
If only it were that easy ...
Nice people are afraid of being too aggressive. I'm guilty of it myself. But when I'm more assertive, I tend to get what I want more. There's a difference between being assertive and being unable to take 'no' for an answer. Part of being confident is accepting rejection.
I'm really attracted to confident girls. It makes things easy, and makes me comfortable around them. I met this girl once. Less than five minutes after introducing ourselves, she kept looking at me while her mind was preoccupied with something. I stared back, wondering what she wanted. She just said, "Sorry, I can't stop looking, you're really cute." I just thought, "Wow, this girl is gutsy." The only word I could vocalize was "Thanks."
Her body language throughout the night clearly indicated that she was interested in me. She would always come closer and turn towards me when she was speaking, even when we weren't facing each other. When we were dancing, that made it really easy for me to grab and dance with her. (I'm not the kind of guy who grabs random girls. I find that really sleazy and forms a social hierarchy where the girl can feel too uncomfortable to reject me.)
The only thing I regret is not being more assertive. I felt that I could've done more. But there was a jerk who was annoying her and I felt bad for her, so I wanted her to be comfortable around me.