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Question: Are you in a arranged marriage?
Are you in a arranged marriage? 2 (3.9%)
WERE you in an arranged marriage? 4 (7.8%)
WILL you be forced into an arranged marriage? 2 (3.9%)
Will you refuse to be in an arranged marriage? 12 (23.5%)
Have you/will you marry for love only? 31 (60.8%)
Total Voters: 51

Topic: Arranged Marriages

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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #60 - November 07, 2011, 08:55 PM

Quote from: SunbulRocket on November 07, 2011, 08:43 PM
I'm never ever ever going to get married, ever, at all. Wayyyyyyy too permanent.

Yeah, its suffocating innit?

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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #61 - November 07, 2011, 10:22 PM

Quote from: VHD on November 06, 2011, 02:26 AM
I don't believe in love or marriage

Love is the most important thing in life, marriage an optional extra.

Good luck, VHD.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #62 - November 07, 2011, 10:30 PM

Quote from: Jesus Christ on November 07, 2011, 08:44 PM
You live by the 3 Fs too, eh?

Not forgetting the 4 Rs - Reading, Riting, Rithmetic and Rogering.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #63 - November 20, 2011, 11:31 AM

It's getting to the point in my life where family are starting to nag me to get married (mother aunties etc) I keep telling them I'll never ever get married in my life and they just laugh

"Ours is the age which is proud of machines that think and suspicious of men who try to."
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #64 - November 20, 2011, 11:46 AM

Marrying for love!
Oh you romantic bunch of idealists!

Good luck!

Little Fly, Thy summer's play
My thoughtless hand has brushed away.

I too dance and drink, and sing,
Till some blind hand shall brush my wing.

Therefore I am a happy fly,
If I live or if I die.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #65 - November 20, 2011, 11:26 PM

Nothing wrong with good old-fashioned romance.

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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #66 - November 21, 2011, 05:22 AM

Quote from: Gladfly on November 20, 2011, 11:46 AM
Marrying for love!
Oh you romantic bunch of idealists!

Good luck!

What is your idea of a happy marriage, oh veritable font of scientific and pragmatic wisdom?

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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #67 - November 21, 2011, 06:59 PM

I must say I feel a bit left out. My aunt had two arranged marriages. Her first husband, whom everyone in the family loved, died so my grandmother found her someone else. The second one was obnoxious. Even so, at least she was offered someone...
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #68 - November 21, 2011, 07:44 PM

Quote from: Maya on November 20, 2011, 11:26 PM
Nothing wrong with good old-fashioned romance.

Marriage is a different beast than Romance.

Little Fly, Thy summer's play
My thoughtless hand has brushed away.

I too dance and drink, and sing,
Till some blind hand shall brush my wing.

Therefore I am a happy fly,
If I live or if I die.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #69 - November 21, 2011, 08:27 PM

Oh ok, so don't get a piece of paper that says you're married on it or throw a party and you can still be romantic.

Got it.

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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #70 - November 21, 2011, 08:33 PM

There is high failure rate when marriage is based purely on Romance.

Little Fly, Thy summer's play
My thoughtless hand has brushed away.

I too dance and drink, and sing,
Till some blind hand shall brush my wing.

Therefore I am a happy fly,
If I live or if I die.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #71 - November 21, 2011, 08:59 PM

sometimes i just want to get married and get it over with
it's not that i believe in marriage
but that i want stability
it just seems easier.
i've even contemplated telling my parents i want to get married
and them arranging something for me
but then i realized i would most likely not end up with someone i want to be with.
there's no easy way out.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #72 - November 21, 2011, 09:06 PM

Quote from: Gladfly on November 21, 2011, 08:33 PM
There is high failure rate when marriage is based purely on Romance.

Erm...maybe it's because they have the freedom to choose to leave an unhappy marriage...arranged marriage cases they have pressure to stick together even if they're unhappy, in an abusive relationship etc.

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." - Viktor E. Frankl

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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #73 - November 21, 2011, 11:48 PM

Quote from: Abood on November 21, 2011, 08:59 PM
sometimes i just want to get married and get it over with
it's not that i believe in marriage
but that i want stability
it just seems easier.
i've even contemplated telling my parents i want to get married
and them arranging something for me
but then i realized i would most likely not end up with someone i want to be with.
there's no easy way out.

But you're not Muslim anymore, so it's impossible for your parents to do arranged marriage right? Muslim girls aren't allowed to marry non-Muslim men.

Do you have a GF or do you date? Don't you think you'll be able to find someone on your own?
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #74 - November 21, 2011, 11:56 PM

Quote from: Gladfly on November 21, 2011, 07:44 PM
Marriage is a different beast than Romance.

Yes indeed but you can have both if you marry the right person.

"The greatest general is not the one who can take the most cities or spill the most blood. The greatest general is the one who can take Heaven and Earth without waging the battle." ~ Sun Tzu
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #75 - November 22, 2011, 02:04 AM

Quote from: EastMidlands on November 21, 2011, 06:59 PM
I must say I feel a bit left out. My aunt had two arranged marriages. Her first husband, whom everyone in the family loved, died so my grandmother found her someone else. The second one was obnoxious. Even so, at least she was offered someone...

huh? better to have an obnoxious asshole than no man at all?

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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #76 - November 22, 2011, 07:38 PM

Quote from: stardust on November 21, 2011, 09:06 PM
Erm...maybe it's because they have the freedom to choose to leave an unhappy marriage...arranged marriage cases they have pressure to stick together even if they're unhappy, in an abusive relationship etc.

No. Romance does not last long.

Little Fly, Thy summer's play
My thoughtless hand has brushed away.

I too dance and drink, and sing,
Till some blind hand shall brush my wing.

Therefore I am a happy fly,
If I live or if I die.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #77 - November 22, 2011, 07:39 PM

Quote from: Maya on November 21, 2011, 11:56 PM
Yes indeed but you can have both if you marry the right person.

You will be waiting for a long time for mr right

And probably dissapointed when you do....

Little Fly, Thy summer's play
My thoughtless hand has brushed away.

I too dance and drink, and sing,
Till some blind hand shall brush my wing.

Therefore I am a happy fly,
If I live or if I die.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #78 - November 22, 2011, 08:15 PM

Quote from: Gladfly on November 22, 2011, 07:39 PM
You will be waiting for a long time for mr right

What some people don't understand is that there are a lot of "mr right's" and "mrs right's" out there. You have to work hard if you want to keep the marriage.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #79 - November 22, 2011, 09:23 PM

Quote from: Gladfly on November 22, 2011, 07:38 PM
No. Romance does not last long.

i dissagree with you. You may not be as "pretty" years on, but
I can assure you, romance does NOT necessarily die.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #80 - November 24, 2011, 10:24 AM

Quote from: Gladfly on November 22, 2011, 07:39 PM
You will be waiting for a long time for mr right

And probably dissapointed when you do....

From what I know about Maya, she has found him already, and has been with him for many years.

He's no friend to the friendless
And he's the mother of grief
There's only sorrow for tomorrow
Surely life is too brief
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #81 - November 24, 2011, 10:25 AM

Quote from: Gladfly on November 22, 2011, 07:38 PM
No. Romance does not last long.

I don't know about romance, but love does last. And it evolves.

He's no friend to the friendless
And he's the mother of grief
There's only sorrow for tomorrow
Surely life is too brief
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Re: Arranged Marriages
Reply #82 - November 24, 2011, 10:33 AM

THE RACE MUST CONTINUE. THE RACE MUST CONTINUE. THE RACE MUST CONTINUE.

Before Jesus was, I AM.
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