hello there... i was raised in muslim family, but i already leave that religion and choosed to be an agnostic atheist..
still my parents dont know about that,, how to explain to them?... its hard for them of course
i still respect them as my parents,, thx..
I'm having the same trouble right now.
When I was younger I could ask questions and my father would answer them with a then sufficient answer.
However a few months ago he started getting suspicious of my unbelief because of the way I criticize Islam more and more.
He has advised me (maybe 'ordered' me is a better word here) to go see an Imam with my doubts or at least read the Quran objectively to see the truth in it.
Unfortunately he's unaware that this would make no difference, because I'm in a stage that Allah is not real for me and I also reject that Muhammad was his prophet (or any other 'prophet' that ever existed).
I thought of faking my belief to live in harmony like Muddy says, but there is no harmony at home. I really hate my father, for the manipulative asshole he is, psychologically raping me and my siblings. Also, I'm 22 now, in a few years I'll be married (with my non-muslim girlfriend) and I don't want to raise my children muslim. Knowing my father, he'll make a lot of trouble out of this, so by faking my belief I won't solve anything, I'll just be postponing the shitstorm
So incredibly pissed right now, these problems shouldn't exist. Fuck organized religion.
My 2 cents...
Before either of you decide you want to come out, you need to be aware of the potential consequences of your actions and be ready to accept them if they happen. I came out to my parents a few months ago, in the end I ended up leaving them as it just wasn't possible for them to live with me as an atheist. We haven't spoken since and very few family members keep in touch me. I caused my family a lot of pain and had to deal with a lot of emotional blackmail which was very hard to deal with. Losing ones family is quite common in these situations, and even if you don't lose them you will almost certainly have to deal with a huge amount of emotional blackmail. You need to be psychologically ready to deal with all this. Also, you need to prepare an escape plan if it ever comes down to that (and ensure you are financially stable to support yourself).
How you come out is up to you. There is no easy way to tell them. I used the cowards way by sending an email as I don't have the guts to say it face to face. My story is linked in my signature if you ever need it. It details pretty much everything I've been through, although I haven't yet written up the part where I told them about my apostasy. However I did post here regularly during my ordeal, and the links to those posts are included in the blog (in the last chapter). There's a lot of posts though but they might help you understand what might have to go through.
Hope this has been of some help. I understand it's not so easy to simply pretend to be a muslim for the sake of keeping peace. It is a heavy burden and not one any of us should be made to carry. We have a right to our own view on faith and to live the way we want to.
Topic: Explain to Parents