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  • Re: Making new friends
     Reply #1020 - October 15, 2008, 08:24 PM
    Quote from: Jack Torrance on October 15, 2008, 05:02 PM


    Use the famous ice breaker, just politely but firmly ask her what the fuck's stuck up their arse.  She'll get the joke, laugh and you'll be no nonsense,  best buddies for life.


    I'm trying to win friends Jack not frighten them away even more  Tongue

    Quote from: King Tut on October 15, 2008, 06:28 PM


    Ask her about her hobbies, what does she like doing, what kind of music she likes what does she like reading, ask about her background is she English? etc... If she has grown up in the area. I find when I make new friends I look at for 4 main things.

    1. Mainly the persons intelligence if the person is lacking in intellect or I don't think I will learn anything from them, its unlikely I would further advance the discussion.

    2. If the person is genuine and honest, someoen you can talk to without the fear of it being broadcast to the whole city.

    3. Independence, must be independent, and be ok with no seeing me for like 6 months in a time and still be OK with that, as sometimes I hit the hibernation switch.  

    4. Has to be responsible but not boring, such as not being into wanting to break the law, or too domineering.

    I have maybe two such friends in real life, although both are slightly anti-social.    


    Honestly I don't look for much more than a certain spark that happens when two like minded people meet and so far she seems like my sort of person.

    I sometimes go to the cafe with another mother but I honestly don't feel a connection of like minds and I am looking for some new BFF's.   bunny
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1021 - October 15, 2008, 09:08 PM
    I like Cheetah's plan. Kids are always good ice breakers for mothers. Ask kid to tea. Give mum coffee when she picks kid up. Or something like that. Whatever. Just chill out.
    Devious, treacherous, murderous, neanderthal, sub-human of the West. bunny
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1022 - October 21, 2008, 12:50 PM
    Quote from: osmanthus on October 15, 2008, 09:08 PM
    I like Cheetah's plan. Kids are always good ice breakers for mothers. Ask kid to tea. Give mum coffee when she picks kid up. Or something like that. Whatever. Just chill out.


    hah well i didn't even need to implement Cheetahs plan lol because I asked her to the cafe this morning and then from there we went back to hers and drank wine and breezers, and she made a super tasty lunch.

    It was great and I felt good because obviously making friends is easier than I have somehow ended up believing lol  Cheesy

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1023 - October 21, 2008, 09:39 PM
     Afro Good stuff. So does she think you're a lesbian yet?  Cheesy
    Devious, treacherous, murderous, neanderthal, sub-human of the West. bunny
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1024 - October 22, 2008, 11:02 AM
    Quote from: osmanthus on October 21, 2008, 09:39 PM
    Afro Good stuff. So does she think you're a lesbian yet?  Cheesy


    Nah, I'm saving that until I get her drunk and make my move.  Wink

    Only now I'm cheating on her because I went for coffee with another mum this morning.  This making friends and connections thing is easier than I had worked myself up into believing lol  bunny

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1025 - October 22, 2008, 11:06 AM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 11:02 AM
    Quote from: osmanthus on October 21, 2008, 09:39 PM
    Afro Good stuff. So does she think you're a lesbian yet?  Cheesy


    Nah, I'm saving that until I get her drunk and make my move.  Wink

    Only now I'm cheating on her because I went for coffee with another mum this morning.  This making friends and connections thing is easier than I had worked myself up into believing lol  bunny





    Why did you think it would be so difficult in the first place?
    Ha Ha.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1026 - October 22, 2008, 11:12 AM
    Quote from: Jack Torrance on October 22, 2008, 11:06 AM



    Why did you think it would be so difficult in the first place?


    Because of my self esteem and low confidence.  I just figured no one would really want to know me so why give them the chance to do the rejecting when I can just reject them from the off?

    For the last 4yrs of my life I have gone 6 months upwards with no contact with other people, just phone calls to a close friend but 6 months maybe more not actually meeting up with her or anything, just chatting on the net.  It's quite easy to lose your social skills if you lose your confidence and trust in people.

    Plus the 8yrs of "who would ever want to be your friend" "I'm the only one who wants you, I'm the only one who likes you" from my ex hubby and you get a bag of nerves who starts to actually believe that shit.

    I'm not even 100% sure that these connections with these women will develop into a friendship however it's taken me 4 yrs of being alone to even get to this stage of being prepared to try again, of putting myself out there and hoping I don't get let down all over again.  So it's an up and onwards time of my life.  parrot
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1027 - October 22, 2008, 11:20 AM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 11:12 AM
    Quote from: Jack Torrance on October 22, 2008, 11:06 AM



    Why did you think it would be so difficult in the first place?


    Because of my self esteem and low confidence.  I just figured no one would really want to know me so why give them the chance to do the rejecting when I can just reject them from the off?

    For the last 4yrs of my life I have gone 6 months upwards with no contact with other people, just phone calls to a close friend but 6 months maybe more not actually meeting up with her or anything, just chatting on the net.  It's quite easy to lose your social skills if you lose your confidence and trust in people.

    Plus the 8yrs of "who would ever want to be your friend" "I'm the only one who wants you, I'm the only one who likes you" from my ex hubby and you get a bag of nerves who starts to actually believe that shit.

    I'm not even 100% sure that these connections with these women will develop into a friendship however it's taken me 4 yrs of being alone to even get to this stage of being prepared to try again, of putting myself out there and hoping I don't get let down all over again.  So it's an up and onwards time of my life.  parrot



    It'll all be fine, don't worry. just don't hold too much store in other people. If you can rely on yourself, that's the hard bit over with.
    Ha Ha.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1028 - October 22, 2008, 11:23 AM
    Quote from: Jack Torrance on October 22, 2008, 11:20 AM



    It'll all be fine, don't worry. just don't hold too much store in other people. If you can rely on yourself, that's the hard bit over with.


    That's the hard part that I am still working on  Cheesy.  Don't worry though I have had plenty of practise recently with my best friend, I placed her on a pedestal and now she has been taken off, but unlike previously I have come to terms with the reasons and still love her and consider her a friend even if it is in a diminished capacity.

    Normally I would have withdrawn for even longer and been even more resentful of the human population.

    Honestly, humans are wierd, when my spaceship comes to take me back home I;m out of here. 001_tongue
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1029 - October 22, 2008, 11:28 AM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 11:23 AM

    Honestly, humans are wierd, when my spaceship comes to take me back home I;m out of here. 001_tongue



    Yeah, they, we, are. I can see why all those people joined the Heaven's Gate cult, I woullda been tempted by a flying saucer coming to rescue me Smiley
    Ha Ha.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1030 - October 22, 2008, 11:32 AM
    Quote from: Jack Torrance on October 22, 2008, 11:28 AM
    Yeah, they, we, are. I can see why all those people joined the Heaven's Gate cult, I woullda been tempted by a flying saucer coming to rescue me Smiley


     wacko I just had to look that cult up, fuck me what a bunch of nutters.  Every real alien knows that in order to get onto the spaceship you need a seventh level transport pod.  Roll Eyes
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1031 - October 22, 2008, 11:42 AM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 11:12 AM
    So it's an up and onwards time of my life.  parrot


    Good up
    Keep up making friends
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1032 - October 22, 2008, 11:58 AM
    Quote from: learn2bcalm on October 22, 2008, 11:42 AM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 11:12 AM
    So it's an up and onwards time of my life.  parrot


    Good up
    Keep up making friends


    Thanks learn2bcalm. hugs

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1033 - October 22, 2008, 01:05 PM
    Congratulations. You'll be most popular mum yet. lolz
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1034 - October 22, 2008, 01:13 PM
    Quote from: MSinghK on October 22, 2008, 01:05 PM
    Congratulations. You'll be most popular mum yet. lolz


    lol I doubt that will ever happen, I'm not extraverted enough to pull of that type of popularity, at least not anymore.  parrot
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1035 - October 22, 2008, 01:14 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 01:13 PM
    Quote from: MSinghK on October 22, 2008, 01:05 PM
    Congratulations. You'll be most popular mum yet. lolz


    lol I doubt that will ever happen, I'm not extraverted enough to pull of that type of popularity, at least not anymore.  parrot


    Still following the MBTI mollocks to the follocks then?
    It said I was INFP. lmao

    I dont know if it was INFP or summink else or what it means but........ yeah.  Afro

    Gollocks to the schmollocks
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1036 - October 22, 2008, 01:24 PM
    Quote from: MSinghK on October 22, 2008, 01:14 PM


    Still following the MBTI mollocks to the follocks then?
    It said I was INFP. lmao

    I dont know if it was INFP or summink else or what it means but........ yeah.  Afro

    Gollocks to the schmollocks


    Come on, even without MBTI you know that you are not a social crazy person, same as I do lol I much prefer quiet time alone at times, and I prefer having a few close friends, juggling too many buddies can be draining (because women can be bitchy in groups) (sorry bitches, but you are  Tongue)

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1037 - October 22, 2008, 01:25 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 01:24 PM
    Quote from: MSinghK on October 22, 2008, 01:14 PM


    Still following the MBTI mollocks to the follocks then?
    It said I was INFP. lmao

    I dont know if it was INFP or summink else or what it means but........ yeah.  Afro

    Gollocks to the schmollocks


    Come on, even without MBTI you know that you are not a social crazy person, same as I do lol I much prefer quiet time alone at times, and I prefer having a few close friends, juggling too many buddies can be draining (because women can be bitchy in groups) (sorry bitches, but you are  Tongue)




    Yeah bitches. lol

    Im not an INFP though, am I? That's a load of codswallop, pardon my language
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1038 - October 22, 2008, 01:26 PM
    Quote from: MSinghK on October 22, 2008, 01:25 PM


    Yeah bitches. lol

    Im not an INFP though, am I? That's a load of codswallop, pardon my language


    Try this link:

    http://www.discordia-inc.co.uk/misc/mbtitest.html

    You could be an INFP.  dance
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1039 - October 22, 2008, 01:27 PM
    try to stick to one answer for each question unless you really really can't decide between 2.
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1040 - October 22, 2008, 01:35 PM
    ISFP
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1041 - October 22, 2008, 01:35 PM
    Introversion (I): 11  versus Extroversion (E): 4 
    Sensing (S): 11  versus Intuition (N): 7 
    Thinking (T): 6  versus Feeling (F): 7 
    Judging (J): 4  versus Perceiving (P): 5 
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1042 - October 22, 2008, 01:40 PM
    Quote from: MSinghK on October 22, 2008, 01:35 PM
    ISFP


    I would have said ISTP, your F and T aren't far apart and your humour is very istp'ish.  Wink

    I even said to myself ages ago that you were an istp, man I just love it when I is right.

    You could be ISfP though, you'd be the first I've known for a prolonged amount of time.  bunny
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1043 - October 22, 2008, 01:41 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 01:40 PM
    Quote from: MSinghK on October 22, 2008, 01:35 PM
    ISFP


    I would have said ISTP, your F and T aren't far apart and your humour is very istp'ish.  Wink

    I even said to myself ages ago that you were an istp, man I just love it when I is right.

    You could be ISfP though, you'd be the first I've known for a prolonged amount of time.  bunny


    That means Im unique or some bollocks then innit?
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1044 - October 22, 2008, 01:48 PM
    Not as unique as me  Tongue, your type if ISFP is (8.8% roughly of the worlds population) or if ISTP (5.4% roughly of the population) whereas my type is (4.4% roughly)  Tongue  (figures need more research though lol)


    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1045 - October 22, 2008, 01:50 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 01:48 PM
    Not as unique as me  Tongue, your type if ISFP is (8.8% roughly of the worlds population) or if ISTP (5.4% roughly of the population) whereas my type is (4.4% roughly)  Tongue  (figures need more research though lol)





    That's good then.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1046 - October 22, 2008, 01:50 PM
    I know you still dont see them amount of yollocks in it.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1047 - October 22, 2008, 01:51 PM
    It's cookies and cream good  bunny

    Anyway must dash, got parents evening to attend, then other stuff to do, won;t be back until much later.

    Busy busy bumble bee Berbs.  dance
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1048 - October 22, 2008, 01:53 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 01:51 PM
    It's cookies and cream good  bunny

    Anyway must dash, got parents evening to attend, then other stuff to do, won;t be back until much later.

    Busy busy bumble bee Berbs.  dance


    Cookies and cream good?Huh? ftf?

    Bye. Ill see you in the afterlife
  • Re: Berbs Blog, much madness within
     Reply #1049 - October 22, 2008, 03:27 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on October 22, 2008, 11:12 AM
    Quote from: Jack Torrance on October 22, 2008, 11:06 AM



    Why did you think it would be so difficult in the first place?


    Because of my self esteem and low confidence.  I just figured no one would really want to know me so why give them the chance to do the rejecting when I can just reject them from the off?

    For the last 4yrs of my life I have gone 6 months upwards with no contact with other people, just phone calls to a close friend but 6 months maybe more not actually meeting up with her or anything, just chatting on the net.  It's quite easy to lose your social skills if you lose your confidence and trust in people.

    Plus the 8yrs of "who would ever want to be your friend" "I'm the only one who wants you, I'm the only one who likes you" from my ex hubby and you get a bag of nerves who starts to actually believe that shit.




    You sound almost exactly like my wife dear. Her ex husband is a Christian nutjob. And she still tells me she didn't think she could do any better than him, since he always told her no one else would want her. I have always told her he is manipulative little boy, whose greatest joy in life is making others miserable. He acts quite a bit like some of the worst examples I have read about on here.

    Just remember your ex's opinion is shit, you're better than he is. He is a little child who loves to manipulate, and derives great joy from making you and your family miserable. And frankly, the best way to get rid of extra stress in your life is to avoid any interaction with him.

    Our kids go from halfway normal teens, to little assholes, immediately after interacting with him. Which is why I keep such things to an absolute minimum. And he is to never physically see them. At least till they turn 18. He knows he isn't welcome at our house. I have already told him if I see him, I'll squeeze his neck till his head pops off. Not for myself, but for the lasting damage he has done to this family. furious
    I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I remain.
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