Really?
I thought the gay example was more clarification that one is not gay but totally doesn;t care who is.

I also never get that off my friends who say abortion isn't for them but they don;t have a judgement against anyone who does it. Its a disclaimer that they have no choice but to add since people make an assumption that they must be anti abortion.
Its more like some people actually don't mind if their life is changed, or they are trapped, or if they are too young, or none of those things, they are just happy to have the baby.
But they totally understand that others need different choices.
I don't see how saying it, means they believe they sit above the rest.