Hello everyone
to follow on from what was said in the previous thread, 'why I am sick of being from Pakistan'...I would like to add my own experiences of why I am sick of Bangladeshi society:
Ok...firstly they are an incredibly jealous, and I mean JEALOUS people who are so jealous they don't even know they are jealous. Its become so normalized for them to always try to ruin eachother and mess eachother up...'ruin' being the operative word here for a people obsessed with consistent mental and psychological 'kicking'. I couldn't understand why, for so many years they were thatttt jealous- its called 'Hingshaa' in the language. They really do enjoy wearing someone down and will go to great lengths to puff themselves up and feel 'big', by torturing someone else. Even during my brother's wedding recently they went and tried to ruin his wedding card invitations (long story), just so they can feel 'big' ------ they do plenty of other horrible things.
They have this obsession with being really manipulative and really sly and like the Pakistani thing obsess over every little thing they can find, gnawing at it to try to make someone look as bad as possible. You have to tread really carefully who you mix with, when and how etc and all the little intricate rituals incase they get 'offended'. Its really stifling being amongst them often because it seems everything is like a 'game' to them, and you have to follow all their stupid introcate rules otherwise you are branded 'stupid'.
They are incredibly arrogant people who have this pervasive tendency to think they know everything. Whichever types, be it the religious types, or the middle class wannabe types or the fashionable 'ssstandard' types as they are called etc, they always think when they do something its sooo big and that nobody else in the whole world does that. If they do, then its surely not as good as them. They always believe that their culture/community has everythinnnggg when deep down Bangladesh is such a rotten corrupt society and they know it. Their obnoxiousness means they can;t tolerate anything even slightly different to their own (even a slight diversion in the way you serve tea to them will be met with incredible scrutiny and they will take that as an opportunity to put you down). Quite often openly they will just dismiss people as 'stupid, 'they don't know anything' because they just think theyyyy know everything.
They hardly ever see what they do to others. All the time its you who is this or that or what you said to them, and then anything they do is conveniently ignored or downplayed. This blindness to their own nasty characters often means its hell being amongst them because they will kick you, bully you, make fun of you etc and do plenty more yet even one small word from you- wow they are immediately the victims. Its therefore very hard to reason with them because they have trouble actually seeing what they do to others, even if they have hurt that person just five minutes before they will still think they are victims. The lack of empathy is quite common, just sitting their with their snotty nosed faces and cups of tea, not having a clue what they have done. Its very difficult to reason with Bangladeshis.
There are LOADS more stuff but for now that will do. All I can say is being amongst them is alwayys being on a psychological treadmill which never ends. They just don't see what they do to others. Whats sad is they actually think that they are really 'clever' people and 'strong' for kicking someone down. Why on earth these people trumpet Islam, in the UK for example is beyond me...
Anyway thats it for now...
Take care
Marmalade Lady
Topic: Why I am also sick of Bangladeshi society...