Once these words are published, there's no turning back for me, there's no more pretending or avoiding the issue with friends and family – some of whom will be hurt and feel insulted by what I write here, some will be disappointed and genuinely concerned that I am sabotaging the future of my eternal soul, and a few will be outraged and disgusted at the thought of having anything to do with an infidel, a kafir.
But my oldest, closest friends, the boys I went to primary school with, the boys I still hang out with pretty much every Friday night, the boys I consider brothers, already know I'm an atheist, just as they'd probably have known if I was gay.
It's not for them I've written this piece, it's not for my "uncles" or "aunts" either – in many ways I'd rather they didn't read it. I'd like to say that I've written this as a call to action, to encourage others like me to come out as atheists. But that would be far too grand an ambition. No, the truth is that I've written this for the same reason so many of us tweet or blog these days: to confirm to myself, and to let others know, that we are not alone.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/belief/2010/jun/05/god-atheism-islamand another article where he cricises Stephen Fry & other rationalists for speaking to the already converted & engaging in mutual mental masturbation (which we also admittedly do a lot here

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http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/blog/2010/oct/26/skeptics-pub-stephen-frybtw - i'll send him an invite here..