Skip navigation
Sidebar -

Advanced search options →
↑ ↓
CEMB → Forum → Everyday People (no snark zone - play nice) → Health & Well-Being → Being a highly sensitive person

Welcome

Welcome to CEMB forum.
Please login or register. Did you miss your activation email?

Donations

Help keep the Forum going!
Click on Kitty to donate:

Kitty is lost

Recent Posts

What music are you listen...
by zeca
Yesterday at 06:31 PM
Lights on the way
by akay
November 22, 2024, 02:51 PM
Do humans have needed kno...
November 22, 2024, 06:45 AM
Gaza assault
November 21, 2024, 07:56 PM
Qur'anic studies today
by zeca
November 21, 2024, 05:07 PM
New Britain
November 20, 2024, 05:41 PM
اضواء على الطريق ....... ...
by akay
November 20, 2024, 09:02 AM
Marcion and the introduct...
by zeca
November 19, 2024, 11:36 PM
Dutch elections
by zeca
November 15, 2024, 10:11 PM
Random Islamic History Po...
by zeca
November 15, 2024, 08:46 PM
AMRIKAAA Land of Free .....
November 07, 2024, 09:56 AM
The origins of Judaism
by zeca
November 02, 2024, 12:56 PM

Theme Changer

 Topic: Being a highly sensitive person

 (Read 12300 times)
  • 12 Next page « Previous thread | Next thread »
  • Being a highly sensitive person
     OP - April 20, 2012, 09:27 PM
    Thanks to Berbs I discovered MBTI, and discovered I was an INFP. Whilst watching INFP vids on youtube I came across a vid recommending a book called; the highly sensitive person by Elaine Aron.

    After I read the book, and combined with researching into the INFP disposition I realized that I've always had an introverted, and highly sensitive disposition. And - being a male in influenced by the prevaliling mainstream culture (nuts, and zoo type culture) and black male influenced by inner city black youth culture - I intenseley hated myself for it. I fundamentally thought that being an introvert and being sensitive was a part of my general neurosis - I had no idea that it could be part of my fundamental disposition.

    I had no idea that I had to respect my disposition in order to facilitate my own well-being.

    So I wanted to pass on some vids that explain what the concept of a highly sensitive person, in case others hated themselves as intensley as I did;

    The highly sensitive person; an interview with Elaine Aron
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DezjkilrSY

    A great vid giving a perspective on the highly sensitive disposition;
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfATUIS-PN8

    The vid that introduced me to the concept
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_QVzdlzXuU
    An alternative to religion;

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2nfXfTg92E

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWNW-NXEudk
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #1 - April 21, 2012, 12:13 AM
    Quote from: strangestdude on April 20, 2012, 09:27 PM
    I fundamentally thought that being an introvert and being sensitive was a part of my general neurosis - I had no idea that it could be part of my fundamental disposition.

    I had no idea that I had to respect my disposition in order to facilitate my own well-being.

    Though never an extreme case, I was always sensitive and introverted. I had to make a conscious effort as a teenager to get out of my bubble, but never sought to deny my innate disposition.

    So, over time (and relatively painlessly) I have become less introverted, as happy in the company of others as I am in my own head.

    I still need quiet time, though. It's part of my disposition, and to fight it would be foolish.

    Good luck, SD.
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #2 - April 22, 2012, 04:49 PM
    Yea.  When I first found out about being an INFP it was quite freeing.  It's a shame those feelings didn't last.  I mean I know why I find some types distasteful, and hurtful, but for some reason I became intensely ashamed of being an infp.

    I stint as a member on an INTP forum will do that to you though lol, especially when the entp's get in on the bashing of the infp's.

    But then this is the highly sensitive type.  The type that is so idealistic that life itself can be hurtful. 

    Initially I embraced this understanding of me, felt so empowered by knowing why I was the way I was.  But negative judgements really do impact me a lot, and constantly reading about how pathetic infp's are, being dismissed because of my type if a debate ever come up, cos my F disqualifies me from being smart Roll Eyes, well slowly it wore away at me again.

    Best description I ever read of my type, was the ok cupid brutally honest one, where the guy says "I won't spend my time insulting you since I know you will go off and do that to yourself anyway"  Grin  which is just so true. 

    I still think undertsanding can come from it though.  At least when I am not beating myself up and I feel better inside, I can rationally understand why I behave the way I do.  Obviously bad days take this away again but I'm going to start watching the videos you post.  I read the posts, I'm just not a fan of youtube videos, my attention span is greater for text.

    Also I'm hoping that my 3 coming years at uni doing psychology and sociology will start slowly helping me to understand myself even more.

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #3 - April 22, 2012, 06:11 PM
    Thanks David. I'm glad you're comfortable with your disposition.

    For you Berbs;

    In her national bestseller, The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You, author Elaine Aron defines a distinct personality trait that affects as many as one out of every five people. According to Dr. Aron's definition, the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) has a sensitive nervous system, is aware of subtleties in his/her surroundings, and is more easily overwhelmed when in a highly stimulating environment. Additionally, she says, the success of The Highly Sensitive Person is cause for celebration: "We've done it ourselves. And not surprisingly, since we are 15 to 20 percent of the population - that's fifty million in the United States. Highly sensitive people are real, we exist, and we've proven it. That alone is something to celebrate."

    Another cause for Aron and her fellow HSPs to celebrate is the acceptance into mainstream psychology of the HSP personality trait. After numerous in-depth interviews, as well as surveys of over one thousand people, Dr. Aron's findings have been published in Counseling Today, Counseling and Human Development, and the prestigious Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

    Elaine Aron has a doctoral degree in clinical psychology and a thriving psychotherapy practice. She is the first therapist to tell HSPs how to identify their trait and make the most of it in everyday situations. Highly Sensitive People have an uncommonly sensitive nervous system - a normal occurrence, according to Aron. "About 15 to 20 percent of the population have this trait. It means you are aware of subtleties in your surroundings, a great advantage in many situations. It also means you are more easily overwhelmed when you have been out in a highly stimulating environment for too long, bombarded by sights and sounds until you are exhausted." An HSP herself, Aron reassures other Highly Sensitives that they are quite normal. Their trait is not a flaw or a syndrome, nor is it a reason to brag. It is an asset they can learn to use and protect.

    In defining the Highly Sensitive Person, Dr. Aron provides examples of characteristic behaviors, and these are reflected in the questions she typically asks patients or interview subjects:

        Are you easily overwhelmed by such things as bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens nearby?
        Do you get rattled when you have a lot to do in a short amount of time?
        Do you make a point of avoiding violent movies and TV shows?
        Do you need to withdraw during busy days, into bed or a darkened room or some other place where you can have privacy and relief from the situation?
        Do you make it a high priority to arrange your life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?
        Do you notice or enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, or works of art?
        Do you have a rich and complex inner life?
        When you were a child, did your parents or teachers see you as sensitive or shy?

    Dr. Aron explains that in the past HSPs have been called "shy," "timid," "inhibited," or "introverted," but these labels completely miss the nature of the trait. Thirty percent of HSPs are actually extraverts. HSPs only appear inhibited because they are so aware of all the possibilities in a situation. They pause before acting, reflecting on their past experiences. If these were mostly bad experiences, then yes, they will be truly shy. But in a culture that prefers confident, "bold" extraverts, it is harmful as well as mistaken to stigmatize all HSPs as shy when many are not. InThe Highly Sensitive Person, Dr. Aron reframes these stereotyping words and their common application to the HSP in a more positive light and helps HSPs use and view these aspects of their personality as strengths rather than weaknesses.

    Sensitivity is anything but a flaw. Many HSPs are often unusually creative and productive workers, attentive and thoughtful partners, and intellectually gifted individuals. According to Dr. Aron, HSPs could contribute much more to society if they received the right kind of attention - and her national bestseller proves that this 15 to 20 percent of the population is eager to get off on the right foot in asserting their unique personality trait.

    From http://www.hsperson.com/
    An alternative to religion;

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2nfXfTg92E

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWNW-NXEudk
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #4 - April 22, 2012, 06:15 PM
    I'm doing this Myers Briggs test again, and now I realise that I don't even get these questions. Does anyone know what this means, for instance: "You are more interested in a general idea than in the details of its realization"??
    Self ban for Ramadan (THAT RHYMES)

    Expect me to come back a Muslim. Cool Tongue j/k we'll see..
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #5 - April 22, 2012, 06:36 PM
    My personal advice dude is to check out barcode9588 and then davesuperpowers youtube channels.
    An alternative to religion;

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2nfXfTg92E

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWNW-NXEudk
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #6 - April 22, 2012, 06:38 PM
    This quiz is so much better than the stupid Animal one (where they called me a sheep -_-). Check it out!!

    Quote from: Joe Butt
    ENFJs are the benevolent 'pedagogues' of humanity. They have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it's usually not meant as manipulation -- ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.

    ENFJs are global learners. They see the big picture. The ENFJs focus is expansive. Some can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously. Many ENFJs have tremendous entrepreneurial ability.

    ENFJs are, by definition, Js, with whom we associate organization and decisiveness. But they don't resemble the SJs or even the NTJs in organization of the environment nor occasional recalcitrance. ENFJs are organized in the arena of interpersonal affairs. Their offices may or may not be cluttered, but their conclusions (reached through feelings) about people and motives are drawn much more quickly and are more resilient than those of their NFP counterparts.

    ENFJs know and appreciate people. Like most NFs, (and Feelers in general), they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.

    TRADEMARK: "The first shall be last"
    This refers to the open-door policy of ENFJs. One ENFJ colleague always welcomes me into his office regardless of his own circumstances. If another person comes to the door, he allows them to interrupt our conversation with their need. While discussing that need, the phone rings and he stops to answer it. Others drop in with a 'quick question.' I finally get up, go to my office and use the call waiting feature on the telephone. When he hangs up, I have his undivided attention!
    Functional Analysis:

    Extraverted Feeling
    Extraverted Feeling rules the ENFJ's psyche. In the sway of this rational function, these folks are predisposed to closure in matters pertaining to people, and especially on behalf of their beloved. As extraverts, their contacts are wide ranging. Face-to-face relationships are intense, personable and warm, though they may be so infrequently achieved that intimate friendships are rare.
    Introverted iNtuition
    Like their INFJ cousins, ENFJs are blessed through introverted intuition with clarity of perception in the inner, unconscious world. Dominant Feeling prefers to find the silver lining in even the most beggarly perceptions of those in their expanding circle of friends and, of course, in themselves. In less balanced individuals, such mitigation of the unseemly eventually undermines the ENFJ's integrity and frequently their good name. In healthier individuals, deft use of this awareness of the inner needs and desires of others enables this astute type to win friends, influence people, and avoid compromising entanglements.
    The dynamic nature of their intuition moves ENFJs from one project to another with the assurance that the next one will be perfect, or much more nearly so than the last. ENFJs are continually looking for newer and better solutions to benefit their extensive family, staff, or organization.

    Extraverted Sensing
    Sensing is extraverted. ENFJs can manage details, particularly those necessary to implement the prevailing vision. These data have, however, a magical flexible quality. Something to be bought can be had for a song; the same something is invaluable when it's time to sell. (We are not certain, but we suspect that such is the influence of the primary function.) This wavering of sensory perception is made possible by the weaker and less mature status with which the tertiary is endowed.

    Introverted Thinking
    Introverted Thinking is least apparent and most enigmatic in this type. In fact, it often appears only when summoned by Feeling. At times only in jest, but in earnest if need be, Thinking entertains as logical only those conclusions which support Feeling's values. Other scenarios can be shown invalid or at best significantly inferior. Such "Thinking in the service of Feeling" has the appearance of logic, but somehow it never quite adds up.
    Introverted Thinking is frequently the focus of the spiritual quest of ENFJs. David's lengthiest psalm, 119, pays it homage. "Law," "precept," "commandment," "statute:" these essences of inner thinking are the mysteries of Deity for which this great Feeler's soul searched.


    ^ I like the first paragraph. Apparently I'm 'benevolent'. Sweet!  grin12
    Self ban for Ramadan (THAT RHYMES)

    Expect me to come back a Muslim. Cool Tongue j/k we'll see..
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #7 - April 22, 2012, 06:39 PM
    I'm doing that RIGHT NOW Strangestdude! Smiley
    Self ban for Ramadan (THAT RHYMES)

    Expect me to come back a Muslim. Cool Tongue j/k we'll see..
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #8 - April 22, 2012, 06:45 PM
    He said I cheat and make friends with people who do all the hard work for me! :(

    But apparently I'm good looking. So I forgive him. Tongue

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FOXtkgOesY&feature=plcp&context=C48e9956VDvjVQa1PpcFOc4srDUQKX91-P4ILCym3_HZ609sAqBnM%3D
    Self ban for Ramadan (THAT RHYMES)

    Expect me to come back a Muslim. Cool Tongue j/k we'll see..
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #9 - April 22, 2012, 06:45 PM
    Oh sorry, just realised I'm not talking about highly sensitive people.

    My bad. :/ Will stop talking about ENFJs even though we rule the universe!!!!  dance
    Self ban for Ramadan (THAT RHYMES)

    Expect me to come back a Muslim. Cool Tongue j/k we'll see..
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #10 - April 24, 2012, 07:30 AM
    I am very close to being an INFP (I am slightly on the ENFP side, though just got 1% "E," so I'm roughly in the middle.) I tend to be on the sensitive side as well, so I might check out the vids.

    I don't put huge stock in the meyer-briggs, and at times I think it can be self-fulfilling to label oneself as a "type" -- it can make you think you will always act in a certain way and hence you act that way. It's also shitty for justifying behavior sometimes (i.e. "I can't help picking on others, it's just the way I am")
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #11 - April 24, 2012, 10:45 AM
    I've seen others on the MBTI forum I frequent use their 'type' that way, but others (like myself) have used it to understand themselves better.

    For me it helps me to understand what 'energizes' me, and to respect my 'cognitive' needs.     

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mKEjK-7Za6A
    An alternative to religion;

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2nfXfTg92E

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWNW-NXEudk
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #12 - April 24, 2012, 10:57 AM
    You know I once did a presentation on MBTI?  Lmao

    Got a top grade just because I was passionate enough about the subject to deliver it confidently. 

    Quote from: zoomi on April 24, 2012, 07:30 AM
    I am very close to being an INFP (I am slightly on the ENFP side, though just got 1% "E," so I'm roughly in the middle.) I tend to be on the sensitive side as well, so I might check out the vids.


    I think I mentioned once before to you that I pegged you as an enfp instantly Tongue  you may get bordering results, but I still feel that you lean to the enfp more than the infp.  I always find it so much easier to pick out NF types and even easier to whittle out the nfp's.  This is why i do put so much stock in it, because it has became unbelievably easy to recognise someone's type, or round it off.

    Quote

    I don't put huge stock in the meyer-briggs, and at times I think it can be self-fulfilling to label oneself as a "type" -- it can make you think you will always act in a certain way and hence you act that way. It's also shitty for justifying behavior sometimes (i.e. "I can't help picking on others, it's just the way I am")


    It can be.  I think often it depends on the place a person is in their life, if they are depressed, defeated etc then it's natural to fall back into this "I can't change because of" position, but sometimes we reach a point in our life when we recognise that certain things are merely preferences.

    Not to mention immaturity adds a lot to how a person relates to their type, not as in they immaturely use it wrong, but that as we age we start to become more balanced and more able to access the other preferences.

    Also, this whole "you can change yourself".........well I'm of the opinion that first you have to see if something actually needs to be changed about you.

    For example, it's easy for an introvert to judge themselves for not being as social as everyone else around them.  Society really does ram home that introversion = a bad thing.  That loner on the outside looking in.

    But is society right to make them feel like they need to change?

    What you end up with is something you can use to beat yourself up with, constantly trying to force yourself to be more like 'them' and always unhappy when it fails and you can't pin point why until you begin to believe that you are not normal.

    So when I say we shouldn't be over working to change things until we have examined the need to change them, this is how I use it to understand myself.

    I'm not beating myself up that I don't want to socialise that often, my friends have a better understanding and feel less offended when I choose to take some 'me time' thanks to knowing it's just a part of me and learning that i come back better with time off.

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #13 - April 24, 2012, 11:00 AM
    Quote from: chepea on April 22, 2012, 06:38 PM
    This quiz is so much better than the stupid Animal one (where they called me a sheep -_-). Check it out!!

    ^ I like the first paragraph. Apparently I'm 'benevolent'. Sweet!  grin12


    Let me give you the real truth about your type:

    Quote
    Busy Body - ENFJ

    You manipulative busybody! You're what some might call the "backseat driver" of life. You know, the one who knows exactly what everyone else is doing wrong and how they should go about fixing it. You're always trying to change everyone else.

     

    Stop sticking your cumbersome nose where it ain't wanted. You're like an oversized sniffer dog, trained to sniff out everyone else's problems, yet oblivious to your own.

     

    For one you worry excessively. The fact that you're also incredibly sensitive to criticism probably has you on the verge of tears right now. Get a grip.

     

    You have powers of manipulation unlike any other. You know all the gossip and you know how to ultimately use it as blackmailing material. You could potentially be the ultimate evil villain... if not for the fact you choose to use all of your powers for good, rather than evil.

     

    How honourable. How admirable and praiseworthy. How pathetic.

     

    While you're helping others out and pushing them into the limelight, you're left in the background to inhale the dirty smoke of their success. Nice one.

     


    Grin

    I love the brutally honest personality type results.  They crack me up.

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #14 - April 24, 2012, 11:05 AM
    So, just did the test and it came up as saying that I'm an INFP, need to read more about it as am still confused.  Huh?
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #15 - April 24, 2012, 11:06 AM
     Cheesy  I had a feeling you would be an NFP.

    http://www.personalitypage.com/INFP.html

    It's my type too.   Afro

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #16 - April 24, 2012, 11:08 AM
    I like this one http://typelogic.com/infp.html
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #17 - April 24, 2012, 11:09 AM
    Thanks for the links  Afro
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #18 - April 24, 2012, 11:14 AM
    Davesuperpowers describes INFP's disposition best IMO cool2

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wAlL99vDn4

    (note; I don't personally pay much mind when he links 'type' to body type, and facial expressions)
    An alternative to religion;

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2nfXfTg92E

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWNW-NXEudk
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #19 - April 24, 2012, 11:36 AM
    Just to make it clear you can still be an extrovert and a highly sensitive person.

    It's not exclusive to introverts, or a particular MBTI type.
    An alternative to religion;

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2nfXfTg92E

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWNW-NXEudk
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #20 - April 24, 2012, 11:41 AM
    Wow, those pages explained alot! Sounds like me and quite a few people I've known over time. Sounds like my daughter too, not sure with my son, probably too young to know yet. Wow, wow, wow, so interesting... 
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #21 - April 24, 2012, 07:51 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on April 24, 2012, 10:57 AM

    I think I mentioned once before to you that I pegged you as an enfp instantly Tongue  you may get bordering results, but I still feel that you lean to the enfp more than the infp.  I always find it so much easier to pick out NF types and even easier to whittle out the nfp's.  This is why i do put so much stock in it, because it has became unbelievably easy to recognise someone's type, or round it off.


    With all do respect berbs, and I don't mean this to sound haughty at all, but you have no idea what I am like in real life. I actually hate crowds, to the point where I get anxious and tend to avoid them. I do need to be around people a lot more than people who are heavy on the "I" side, though only people I know and am closer to. I don't like house parties, and I have never liked clubs, or malls. (I hate malls.) I don't like meeting a lot of new people at once. If I start a new job, it takes me a long time to become "part of the group." I usually don't like being by myself for extended periods of time (i.e. several days), though I have traveled by myself a lot and enjoyed it, or holed up in the library from 9pm until 2am on Fridays just because I know no one else will be around. Essentially I like being around people, but only a few people, so I think the "in the middle" distinction is accurate.

    My issue is the test is too vague to pick out the subtleties of life. For instance, the question "Do you make decisions with impulse or careful planning?" is completely dependent on the circumstance, and as much as I hate to say it, changes a lot with age. I would be a lot more wary now of making some of the impulsive decisions I made when I was younger, though that is  not to say I wouldn't make impulsive decisions. Would I decide one day to go on an impulsive road trip? Hell yes. Would I decide to change my major in school or take on a new degree without first making a detailed list of pro's and con's? No. So the question is just too vague to be accurate.

    Not saying there isn't any truth to them, though people are more complex than this, and so is life.

    Quote from: BerberElla on April 24, 2012, 10:57 AM
    It can be.  I think often it depends on the place a person is in their life, if they are depressed, defeated etc then it's natural to fall back into this "I can't change because of" position, but sometimes we reach a point in our life when we recognise that certain things are merely preferences.

    Also, this whole "you can change yourself".........well I'm of the opinion that first you have to see if something actually needs to be changed about you.


    Totally.




  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #22 - April 24, 2012, 07:55 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on April 24, 2012, 11:00 AM
    Let me give you the real truth about your type:

    Grin

    I love the brutally honest personality type results.  They crack me up.




    LOL!!!!

    Quote
    You're like an oversized sniffer dog, trained to sniff out everyone else's problems, yet oblivious to your own.

    At least I'm a dog and not a sheep. Tongue
    Self ban for Ramadan (THAT RHYMES)

    Expect me to come back a Muslim. Cool Tongue j/k we'll see..
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #23 - April 24, 2012, 08:07 PM
    Quote from: zoomi on April 24, 2012, 07:51 PM
    With all do respect berbs, and I don't mean this to sound haughty at all, but you have no idea what I am like in real life. I actually hate crowds, to the point where I get anxious and tend to avoid them. I do need to be around people a lot more than people who are heavy on the "I" side, though only people I know and am closer to. I don't like house parties, and I have never liked clubs, or malls. (I hate malls.) I don't like meeting a lot of new people at once. If I start a new job, it takes me a long time to become "part of the group." I usually don't like being by myself for extended periods of time (i.e. several days), though I have traveled by myself a lot and enjoyed it, or holed up in the library from 9pm until 2am on Fridays just because I know no one else will be around. Essentially I like being around people, but only a few people, so I think the "in the middle" distinction is accurate.


    Don't let me piss you off now when I say the bit I bolded is a classic ENFP response.

    Also I never assumed you were social.  ENxP's are considered the most introverted extroverts.  My brother is one as is my best friend and even between them they are varying levels of introversion.

    It's just the way you talk, the 'air' dare I say it to your posts and projected persona.

    But most enfps will turn around and say "but you don't know me" and most hate being put in a box and having a label slapped on them.   Wink  Above all, they value their uniqueness.

    Quote

    My issue is the test is too vague to pick out the subtleties of life. For instance, the question "Do you make decisions with impulse or careful planning?" is completely dependent on the circumstance, and as much as I hate to say it, changes a lot with age. I would be a lot more wary now of making some of the impulsive decisions I made when I was younger, though that is  not to say I wouldn't make impulsive decisions. Would I decide one day to go on an impulsive road trip? Hell yes. Would I decide to change my major in school or take on a new degree without first making a detailed list of pro's and con's? No. So the question is just too vague to be accurate.


    I did mention in one of my above posts that people mature within their preferences as they age so it would stand to reason that some of the questions you would answer differently, or behave differently.

    Quote

    Not saying there isn't any truth to them, though people are more complex than this, and so is life.







    Yes, I agree, but I find that the differences themselves are easy to understand within any type once you understand the system. 

    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #24 - April 24, 2012, 08:32 PM
    It's not that I'm saying I'm not, it's just that I think someone in my general vicinity would be able to judge better than someone I have never met Smiley

    z10 and I have talked about this before, we're both "NFP's," though he is a lot more "I" than I am. Though knowing me the best, he agrees I'm mostly in the middle, with a slight "E" bias.

    If I had to judge your personality from this forum, I'd peg you way on the "E" side, though from your personal anecdotes I can see that you seem more introverted in real life. I probably don't talk about my personal life as much so I can see how it would be difficult to know how I act.

    Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, of course. Though we don't talk much is all. We can talk more if you like!

  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #25 - April 24, 2012, 08:37 PM
    I guess your missing the part about me being an iNtuitive, meaning I am working off a vibe and a feeling, and a gut instinct, and not needing to know your intimate details etc.

    I score borderline e/i too by the way.

    But anyway, I'm not out to cause offense by my insistence that I 'felt' you were the type you were, nor I am out to feel offense as you constantly tell me that I'm not wrong per se, but just a total stranger who couldn't possibly have got it right off her gut instinct so we shall leave this here. 
    Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit.
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #26 - April 24, 2012, 08:42 PM
    Lots of NFP's here. I am decidedly INTJ. Anyone else?
    The only thing we have to fear is fear itself
    - 32nd United States President Franklin D. Roosevelt
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #27 - April 24, 2012, 08:53 PM
    Quote from: BerberElla on April 24, 2012, 08:37 PM

    But anyway, I'm not out to cause offense by my insistence that I 'felt' you were the type you were, nor I am out to feel offense as you constantly tell me that I'm not wrong per se, but just a total stranger who couldn't possibly have got it right off her gut instinct so we shall leave this here. 


    Oh I'm not judging your ability to have a gut instinct, I'm sure you're probably very perceptive, just that internets are notoriously awful at skewing people's personalities -- people act a lot differently when behind a screen, and subtleties in mannerisms can easily be missed, other are more pronounced! I am sorry if you have taken offense, I certainly didn't intend any, nor am I offended at your judgments, just from my personal experience, everyone I have met on the internets in real life is quite a bit different.

    I was hoping you would take my offer to chat more and get to know each other better (chalk it up to my "E" personality wanting to make new friends?) But I understand if your "I" personality doesn't want more friends  grin12
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #28 - April 24, 2012, 09:07 PM
    Quote from: Luthiel on April 24, 2012, 08:42 PM
    Lots of NFP's here. I am decidedly INTJ. Anyone else?

     -Hand raise-  parrot
    "I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want."
    Muhammad Ali
  • Re: Being a highly sensitive person
     Reply #29 - April 24, 2012, 11:11 PM
    Excellent sloshed
    The only thing we have to fear is fear itself
    - 32nd United States President Franklin D. Roosevelt
  • 12 Next page « Previous thread | Next thread »