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OP - November 07, 2010, 04:10 AM

Hi all,

I just came across this website and I am glad that there are people in this world who think beyond religion and believe in humanity. I am from US but my parents are originally from Pakistan. My dad's side is from Peshawar and my mom's side is from Lahore. Anyways I am heartbroken and need advice. I cannot marry someone whom I am in love with for 10 freakin years. We both have Muslim backgrounds but the issue is my family converted to Christianity from Islam and his parents are devout Muslims. What should I do now? He thinks that Islam is the uncorrupted word of God. Well I don't really care about religion but his mom and dad are totally against our marriage. We have know each other since we were teenagers. We can't live without each other. What should we do now?
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Reply #1 - November 07, 2010, 07:20 AM

Hi Hazeleyez_CA! Welcome. Your family converted to Christianity? That's interesting. How did that happen? So are you a Christian now, too?

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Reply #2 - November 07, 2010, 09:02 AM

Hi hazeleyez_CA,

I think you can try to lead things in your life. Sit down, get a paper, what's the obstacle and what can you both do?

- persuade other family members until your parents also get convinced?
- keep pressuring your parents? Tell them Islam allows marriages to other religions "of the book"? (Yes I know the man must be Muslim, bit still)
- or just stick to your guns, go it alone, and they'll accept or won’t accept, that's for you to think about.

Good luck!

Quote from: hazeleyez_CA on November 07, 2010, 04:10 AM
Hi all,

I just came across this website and I am glad that there are people in this world who think beyond religion and believe in humanity. I am from US but my parents are originally from Pakistan. My dad's side is from Peshawar and my mom's side is from Lahore. Anyways I am heartbroken and need advice. I cannot marry someone whom I am in love with for 10 freakin years. We both have Muslim backgrounds but the issue is my family converted to Christianity from Islam and his parents are devout Muslims. What should I do now? He thinks that Islam is the uncorrupted word of God. Well I don't really care about religion but his mom and dad are totally against our marriage. We have know each other since we were teenagers. We can't live without each other. What should we do now?

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Reply #3 - November 07, 2010, 09:13 AM

Quote from: HighOctane on November 07, 2010, 09:02 AM
Hi hazeleyez_CA,

I think you can try to lead things in your life. Sit down, get a paper, what's the obstacle and what can you both do?

- persuade other family members until your parents also get convinced?
- keep pressuring your parents? Tell them Islam allows marriages to other religions "of the book"? (Yes I know the man must be Muslim, bit still)
- or just stick to your guns, go it alone, and they'll accept or won’t accept, that's for you to think about.

Good luck!

I think you misunderstood - her boyfriend's parents who need the convincing, not her parents.

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Reply #4 - November 07, 2010, 09:42 AM

The answer is simple, how you go about it might be a little more difficult.

1: Your parents are Christians so I assume won't be expecting you to have an arranged marriage. If they do then just keep refusing.
2: His parents might want him to have an arranged marriage, if so then he needs to keep refusing. Make sure that he knows he should be "too busy with school work" or "too busy with work" if his parents suggest a "holiday back home" as these are often a scheme to marry them off.
3: If you can afford to leave home to live together and are old enough then do it, there is nothing anyone can do about it, if not then just keep stalling on the marriage front until you can.

Once you are out you can do whatever you like. If they wish to disown you for wanting to be happy then fuck 'em, they are shit heads anyway.

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Reply #5 - November 07, 2010, 09:57 AM

I wish you all the best but this is ominous! ▼
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He thinks that Islam is the uncorrupted word of God

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We can't live without each other. What should we do now?

Are you sure he is/would be comfortable with the fact that you are not serious about religion? Would you have no problems if he decided to 'PURIFY' you by converting you to his way of thinking in the near future? In the matters of the heart the head has a very important role to play to avoid future frustrations and bitterness. In my books you have experienced true practical love when the other person accepts you for what you are UNCONDITIONALLY,fuck all those alpha,beta,omega theories!

As a well wisher, I hope you ask some real hard questions and thrash out all the differences before you commit yourself to avoid heart breaking disappointments in the future.

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