing to stand up for himself.
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #9 - July 31, 2009, 11:54 PM
    Quote from: IsLame on July 31, 2009, 11:51 PM
    There's no way I could just sit there and watch it happen.  The authorities wont take it seriously or will take too long to act, by that time he could be emotionally scarred for life.


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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #10 - August 01, 2009, 12:01 AM
    Quote from: Tommy on July 31, 2009, 11:52 PM
    It goes both way. The kids who are bullies have issues, but the kid who is being bullied does too. I mean, the kid that is bullied probably has problem communicating with his parents which is why he is quite and not standing up for himself. If he had a healthy relationship with his parents, he'd be more willing to stand up for himself.


    I dont belive it is like this.Why people dont stand for them selves against many bullies is not so strange.
    And bullies dont operate alone.

    I know people who have been bullied in school,that have loving parents and communication.And it is always the one being bullied that have to change school.
    We like to look at it,as it is the one bullied,that have propblem,not the gang of bullies,that come from appearently good homes.

    I agree with Islame,I could never have watched this,and I dont like bullies.
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #11 - August 01, 2009, 12:01 AM
    Quote from: IsLame on July 31, 2009, 11:43 PM
    I doubt he knows the parents, whats wrong with at least talking to them, and politely asking them to stop it?


    Nothing wrong with that. Hell, nothing wrong with yelling at the kids even and telling them to beat it or you're calling the cops, but if these kids have big enough balls on them it's possible they could put Tut in an impossible situation. Best to yell from the window to avoid any possible physical confrontation, then after the bullies turn tail, go talk with the bullied kid, maybe take him back to his parents and tell them what you saw.
    fuck you
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #12 - August 01, 2009, 12:06 AM
    sounds like a good action plan
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #13 - August 01, 2009, 12:07 AM
    Quote from: marleya on August 01, 2009, 12:01 AM
    I dont belive it is like this.Why people dont stand for them selves against many bullies is not so strange.
    And bullies dont operate alone.

    I know people who have been bullied in school,that have loving parents and communication.And it is always the one being bullied that have to change school.
    We like to look at it,as it is the one bullied,that have propblem,not the gang of bullies,that come from appearently good homes.

    I agree with Islame,I could never have watched this,and I dont like bullies.


    Neither do I like bullies, but the communication problem I was referring to does not simply mean the kid has trouble talking with the parents. You could have a father who expects too much from the kid. Sure he asks him how his day was and shit, but if the kid knows the father will be dissapointed at his son for not having the balls for fighting the bullies, then you could see where the problem with proper communication lays. Besides, it can be other issues too. I sincerely believe if the bullied kid was telling his parents he was being bullied, the parents wouldn't do anything about it (if the parents were caring). A lot of times the bullied kids decides to stay the victim because there he feels he faces rejections from every end.

    Also the bullied kids are not ALWAYS innocent. Let's keep that one in mind. I've known kids who were bullied but its was simply because they provoked the bullies.
    Call me TAP TAP! for I am THE ASS PATTER!
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #14 - August 01, 2009, 12:15 AM
    If the kid is really being bullied, then why does he continue to hang around with them?
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #15 - August 01, 2009, 12:34 AM
    Quote from: IsLame on August 01, 2009, 12:15 AM
    If the kid is really being bullied, then why does he continue to hang around with them?


    That's another thing too. Not communicating with the parents well can lead to self esteem issues.
    Call me TAP TAP! for I am THE ASS PATTER!
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #16 - August 01, 2009, 04:45 AM
    Quote from: Q-Man on August 01, 2009, 12:01 AM
    nothing wrong with yelling at the kids even and telling them to beat it or you're calling the cops

    Do this. Go out mean and threatening, but don't do anything. "Oy! Back the fuck off that kid, or I'm gonna be forced to whupp some ass!" Just come chargin on em, stompin like you mean business, and they should run away like little pussies. Afro If you're not confident in your own skills as a Bad-Mutha-Fucka-Who-Don't-Take-No-Shit-From-NobodyTM, have somebody with you.
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #17 - August 01, 2009, 07:18 AM
    I would definitely interject. I was so sad when I heard about the two 11 year olds that killed themselves due to bullying, in the States  Cry
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #18 - August 01, 2009, 01:32 PM
     I would go out and point out to them how cowardly it is for a gang of kids to be picking on one boy .If i had the opportunity I might try and have a word with the bullied boy on his own and ask him what's going on and try and encourage him to stick up for himself . It's difficult because I do think kids benefit from learning to handle these things on their own but it can be difficult to spot when the situations spilled over from normal childhood stuff to something really serious
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #19 - August 01, 2009, 04:07 PM
    They are doing it again too today but with another kid. These kids are really fucked up, throwing fireworks at each other. I called the police and they basically just ignored me. 
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #20 - August 01, 2009, 04:13 PM
    Iimagine that kid was you, stop curtain twitching and do something about it.
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #21 - August 01, 2009, 07:37 PM
    I might kick the shit out of them, you know how kids are like they get funny with you and piss you off. So actually I am scared of them in case I lose my temper and beat the shit out of them. I'm never making that mistake where I am forced to do anger management by the courts that was two years of pure hell. So I stay away from things. 
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  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #22 - August 02, 2009, 06:58 AM
    Do you know these kids ? Is talking to their parents an option ?
  • Re: Should I interject in a kids problem?
     Reply #23 - August 02, 2009, 07:02 AM
    Quote from: IsLame on August 01, 2009, 04:13 PM
    Iimagine that kid was you, stop curtain twitching and do something about it.


    +1
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