Any single "muslim" men or women getting harrased by parents to marry?

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Any single "muslim" men or women getting harrased by parents to marry?
OP - August 27, 2011, 06:00 AM

I'm just curious how your life is. I can see myself in your position soon after I graduate university >.>

*Imagining parents convo*

Mom: You have to get married, Quran demands it!
Dad: (as usual) yes I agree!
Mom: No slutty American women either, she has to be muslim and respectable (ugly in other words)
Me: FML!!!!! Why can't I stay single and you stop hassling me!

Sad thing is if I even get married I have no family here in the US so it would be an empty ceremony LOL
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Reply #1 - August 28, 2011, 04:59 PM

I'm in the same situation except 791 times worse as i'm a women and the man my parents are looking for will be full hardcore muslim. I've been given books and sent to 'darse' lessons where i'm being taught that my hisband is like my god, zhat after dowry is paid he assume full power of my body and i'm not allowed to deny him, that i am in sin if he sleeps with other women as i have failed to fulfill my duty and satisfy him :(

I am so worried and scared. I cannot even fit half a pinky up there how will i bear marital rape
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Reply #2 - August 28, 2011, 05:03 PM

My family are trying to get me to wed some saudi who happens to be my cousin's in law family member .. .. apparently they're all rich and liberal and educated but seriously I'd never say yes so they might as well give up already.

*off to skype with them now.
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Reply #3 - August 28, 2011, 05:20 PM

I haven't had any major harassment but I'm sure I'll be in for it in a few years. Right now they're just telling me to "keep a look-out for some basketball players" and to start planning my wedding right now. I tend to roll my eyes so hard I think they might fall out of my head.

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Reply #4 - August 28, 2011, 06:20 PM

My mum never pushed me. She wanted me to, told me I should, but she never pushed me. I was a man hater, I've had so many bad experiences with men in my life (them being bastards) that my mum totally understands this and knew why I couldn't find a guy to marry. If I'd stayed home and been muslim and never married, my mum would never have forced me. However, I never intended to live a man free life of celebacy- I don't want marriage but do want sex (relationships)!

The thing is though even without parental pressure there's a huge societal pressure- everyone looks at you like 'aww, nobody will marry her!'- when lame ass stupid girls in family got married they and their parents acted as though they'd achieved something awesome (bagging a 'bad boy' loser!) and would give me them looks, assuring me they'd find me someone. I felt like saying 'god damn it, men want me, lots of men! I don't want them so fuck you!'- tbh I'm better than any one of them asshole losers Grrrrrrrr
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Reply #5 - August 28, 2011, 07:38 PM

Quote from: Zaiba on August 28, 2011, 05:03 PM
My family are trying to get me to wed some saudi who happens to be my cousin's in law family member .. .. apparently they're all rich and liberal and educated but seriously I'd never say yes so they might as well give up already.

*off to skype with them now.

lol zaiba, i skyped with a suitor at a similar time LOL>

I wish parents everywhere could remove their veil of religion and see their kids for whom they actually are.
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Reply #6 - August 28, 2011, 08:22 PM

Family pressure aside, I want to get married myself. I just want to find my life partner and best friend (and the regular sex would be quite nice too), and I want to breed and be a daddy!

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Reply #7 - August 28, 2011, 08:26 PM

Hehe ... yeah mum has been negotiating ... apparently. I'm safe for 2 years I think.

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Reply #8 - August 28, 2011, 08:28 PM

Quote from: Shahid Raza on August 28, 2011, 08:22 PM
Family pressure aside, I want to get married myself. I just want to find my life partner and best friend (and the regular sex would be quite nice too), and I want to breed and be a daddy!

Nice!
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Reply #9 - August 29, 2011, 12:27 AM

Quote from: Shahid Raza on August 28, 2011, 08:22 PM
Family pressure aside, I want to get married myself. I just want to find my life partner and best friend (and the regular sex would be quite nice too), and I want to breed and be a daddy!

same here brother. but i dont wanna be a dad for a few years at least though. the regular sex, now thats another thing

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Reply #10 - August 29, 2011, 07:56 AM

Yup, the fact that my mum has been insinuating about the idea. I know they are going to start bothering me once i get a job. Well mum, prepare to be disappointed because im not going to marry any of my boring cousins

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Reply #11 - August 29, 2011, 08:49 AM

Quote from: Shahid Raza on August 28, 2011, 08:22 PM
Family pressure aside, I want to get married myself. I just want to find my life partner and best friend (and the regular sex would be quite nice too), and I want to breed and be a daddy!

Awww Shahid Raza you spoke like my dream man there.
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My parents are crazy.But I told them I wont marry
Reply #12 - October 18, 2011, 11:03 PM

They are like asking me to marry a nice girl and a respectable ugly girl.Who seems to be practicing Islam.Thats even worse. She isn't secular at all.Moreover I am a guy having alots of fetishes , which she wont understand in her whole life.So I am saying straight forward no. I hope I wont get married.
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Reply #13 - October 19, 2011, 10:27 AM

I wanna have like 5 years of regular sex before i even think about having any kids.

Good thing I can start on that before a marriage though.

But yes, my parents bug me from time to time. The most they've bothered me about it was when I was 21/22...introducing me to numerous suitors They've let up a bit now... But it's inevitable they will ask me about it again in the future. Gotta keep delaying by giving bullshit excuses until I'm in a position to be able to tell them the truth.

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Reply #14 - November 21, 2011, 07:26 PM

What country are you in? You need help from law enforcement agencies.
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Reply #15 - November 21, 2011, 07:27 PM

I suppose you could say that you're a polyandrist and have decided to marry Manchester United (with or without reserves).
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Reply #16 - November 21, 2011, 07:29 PM

Good for you. I suppose you could bring a few girlfriends home and explain that, if you do get married, they will be your bits on the side. See what your parents make of that, especially if you insist on your wife having at least six boyfriends to even things out.
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Reply #17 - November 21, 2011, 07:33 PM

Nah, I don't get any harrasment from parents, in fact... they hardly mention it! They've alway given us total freedom ever since we moved to the UK over 15 years ago.

But still........ I don't know how I will ever end up getting married now that I'm not a Muslim. I will never get married pretending that I'm a Muslim.... no matter how hot the girl is! FUCK ISLAM!
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