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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #60 - October 23, 2010, 12:20 AM
    Yeah, but a guy should respect my asexuality and not demand sex. Why can't they see there are other avenues other than sexuality? Don't they realize you can still have a meaningful and loving relationship without sex?
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #61 - October 23, 2010, 12:22 AM
    Quote from: Prince Spinoza on October 23, 2010, 12:19 AM
    Why aren't they a good person and why aren't they being respectful to themselves?


    A person who is sexually premiscuous must not like herself if she's looking for it in one night stands.

    I think this explains well:

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slut

    or

    http://www.google.com/#sclient=psy&hl=en&site=&source=hp&q=what+is+a+slut%3F&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=&gs_rfai=C-jSv9SnCTOuhNJuqgASY28nEBwAAAKoEBU_QoB-a&psj=1&fp=9a951961ff9ba31d
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #62 - October 23, 2010, 12:24 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:22 AM
    A person who is sexually premiscuous must not like herself if she's looking for it in one night stands.


    Why? :/

    And you still haven't answered why it makes them a bad person.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #63 - October 23, 2010, 12:25 AM
    And I know what a slut is, thank you very much. I also know what a nigger, paki, fag, yid, etc is too, in case you were wondering...
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #64 - October 23, 2010, 12:26 AM
    I didn't say a bad person, they're just sluts. I don't agree with their lifestyle. I think a person only having one night stands are at risk for diseases. I'm also sure the guys she sleeps with night after night don't respect her either. Why would someone want to disrespect themselves? I dunno, to me loose isn't good, but neither is prudish. I do believe in temperance. And most girls I knew who were known for sleeping around with multiple men were generally unhappy and hated themselves. I mean I don't think sex is bad, but I think you really need to be careful with the diseases out there.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #65 - October 23, 2010, 12:30 AM
    Damn right. That's why I walk around in a sterile plastic bubble. All those germs.... I also avoid cars, steep hills and ice lollies. I mean, you could get a series of splinter from the stick... and it could get infected... or somthing.

    And you said 'not good'. Why are they not good?
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #66 - October 23, 2010, 12:32 AM
    Don't be sarcastic. HIV and STDs aren't laughing matters. Neither are UTIs and other infections of the vag (I wouldn't know, but I heard they suck).

    Because I think anyone putting themselves at risk for HIV, pregnancy and total disrespect and name calling from guys (and yes, I know guys talk about the easy girls and I'm sorry, being easy is not equivalent to respect), it's just not good in my eyes. I find it degrading. Why would someone do that?
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #67 - October 23, 2010, 12:34 AM
    ... You degrade women for being promiscuous because you think they are making themselves susceptible to being degraded... awesome.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #68 - October 23, 2010, 12:35 AM
    Well, promiscuous isn't good in my eyes. It's just the way I was raised. Maybe someone was raised that way and like it, but I don't like it and wouldn't be caught dead doing that. I also want respect from other people, so I act in a respectful manner. Do you think sleeping around is respectful?
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #69 - October 23, 2010, 12:36 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:32 AM
    Don't be sarcastic. HIV and STDs aren't laughing matters. Neither are UTIs and other infections of the vag (I wouldn't know, but I heard they suck).

    Because I think anyone putting themselves at risk for HIV, pregnancy


    Hmm, you're right. BAN SEX NOW.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #70 - October 23, 2010, 12:36 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:35 AM
    Well, promiscuous isn't good in my eyes. It's just the way I was raised. Maybe someone was raised that way and like it, but I don't like it and wouldn't be caught dead doing that. I also want respect from other people, so I act in a respectful manner. Do you think sleeping around is respectful?


    Do you think calling people sluts is respectful?
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #71 - October 23, 2010, 12:38 AM
    Prince Spinoza, I didn't mean that. I think sex done in a monogamous setting (having a meaningful relationship with total honesty) isn't bad. And no, I don't mean only with someone you plan the rest of your life with because for some it isn't realistic. However, I think sex should be had if the relationship is going to be honest. It's just people who have sex constantly and have no idea what the guy has. And not everyone is honest or uses the protection.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #72 - October 23, 2010, 12:39 AM
    Quote from: Prince Spinoza on October 23, 2010, 12:36 AM
    Do you think calling people sluts is respectful?


    No, but you try to characterize the most extreme with the normal. Sluts are the most extreme and that's what you call them... there's really no other word for it.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #73 - October 23, 2010, 12:39 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:20 AM
    Don't they realize you can still have a meaningful and loving relationship without sex?

    Probably, but they also realize you can still have a meaningful and loving relationship WITH sex - so why choose someone who will force they to go without if thats what he wants?  
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #74 - October 23, 2010, 12:40 AM
    So, I'll probably never find a guy. =\
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #75 - October 23, 2010, 12:41 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:39 AM
    No, but you try to characterize the most extreme with the normal. Sluts are the most extreme and that's what you call them... there's really no other word for it.


    That's what YOU call them.

    Well I'd like to know where this line is... non-slut/slut. Care to enlighten me?
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #76 - October 23, 2010, 12:42 AM
    Slut is anyone who sleeps with more than 10 people in a year. Also, someone you would hire for services...
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #77 - October 23, 2010, 12:44 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:38 AM
    Prince Spinoza, I didn't mean that. I think sex done in a monogamous setting (having a meaningful relationship with total honesty) isn't bad.


    What is it about ploygamy that makes sex bad?

    Quote
    And no, I don't mean only with someone you plan the rest of your life with because for some it isn't realistic. However, I think sex should be had if the relationship is going to be honest. It's just people who have sex constantly and have no idea what the guy has. And not everyone is honest or uses the protection.


    Question - a girl sleeps with a different guy everyday. Uses protection each time and ensures all the guys are free from STIs. Is she a slut?
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #78 - October 23, 2010, 12:46 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:42 AM
    Slut is anyone who sleeps with more than 10 people in a year. Also, someone you would hire for services...


    Well thank you for being precise.... So someone who sleeps with 9 ... she's safe right? She's a good person.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #79 - October 23, 2010, 12:48 AM
    Yes, Prince Spinoza to the one before the last post. The sleeping with 9 is bad. But, others and herself might not see it that way. But to me, yes she is.

    I dunno, something about polygamy doesn't appeal to me. It just doesn't make sense. But, I am a one on one person (not in a sexual way, but talking and getting to know them). I can only handle getting to know a person one at a time. Of course if they don't work out, I'd find someone else. Monogamy can be that way too. You don't have one sexual partner, but you're with the sexual partner for a good period of time (more than 6 months). Then if it doesn't work out, you meet someone else and take the time to know them. See, I see sex as a connection and anything not used as a loving connection doesn't make sense to me.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #80 - October 23, 2010, 12:50 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:40 AM
    So, I'll probably never find a guy. =\

    You will if you go about it all wrong, as it appears you are still doing, despite acknowledging you should be approaching it differently.
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #81 - October 23, 2010, 12:51 AM
    And how should I approach it? I REALLY don't want to date online and there are no asexuals here.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #82 - October 23, 2010, 12:52 AM
    I don't care what you like or don't like. You've been unable to justify why promiscuous women are 'not good' beyond "eew". You aacknowledge that it's a derogatory term right? Stop using it.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #83 - October 23, 2010, 12:55 AM
    Yes it is. I mean our definitions of what premiscuous is is different. It's not ew to me, but I think my views would seem horrific to a lot of other people. I mean most temperate people see an over abundance in that as really bad. ANd I gave you legitimate reasons. It's not because it's "ew," but sleeping with more than a couple men in a month, year or whatever is just not good. I dunno, I can't explain it, but sooner or later it'll catch up with the promiscuous person. The promiscuous person also does not care. I think more of promiscuous girls in HS and college, some on the bad side of town because they are disadvantaged and have no choice.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


    "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #84 - October 23, 2010, 12:56 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:51 AM
    And how should I approach it? I REALLY don't want to date online and there are no asexuals here.


    How about you change your attitude first? That might help. "Why can't you guys control yourselves?"
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #85 - October 23, 2010, 12:58 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:51 AM
    And how should I approach it? I REALLY don't want to date online and there are no asexuals here.

    not this again  Cheesy - look up our previous exchanges, which you later decided to ignore.  Date assexuals or be straight up from the beginning.
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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #86 - October 23, 2010, 12:58 AM
    Well, dating asexuals is impossible as there are no such things as male asexuals. But, would being straight up and in front be bad?
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
    Is your grammar defective? Just askin'.


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  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #87 - October 23, 2010, 01:02 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:55 AM
    le see an over abundance in that as really bad. ANd I gave you legitimate reasons. It's not because it's "ew," but sleeping with more than a couple men in a month, year or whatever is just not good.


    In other words, "eew".

    Quote
    I dunno, I can't explain it, but sooner or later it'll catch up with the promiscuous person. The promiscuous person also does not care. I think more of promiscuous girls in HS and college, some on the bad side of town because they are disadvantaged and have no choice.


    ... Ok maybe blackdoggy was right....
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #88 - October 23, 2010, 01:02 AM
    There aren't male asexuals? Oh god.
  • Re: Relationships without attraction?
     Reply #89 - October 23, 2010, 01:04 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on October 23, 2010, 12:58 AM
    Well, dating asexuals is impossible as there are no such things as male asexuals. But, would being straight up and in front be bad?


    What you need to do is get your tits out.
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