Parents don't care I left Islam

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OP - November 17, 2016, 02:33 AM

Hi,

I'm an Ex-Muslim who gradually lost faith over the course of a few months. I never had to 'come out' of the closet to my family. I just started becoming more and more vocally critical of Islam. They never really cared tbh. Every now and then they'll say I'm 'on the wrong path' but that's it. They even let me eat non-halal food at home now.

My dad's critical of Islam himself and follows it simply out of pressure from his social circle. My mum is a really moderate Muslim who is very critical of practices like polygamy.

My 'struggle' with leaving Islam wasn't external- it didn't come from dealing with family members, friends etc.

Instead my struggle was internal- I struggled to mentally come to terms with my identity as someone born Muslim who is no longer Muslim. I lost my sense of direction and purpose and developed depression and anxiety. That was my real struggle.

Anyone else with similar experiences, please share your thoughts/ stories. I feel quite out of place on CEMB for never having to deal with strict religious parents.
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Reply #1 - November 17, 2016, 04:10 AM

I think I remember there being one or more. Most of us can relate to the internal struggle, though.

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Reply #2 - November 17, 2016, 09:25 AM

drunkonbluewine presents a very interesting case in Islamand her journey out of Islam FOR NO GOOD REASON
Quote from: drunkonbluewine on November 17, 2016, 02:33 AM
Hi,

I'm an Ex-Muslim who gradually lost faith over the course of a few months. I never had to 'come out' of the closet to my family. I just started becoming more and more vocally critical of Islam. They never really cared tbh. Every now and then they'll say I'm 'on the wrong path' but that's it. They even let me eat non-halal food at home now.

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My dad's critical of Islam himself and follows it simply out of pressure from his social circle.
My mum is a really moderate Muslim who is very critical of practices like polygamy.

you have a great parents., and you are one hell of a lucky person ., So dear drunkonbluewine Stop drinking too much wine..or too much drink of "whatever going around in Islam" drink and welcome to CEMB., glad to read your classic post on personal problems with faith

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My 'struggle' with leaving Islam wasn't external- it didn't come from dealing with family members, friends etc.

Instead my struggle was internal- I struggled to mentally come to terms with my identity as someone born Muslim who is no longer Muslim. I lost my sense of direction and purpose and developed depression and anxiety. That was my real struggle.

Anyone else with similar experiences, please share your thoughts/ stories. I feel quite out of place on CEMB for never having to deal with strict religious parents.

I wonder whether you could answer these questions..

1) What actually do you mean by " someone born Muslim who is no longer Muslim."., I mean the way you wrote that sounds like " I am someone born as HUMAN BEING who is no longer HUMAN."

Why ?? ..Why can not you be a Muslim?? What are the conditions for you or for any one to be a Muslim?
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I lost my sense of direction and purpose and developed depression and anxiety. That was my real struggle.

That is horrible internal struggle., What direction and purpose you had before in your life as Muslim?? and WHY YOU LOST THAT NOW? I am pretty sure your struggles are common and discussion on such subjects will help others

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Reply #3 - November 17, 2016, 01:26 PM

Quote from: drunkonbluewine on November 17, 2016, 02:33 AM
Hi,

I'm an Ex-Muslim who gradually lost faith over the course of a few months. I never had to 'come out' of the closet to my family. I just started becoming more and more vocally critical of Islam. They never really cared tbh. Every now and then they'll say I'm 'on the wrong path' but that's it. They even let me eat non-halal food at home now.

My dad's critical of Islam himself and follows it simply out of pressure from his social circle. My mum is a really moderate Muslim who is very critical of practices like polygamy.

My 'struggle' with leaving Islam wasn't external- it didn't come from dealing with family members, friends etc.

Instead my struggle was internal- I struggled to mentally come to terms with my identity as someone born Muslim who is no longer Muslim. I lost my sense of direction and purpose and developed depression and anxiety. That was my real struggle.

Anyone else with similar experiences, please share your thoughts/ stories. I feel quite out of place on CEMB for never having to deal with strict religious parents.

Welcome to the forum drunkonbluewine!

You shouldn't feel at all out of place. That's very much the sort of story that I have experienced with my own apostasy from Islam. It's not an easy thing, even if you don't have that incredible parental pressure. The community, your friends, ad most of all one's sense of self, the prospect of losing all these things weighs on you, and it's easy to doubt one's own choice.

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Reply #4 - November 18, 2016, 02:13 PM

Hey welcome to the forum. Only one thing you can do to get over your internal struggle;

Find something that you are passionate about and dedicate your life to it

Also enjoy the good things that life can offer before you cease to exist.

Also you should see your apostasy as a blessing than a struggle.

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