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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #150 - February 28, 2008, 05:01 PM
    If you don't want to sideline your integrity to forgive your father , then I support your decision. I hope you can talk to your friend close at hand ( im sure you have) and she will probably be able to counsel you better in a face to face interaction!

    I always clutched onto my little sister when we were walking about the sisters, i'm extremely paranoid..I get worried if she's going to the corner shop to buy some candy is a little late. I know it isn't nowhere near the same as being a parent , but I can relate to wanting to protect your children from any harm.. and how much it weighs down on a mother, especially a single mother ..

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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #151 - February 28, 2008, 05:48 PM
    hey berbs, not sure if you'll welcome my two peneth, as people have already offerd advice.

    I remember reading you said that you do love your dad, because he is your dad, well I have a thought on that that may help ease things for you.

    how about going to your dad and saying something along the lines of.

    because you are his daughter this is the only reason you still love him, but right now you cant forgive him of his actions towards you, if he accepts you for who you are and acknowledges the things he done were wrong and that he shows true remorse and gives a meaningful apology then maybe it could be a start.

    i feel this way the ball is firmly in his court.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #152 - February 28, 2008, 05:52 PM
    Nah blossom, tried all of that through the years, the rejection is always difficult to cope with after.

    I prefer having the ball in my court on this one, he won't ever acknowledge his mistakes, nor will he ever accept me as I am.  I know my father, he has no surpises to offer me on this one.  no

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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #153 - February 28, 2008, 05:57 PM
    Quote from: diotima on February 28, 2008, 04:52 PM


    as to 2) - as for your kids... bummer! Am glad nothing serious happened. It´s probably good, mum´s aren´t always around to see what their kids do... small miracles, that we survive childhood, anyway. When I think of all the dangerous stuff I did.... and I was a well-behaved, easy kid! Of course, we catholics believe in guardian angels... just today, I remember that classical pic we had in our nursery, of the little brother and sister walking hand in hand and alone over a dangerously narrow bridge over a fuming river, and the angel walking behind, watching them... sorry, I know, this doesn´t speak to you, Berbs. Just rambling.


    I emember all the dangerous games I played as a child  hiding boy does age make you aware of your mortality.

    Quote from: Witzbold on February 28, 2008, 05:01 PM
    If you don't want to sideline your integrity to forgive your father , then I support your decision. I hope you can talk to your friend close at hand ( im sure you have) and she will probably be able to counsel you better in a face to face interaction!


    I couldn't go to my friend about this one, not only is she totally busy with her new man (which means friends get forgotten) but she is also unable to understand this choice.  She doesn't forgive people, ever, so she would only ever advise me not to forgive.  I needed to hear different points of view, to come to a balanced decision that didn't feel like my friend had made it.

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    I always clutched onto my little sister when we were walking about the sisters, i'm extremely paranoid..I get worried if she's going to the corner shop to buy some candy is a little late. I know it isn't nowhere near the same as being a parent , but I can relate to wanting to protect your children from any harm.. and how much it weighs down on a mother, especially a single mother ..

     hugs


     hugs It's bloody tough, I never realised what a scaredy cat mum I would be lol
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #154 - February 28, 2008, 07:17 PM
    1.) Maybe you will forgive your father one day and then it might be too late. Everything is finite... It ends at one point. What matters is the people you get to know, and spend time with (good and the bad) everything else in life is inconsequential, its relationships and and how you interact with people around you that matters. After you die, you live through the memories of others.

    2.) Well your child has mental problems... So you should be more careful when you take him out. At the end of the he is your responsibility and if you feel you cannot look after him, and he could/would put his life in risk then you should take someone with you who can help you. Or you should consider if your outing is really necessary taking him with you. You should have more control over your child.
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #155 - February 28, 2008, 07:23 PM
    who the fuck are you to be speaking to berbs in such an ignorant manner, have you got kids, have you had problems with your dad and family, I dont care if I get a warning for this as I feel justifiable in saying it, KaTie your a cunt.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #156 - February 28, 2008, 07:23 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 07:17 PM
    1.) Maybe you will forgive your father one day and then it might be too late. Everything is finite... It ends at one point. What matters is the people you get to know, and spend time with (good and the bad) everything else in life is inconsequential, its relationships and and how you interact with people around you that matters. After you die, you live through the memories of others.


    No, it's me and how I feel that shapes my life, people are a secondary thing. 

    I have thought about this, if it is too late, then it is too late, he is a grown man too.

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    2.) Well your child has mental problems... So you should be more careful when you take him out. At the end of the he is your responsibility and if you feel you cannot look after him, and he could/would put his life in risk then you should take someone with you who can help you. Or you should consider if your outing is really necessary taking him with you. You should have more control over your child.


    Now notice how you placed all the blame on me, you ignored the fact that it's tough having 3 kids on the road with me, didn't identify with the situation at all, that was a typical ISTJ response, the same kind of crap my ex would come out with.

    Looking after kids is no easy picnic, and shit happens, sometimes with no one to blame.  Roll Eyes
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #157 - February 28, 2008, 07:25 PM
    Quote from: blossom76 on February 28, 2008, 07:23 PM
    who the fuck are you to be speaking to berbs in such an ignorant manner, have you got kids, have you had problems with your dad and family, I dont care if I get a warning for this as I feel justifiable in saying it, KaTie your a cunt.


    Bloss don't worry about it on my behalf, that was just KT being KT, doesn't bother me.  So no more swearing, or you are on the naughty step for the rest of the evening.  Tongue
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #158 - February 28, 2008, 07:27 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla

    I couldn't go to my friend about this one, not only is she totally busy with her new man (which means friends get forgotten) but she is also unable to understand this choice


    She does have a right to a social life. I only see my friend like once a month not even that sometimes, I can't be there for him when he needs me... He is an INFP. He also gets pissed off me too, he is too sudden to want me to abandon my freinds which don't get along with him. Which just pisses me off. And he goes on about how he has done so much for me over the years... I've noticed this about INFPs you start to get indebted to them, strangely.
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #159 - February 28, 2008, 07:28 PM
    I apologise unreservedly to berbs and everyone else for my outburst (bar you KaTie) in berbs blog, but that comment really incensed me.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #160 - February 28, 2008, 07:29 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 07:27 PM


    She does have a right to a social life. I only see my friend like once a month not even that sometimes, I can't be there for him when he needs me... He is an INFP. He also gets pissed off me too, he is too sudden to want me to abandon my freinds which don't get along with him. Which just pisses me off. And he goes on about how he has done so much for me over the years... I've noticed this about INFPs you start to get indebted to them, strangely.


    There is having a right to a social life, and then there is forgetting your friends, I do know how to seperate the two you know?  Roll Eyes
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #161 - February 28, 2008, 07:43 PM
    Quote from: blossom76 on February 28, 2008, 07:23 PM
    who the fuck are you to be speaking to berbs in such an ignorant manner, have you got kids, have you had problems with your dad and family, I dont care if I get a warning for this as I feel justifiable in saying it, KaTie your a cunt.


    I think its insulting to her, you defending her, as if she incapable of defending herself. One does not have to have kids to know how kids act and how to look after kids.
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #162 - February 28, 2008, 07:45 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 07:43 PM

    I think its insulting to her, you defending her, as if she incapable of defending herself. One does not have to have kids to know how kids act and how to look after kids.


    To be fair, I believe they do. 
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #163 - February 28, 2008, 07:51 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on February 28, 2008, 07:45 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 07:43 PM

    I think its insulting to her, you defending her, as if she incapable of defending herself. One does not have to have kids to know how kids act and how to look after kids.


    To be fair, I believe they do. 


    False, majority of baby sitters don't have their own children and look after others children and do a pretty good job.

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    Now notice how you placed all the blame on me, you ignored the fact that it's tough having 3 kids on the road with me, didn't identify with the situation at all, that was a typical ISTJ response, the same kind of crap my ex would come out with.


    I'm not trying to be a dick... Am just saying is how I see it. Really, I still think you should have more control as a mother... The kids should know how to behave, I mean they need to be disciplined from a young age. Maybe I just look at things from a different point of view.   
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #164 - February 28, 2008, 07:55 PM
    Tutsie - you don´t have to TRY, to be a dick... you just ARE! Duh!  whistling2
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #165 - February 28, 2008, 07:55 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 07:51 PM

    False, majority of baby sitters don't have their own children and look after others children and do a pretty good job.


    Being a babysitter is not the same as being a full time parent.

    Quote


    I'm not trying to be a dick... Am just saying is how I see it. Really, I still think you should have more control as a mother... The kids should know how to behave, I mean they need to be disciplined from a young age. Maybe I just look at things from a different point of view.   


    Speaking from a place of inexperience as usual.  Roll Eyes
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #166 - February 28, 2008, 07:59 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on February 28, 2008, 07:55 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 07:51 PM

    False, majority of baby sitters don't have their own children and look after others children and do a pretty good job.


    Being a babysitter is not the same as being a full time parent.

    Quote


    I'm not trying to be a dick... Am just saying is how I see it. Really, I still think you should have more control as a mother... The kids should know how to behave, I mean they need to be disciplined from a young age. Maybe I just look at things from a different point of view.   

     

    Speaking from a place of inexperience as usual.  Roll Eyes


    The government supports you. They give you money... And most of the time, the kids are at school. So its not really a full time job really is it. If kids are messing around and giving you a hard time, you need to hire a babysitter.

    Fuck it Berbs, I don't want to argue with you.
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #167 - February 28, 2008, 08:01 PM
    Quote from: diotima on February 28, 2008, 07:55 PM
    Tutsie - you don´t have to TRY, to be a dick... you just ARE! Duh!  whistling2


    Well, thats why women keep coming to me to get some then I guess?
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #168 - February 28, 2008, 08:01 PM
    yeah like someone that hasnt got a clue!
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #169 - February 28, 2008, 08:02 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 07:59 PM


    The government supports you. They give you money... And most of the time, the kids are at school. So its not really a full time job really is it. If kids are messing around and giving you a hard time, you need to hire a babysitter.

    Fuck it Berbs, I don't want to argue with you.


    Since when have all my kids been in school? :-\, what paradise is it you are envisioning for parenthood?  sheesh you are very naive about this if you think it's all plain sailing.

    I wish I could say you will have a rude awakening when you finally have kids, but since I know what a chauvanist you are, your wife will bear the brunt of raising them, and whenever they have accidents, as kids do, you will blame your wife.  Your little ISTJ world of rigid rules stays safe.  Roll Eyes

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #170 - February 28, 2008, 08:07 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on February 28, 2008, 08:02 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 07:59 PM


    The government supports you. They give you money... And most of the time, the kids are at school. So its not really a full time job really is it. If kids are messing around and giving you a hard time, you need to hire a babysitter.

    Fuck it Berbs, I don't want to argue with you.


    Since when have all my kids been in school? :-\, what paradise is it you are envisioning for parenthood?  sheesh you are very naive about this if you think it's all plain sailing.

    I wish I could say you will have a rude awakening when you finally have kids, but since I know what a chauvanist you are, your wife will bear the brunt of raising them, and whenever they have accidents, as kids do, you will blame your wife.  Your little ISTJ world of rigid rules stays safe.  Roll Eyes




    Firstly, I've put my wife on contraceptives. I know its not easy to look after kids, its hard. I admit it. That's why I know I am not ready to have kids yet... If I have kids and then can't look after them, its a cop'out to blame the kids. I made them, they are my responsibility. I can't blame them for shit, it all the parents fault. But I understand your situation was slightly different, and I should be a little sensitive. Maybe in your case its an exception and its hard to look after kids.
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #171 - February 28, 2008, 08:08 PM
    and on the subject of nannies babysitters, legaly they have to be trained and registerd with local authorities!
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #172 - February 28, 2008, 08:08 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 08:07 PM


    Firstly, I've put my wife on contraceptives.


    Nice to see your making decisions for your wifes body now that you own it.

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    I know its not easy to look after kids, its hard. I admit it. That's why I know I am not ready to have kids yet... If I have kids and then can't look after them, its a cop'out to blame the kids. I made them, they are my responsibility. I can't blame them for shit, it all the parents fault. But I understand your situation was slightly different, and I should be a little sensitive. Maybe in your case its an exception and its hard to look after kids.


    Who said there had to be any blame?  ACCIDENTS HAPPEN, are you able to see that or not?
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #173 - February 28, 2008, 08:12 PM
    he's been learning from the accident helpline berbs, where theres blame theres a clame, so from that stance for any accident someone is to blame.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #174 - February 28, 2008, 08:13 PM
    Quote from: blossom76 on February 28, 2008, 08:12 PM
    he's been learning from the accident helpline berbs, where theres blame theres a clame, so from that stance for any accident someone is to blame.


    Those places must have been invented by ISTJ's.  Cheesy
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #175 - February 28, 2008, 08:16 PM


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    Nice to see your making decisions for your wifes body now that you own it.


    Well I didn't marry her to have kids with her. I married her for emotional security, and physical needs.
    Quote
    Who said there had to be any blame?  ACCIDENTS HAPPEN, are you able to see that or not?


    Fair enough.
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #176 - February 28, 2008, 08:18 PM
    But I don't completely agree with you.
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #177 - February 28, 2008, 08:20 PM
    Quote from: King Tut on February 28, 2008, 08:18 PM
    But I still don't agree with you.


    Wouldn't have dared to dream that you would.  015
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  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #178 - February 29, 2008, 03:42 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on February 28, 2008, 04:45 PM


    I swear my heart jumped so badly, time really did seem to slow down, I ran out and grabbed him back but I was so shaken uo I became emotional.

    Kids are so draining, the responsibility.....arghhhhhhh  Cry


    Know what you mean. I had a dream about my daughter running out in front of a lorry a few months back. The following weekend, the exact same scene happened on a busy road, with her darting off to get to an ice cream van on the other side, neither of us could see what was coming because of a parked van, my hands were full,  holding shopping bags, so I blocked her with my leg just stopping her as a lorry whizzed by. Just thinking about it again get my heart rate up. Shocked
    Ha Ha.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #179 - February 29, 2008, 07:04 PM
    See, another parent understood that sensation, it's horrible.  Even thinking of my parents dying doesn;t bring me the same anguish as the thought of my own kids dying.  wacko

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    Tomorrow is my princess's birthday, and the theme of the party is princesses.  I have pink everything, including 4 (just incase 3 isn't enough) massive banners, that reach from floor to ceiling and turn the room into a pink palace.  dance

    I have fairy balloons, fairy plates, cups, napkins, fairy birthday cake, and outfit for the princess.  Various toys for making the pass the parcels this evening, yada yada more details.

    I think I am looking foward to this almost as much as her, I really got to splash out on the little girl in me with this party, heck if it wasn't stupid, I would be in a princess dress too, with some fairy wings and a tiara, but I think the other mothers might giggle about me.  whistling2

    Having a daughter is fun most of the time, boys are great bit ickle girls are ickle dolls that you can dress up and play tea parties with well into your twilight years.  grin12
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