Oh LOL nice!!!
This thread is a good idea
Not just cuz I'm a girl. My two older brothers are both in uni and they didn't leave either.
And I would live like SIX HOURS AWAY *gulp* (it's scary, I didn't want to go that far), on the university's campus. They're so nice, they're paying for everything.
And the hijab. I actually love hijab, and I chose to wear it, but now I feel like a hypocrite in it :/ and I feel like it's gonna limit my ability to 'reinvent' myself (if that makes sense), so I have to tell them that I don't want to wear it anymore. My dad won't care, he discouraged me from wearing it to begin with. But my mum might get bitter and stuff... :/ Not sure how to approach it really...
As for completely OK with it, no they are NOT. My mum is bitter (though she tries not to be), and my dad said he's disappointed that I'm leaving my mum. :/ So..yeah. :/ But they're being understanding. The worst thing to have done (in my case) would have been to say that I want independence. That would have implied that I disliked living with them. So I focussed on other stuff, like the excellence of the education, and how living on residence is a life experience that everybody recommends. I'm not sure how you could convince your parents. :/ A good way would be to focus on convincing ONE of them (your dad is probably a better idea since they tend to be the head of the household), and then your other parent might agree.
That's what happened in my case anyway.
Oh wow. Maybe you ought to educate your mum on, um, the fact that wearing a hijab should be a personal expression of piety? Because not wearing a hijab certainly does not make a person a kaffir. Might be a good idea to quote scholars on that one. That's a dangerous attitude IMO. Takfir is serious business.
Aww. :( I wish I could help more. :( :( Stay strong, you have to be who you are, and that may involve hurting your parents at first, but I guess in the end they'll accept you for who you are. Some things are just necessary, I guess. :/
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