There was this religious group/lecture thing I used to go to three years ago - only because my sister was part in organizing it with a couple of friends.
We concentrated on hadiths for some time - we'd switch back and forth from them to the Quran.
Well, that hadith came up - specifically the one about women making up the majority of inhabitants in
hell.
We all were like
and I was all those things plus something like
(appropriately huh? lol)
But then one girl said something along the lines of "Well, maybe it
is because a lot of women gossip more and aren't very good at being pious like men can be... they can be seductive.." etc. Basically just justifying all this shit.. I was internally doing this
And I think someone else called bullshit because she said she personally knows a lot more men who talk a whole lot of shit about people behind their backs.
I was just thinking of my sociology of gender class and what I learned in there, and how fucking epic that class was for me... I think I went in with the right basic understanding about things - but I was completely different when I left (and vindicated). It was eye opening on plenty of other social and world issues I didn't know much about.
Like, it doesn't matter....stopppp looking at people as a dick or a pussy
and attaching certain behaviors unique to their sex because it's bullshit.
Anyway... just wanted to share this. Came to no real conclusion... some people were more confused, some people doubted but still accepted, some felt even more unsettled with Islam than they already were (yours truly)...
On another occasion the slave/concubine thing was brought up. This time we had one of the moms come in to lecture us because she's more " knowledgable" in Islam and more wise than we are.
Of course I had already heard about this bullshit and hated it and it was one of the huge doubts I've always had, that never went away.. I was happy when one of the girls spoke up quite passionately, challenging the lady and telling her slavery is never justified. But the lady kept going on with her bs that it doesn't matter much because it was only pertinent to those times. I was like
then what's the fucking point of us knowing and it still being a part of Islam today?
Sigh. I should contact that girl because I think there might be hope for her
although she married a Muslim and moved away now. I want to tell her she was right in doubting and that she should possibly listen to that doubt more.....
Topic: So I was discussing with a Muslimah the other day...