^ Abood posted about that a while back, showing that introversion does not necessarily = shyness. You can overcome shyness and still remain introverted. They’re not the same thing.
So you talk to everyone then? Or else talk to no–one? If you can’t gauge people from how they act, and then go to them to get to know them better, all you have to go on are looks. And then you get accused of being shallow… and then avoided for having the wrong shoes, or trousers with turn–ups, or other eccentricities of this sort.
No, you're viewing it wrong I think.
If you have just met me in a club, and tell me I seem fun, interesting, intelligent etc, and its all amongst your first lines before you have even really had enough time talking to me to honestly suss that about me, then you are lying. Or I will believe you are lying and inside I will roll my eyes and think ugh.
I mean to me its kind of similar to being a young moroccan girl with a birtish passport. The men over there would come and ask for my hand in marriage. My dad would make me sit and talk to the guy. One question I always used to ask was....Why do you want to marry me? and these guys would all reply, because I love you.
Now you see, I had never met them, never hung out with them, never anything. But they would use this Love line. Really they loved my passport.
In the club its similar.
In truth you came over bcause you were attracted to me. Not my mind, my wit, my 'intelligence', but something else more simple than all of that.
Which is why I would say just come over, say Hi, introduce yourself and then ask my name. and then talk to me.
And then if after talking with me for the night. (not 5-10 mins in the smoking section) you happen to think those things, then its safe to say so and ask for a fb swap, or number.
You might not be lying from your perspective. Her clothes seem quirky so you think she is interesting, but from our perspective it just seems like a line.
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