hahaha do the ladies get to dance in front of all the men, or is just amongst the women?
Depends on how modern your family is, there are loads of mixed weddings and dancing happens infront of men, and other ladies sit down bitching about the sluts dancing, behind the paper plates that they are fanning themselves with.

Especially if the girl starts to "t'hayaar" which is when she starts spinning her head around.............because its haraam and the devil can come into you.

I've been to a wedding in syria once, and I have to say it was loads of fun bellydancing (badly) with anyone and everyone

Yea, it's fun isn't it?
I love it. Just wrap a pretty head scarf with gold coins (gypsy type ones) around my ass and belly dance until I get a stitch. Used to have fun in weddings.