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  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #30 - July 23, 2010, 07:22 PM
    Quote from: DARKEYED9 on July 23, 2010, 07:21 PM
    Second grade or so

    I had the exact same problem and started speaking in second grade as well.
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #31 - July 23, 2010, 07:56 PM
    Abood :( I'll be moving out in a month and hopefully I won't return unless it's for a visit. But this month is taking too long!
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #32 - July 23, 2010, 07:58 PM
    Masturbate. Everyday. Three times a day. That's what I do when I'm bored. I do it until my dick starts hurting.

     bunny
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #33 - July 23, 2010, 08:46 PM
    I feel your pain Darkeyed....as an ex-muslim living in the closet in religion infested Nigeria....there are days i totally hate my life and situation of living a lie...but like some people here have already mentioned your security is far more important, and look on the bright side one month is not too far away so please hang in there..... far away hug Afro

    "There aint no devil, it's just God when he's drunk"- Tom Waits
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #34 - July 23, 2010, 09:13 PM
    Thanks everyone.  far away hug

    I feel like I only start posts when I have something to complain about. I need to stop that!
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #35 - July 23, 2010, 09:27 PM
    Don't worry, DarkEyed9. hugs
    That's one of the purposes of this forum -- to give young apostates a place to vent their frustrations, and seek advice; or just read about how other people are coping.  Many of us are a bit fucked-up because of how we were brought up.  I, personally, have learnt to live with it, and in fact, I am enjoying teaching myself the skills that I lack.  Just remember, success breeds confidence -- which in turn breeds more success.  Smiley
    "Many people would sooner die than think; In fact, they do so." -- Bertrand Russell

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  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #36 - July 23, 2010, 09:33 PM
    Quote from: DARKEYED9 on July 23, 2010, 09:13 PM
    Thanks everyone.  far away hug

    I feel like I only start posts when I have something to complain about. I need to stop that!


    No, you don't.   Smiley  Feel free to vent here anytime you need, its part of our raison d'etre.
    "Befriend them not, Oh murtads, and give them neither parrot nor bunny."  - happymurtad's advice on trolls.
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #37 - July 23, 2010, 09:34 PM
    you're only 18 o.o; wow well I'm only 19 anyway
    D: I know how you feel about the whole parents not letting you out
    my parents are kind of like that
    *__* I hope things get better for you soon~
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #38 - July 23, 2010, 09:38 PM
    My dads at work most of the time and I tell my mum I'm going to my cousin sisters flat even if I'm not lol so its kinda ok for me.
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #39 - July 23, 2010, 09:59 PM
    Darkeyed.... would you be willing to learn a new craft?

    Cities and towns usually have tons of fun things you can do that
    are halal, that wont raise any suspcions. I taught myself how to do
    beadwork, cross stitching, plymer clay art, needlepoint, wood working,
    making miniatures, and making jewelry ALL from

    www.about.com

    They offer caligraphy, and every form of art you can imagine!  Anything
    and everything you EVER wanted to know about, even japanese cooking lol
    is there! Smiley  type anything in the search box and voila!   It shows you step
    by step how to do it!

    Heres the page where i just typed in "needlework"
    but you can choose whatever you want.
    I found it most theraputic, especially being alone.  Helped take my mind off
    of so much crap ive been through, and instead able to make something
    beuatiful with that funky energy

    http://search.about.com/fullsearch.htm?terms=needlework&SUName=search
    When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
    Helen Keller
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #40 - July 24, 2010, 03:11 AM
    If you're cooped up I suggest learning an instrument.
    Buy an electric piano and learn how to play it! If you're allowed that is.  Huh?
    Bukhari 62:142 - Narrated Anas bin Malik:
       The Prophet used to pass by (have sexual relation with) all his wives in one night, and at that time he had nine wives.
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #41 - July 24, 2010, 02:31 PM
    Aren't all musical instruments except for the drum/duff supposed to be haram?
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #42 - July 24, 2010, 03:37 PM
    Views about music differ greatly between schools of thought.
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #43 - July 24, 2010, 04:12 PM
    most of us here are all in the same situation,especially living under lie, it's difficult that you can't have a decent conversation with a muslim friend without bringing the topic of religion into it.
    I just came home from college for weekend yesterday , and now am regretting for coming home.
    My Father built a mosque in our compound even though there is another one two blocks away from our home. so which means i have to pray 5 times there or else i will be in trouble with my father especially Subh prayer(it drives me crazy finmad anytime he comes to my room and wake me up) and not only that, I have attend every sermon that is taking place in our mosque. anytime we have a big quarrel with my dad is because i missed prayer seriously this has been going on since when i was 7 and he never gets tired of nagging anytime i missed one.i mean doesn't he ever think like "okay i have had enough of shouting at this boy for missing sallah" and then cut me some slack. thank god i am going to back to school tommorow.

    Darkeyed 9 stay strong and keep on hanging it's matter of time
    by the way it's ok to vent, there is nothing to be ashamed of far away hug
    "I'm standing here like an asshole holding my Charles Dickens"

    "No theory,No ready made system,no book that has ever been written to save the world. i cleave to no system.."-Bakunin
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #44 - July 24, 2010, 09:50 PM
    off topic.. naija.. i heard an egyptian lady say there were over 5,000 mosques
    in Cairo alone!  Shocked

    darkeyed. i hope you can find something to distract you, that you can find interest
    in, that wont be objectionable by your parents   far away hug
    When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
    Helen Keller
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #45 - July 24, 2010, 10:15 PM
    @Naija Infidel:

    That sucks man.  Sounds like your dad is a bit like mine.  finmad
    I left Islam a few years after graduating from university so my problems were slightly different to yours, and I had a bit more power to walk away from all the hell (which I did in the end).

    Hang in there, bro. hugs  I pretended to pray for many months.
    "Many people would sooner die than think; In fact, they do so." -- Bertrand Russell

    Baloney Detection Kit
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #46 - July 25, 2010, 12:48 AM
    Quote from: XxThaminaxX on July 24, 2010, 02:31 PM
    Aren't all musical instruments except for the drum/duff supposed to be haram?

    yes Removes you away from your dean, and fear of the after-life.
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  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #47 - July 25, 2010, 12:52 AM
    Most muslims I know listen to music  Roll Eyes
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #48 - July 25, 2010, 01:04 AM
    Quote from: XxThaminaxX on July 25, 2010, 12:52 AM
    Most muslims I know listen to music  Roll Eyes

    What most Muslims do & say is not necessarily representative of Islam (although it may be a sugar coated by-product).  What the books say & what the prophet said, that is the only real way of getting closer to the truth.

    Saudi Arabia is probably the closest example.
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  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #49 - July 25, 2010, 01:09 AM
    But even their I'm sure they buy CDs and DVDs. I think Harry Potter was banned there lol. Do you regard the current king as a reformer?
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #50 - July 25, 2010, 01:11 AM
    Quote from: IsLame on July 25, 2010, 01:04 AM
    What most Muslims do & say is not necessarily representative of Islam (although it may be a sugar coated by-product).  What the books say & what the prophet said, that is the only real way of getting closer to the truth.

    Saudi Arabia is probably the closest example.

    You pretend like there's one version of the "truth".

    Even within Islam there are many schools of thought which are accepted. Islam isn't a monolith; there's more to it than puritanism.
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #51 - July 25, 2010, 01:16 AM
    Quote from: Abood on July 25, 2010, 01:11 AM
    You pretend like there's one version of the "truth".

    Even within Islam there are many schools of thought which are accepted. Islam isn't a monolith.

    According to Muhammed there is one version of Islam.  People have bastardised this through the times for their personal desire & agendas. 

    If you read the Quran, hadith, sira and the life & times of the prophet, they its fairly consistent in their no-nonsense strongly conservative approach - and that is what I was getting at. 
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  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #52 - July 25, 2010, 01:21 AM
    I know that its explicitly mentioned that the duff is ONLY allowed so ppl from a deobandi family like myself are supposed to consider sufis to be innovators and misguided lol

    Can you imagine this music video being played in Riyadh? Clerics will blow themselves up in anger  finmad

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04fcgFs-mjA
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #53 - July 25, 2010, 01:33 AM
    Exactly lol - I was a deobandi too, its a tranquilised version of wahhabism but it is a relatively new movement that only began about 150 years ago and is predominantly with SE Asia.  No doubt heavily influenced by the wandering mystic peaceful sufi's that brought a lot of Islam to that area. That is changing with salafi petro-dollar influence from Saudi.

    Note sufi's are not only Muslims, but you get sufi's from all sorts of religions and music is a strong part of their culture.
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  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #54 - July 25, 2010, 01:35 AM
    Quote from: IsLame on July 25, 2010, 01:33 AM
    Exactly lol - I was a deobandi too, its a tranquilised version of wahhabism but it is a relatively new movement that only began about 150 years ago and is predominantly with SE Asia.  No doubt heavily influenced by the wandering mystic peaceful sufi's that brought a lot of Islam to that area. That is changing with salafi petro-dollar influence from Saudi.

    Note sufi's are not only Muslims, but you get sufi's from all sorts of religions and music is a strong part of their culture.


    I've never quite understood the difference between a deobandi and a wahhabi.  What do they differ in?
    "Modern man's great illusion has been to convince himself that of all that has gone before he represents the zenith of human accomplishment, but can't summon the mental powers to read anything more demanding than emoticons. Fascinating. "

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  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #55 - July 25, 2010, 01:41 AM
    Quote from: IsLame on July 25, 2010, 01:16 AM
    According to Muhammed there is one version of Islam.  People have bastardised this through the times for their personal desire & agendas. 

    If you read the Quran, hadith, sira and the life & times of the prophet, they its fairly consistent in their no-nonsense strongly conservative approach - and that is what I was getting at. 


    Actually, there's a hadith saying that there are many opinions within Islam and they are all accepted. Obviously that was to cover up Muhammad contradicting himself. I don't remember it, though.
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #56 - July 25, 2010, 01:46 AM
    Quote from: ras111 on July 25, 2010, 01:35 AM
    I've never quite understood the difference between a deobandi and a wahhabi.  What do they differ in?

    Deobandis dont have as strict an interpretation of the Quran, and have stresses on different areas e.g. there is a greater focus on the rituals with Deobandis, as opposed to the duties in the Quran.

    However with wider accessibility and translations available, rather than the chinese whispered version, the distinctions are becoming more blurred.
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  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #57 - July 25, 2010, 09:34 AM
    Quote from: XxThaminaxX on July 25, 2010, 01:21 AM
    I know that its explicitly mentioned that the duff is ONLY allowed so ppl from a deobandi family like myself are supposed to consider sufis to be innovators and misguided lol

    Can you imagine this music video being played in Riyadh? Clerics will blow themselves up in anger  finmad

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04fcgFs-mjA

    Actually there are many female Arab singers and tens of dedicated music channels that play such songs. Some of these channels' headquarters/studios are in Saudi Arabia. And the average Saudi receives all these channels on their satellite receiver. As to whether it is allowed to play these channels in cafes and such, I don't know.
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #58 - July 25, 2010, 06:02 PM
    I know there are a lot of
    Quote from: Abood on July 25, 2010, 01:41 AM
    Actually, there's a hadith saying that there are many opinions within Islam and they are all accepted. Obviously that was to cover up Muhammad contradicting himself. I don't remember it, though.


    I think that's sort of 1 reason why sunni islam is good there's no pope or ayatollah that has the final word there are differences of opinion the famous salafi scholar albani agreed that women should be allowed to drive and that the niqab is not necessary. I think as long as you have quote from the hadith you won't be deemed a heretic  yes
  • Re: Lonely
     Reply #59 - July 25, 2010, 11:39 PM
    Quote from: XxThaminaxX on July 25, 2010, 06:02 PM
    I know there are a lot of
    I think that's sort of 1 reason why sunni islam is good there's no pope or ayatollah that has the final word there are differences of opinion the famous salafi scholar albani agreed that women should be allowed to drive and that the niqab is not necessary. I think as long as you have quote from the hadith you won't be deemed a heretic  yes

    Your right, if you accept the hadith, there's a line that can justify anything, literally anything, you want yes

    That also includes murder & paedophilia unfortunately. 

    Not really a "clear" religion, but so what, thats another topic.
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