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OP - June 02, 2012, 09:35 AM

I'm sure there's already a thread like this, but I don't see it and I ~~didn't look for~~ couldn't find it. So...

What are some things you know now, that you wish you'd known earlier? Some lessons you've learned through experience?

I'll start:

*I wish I'd known that love isn't really unconditional
*I wish I'd known that friends can be better than family
*I wish I'd known what was coming two years ago so I could have prepared better
*I wish I'd known the truth about certain people so it wouldn't have come as such a shock

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Reply #1 - June 02, 2012, 03:07 PM

Quote from: Solara on June 02, 2012, 09:35 AM
I'm sure there's already a thread like this, but I don't see it and I ~~didn't look for~~ couldn't find it. So...

LOL!

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*I wish I'd known that friends can be better than family

I dunno if I believe this is true. Maybe if I told my family I'm not a Muslim, I might find out.

Anyway, umm...

- I wish I'd known that leaving the stove on and then randomly going off somewhere is a bad idea.

Actually, okay, I did know that, but I hadn't really absorbed it. But now it's a life lesson!

- I wish I'd known how effectively rude an eye-roll can be. It's gotten me in so much trouble. ONE LITTLE EYE-ROLL. Sometimes I don't even roll my eyes and my mum thinks I am, and then she gets mad

...I don't really have any more. Oh yeah:

- I wish I could understand how insignificant my problems are in the grand scheme of things. Then I'd lament about them less.

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Reply #2 - June 02, 2012, 03:13 PM

I wish I'd known the subject I chose wouldn't be great career wise

I wish I'd known that not studying would lead to a disaster

I wish I'd known that if I sorted my issues earlier, I would have been much happier

I wish I'd known the value of good company when I had it

I wish I'd known the value of money when I had lots

I wish I'd known (realised) how bad I was as a teen

I wish I'd known how valuable time is when I was young.

finally, I wish I'd known how life treats the unprepared

I like this thread, another chance for me to whine, thanks solara.

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Reply #3 - June 02, 2012, 03:14 PM

I like Sprout's realisations.

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Reply #4 - June 02, 2012, 03:20 PM

Quote from: Solara on June 02, 2012, 09:35 AM
I'm sure there's already a thread like this, but I don't see it and I ~~didn't look for~~ couldn't find it. So...

What are some things you know now, that you wish you'd known earlier? Some lessons you've learned through experience?

I'll start:

*I wish I'd known that love isn't really unconditional
*I wish I'd known that friends can be better than family
*I wish I'd known what was coming two years ago so I could have prepared better
*I wish I'd known the truth about certain people so it wouldn't have come as such a shock

Quote from: Sprout on June 02, 2012, 03:13 PM
I wish I'd known the subject I chose wouldn't be great career wise

I wish I'd known that not studying would lead to a disaster

I wish I'd known that if I sorted my issues earlier, I would have been much happier

I wish I'd known the value of good company when I had it

I wish I'd known the value of money when I had lots

I wish I'd known (realised) how bad I was as a teen

I wish I'd known how valuable time is when I was young.

finally, I wish I'd known how life treats the unprepared

I like this thread, another chance for me to whine, thanks solara.

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Reply #5 - June 02, 2012, 07:39 PM

I wish I'd known how to stop acting, how to use my synaesthesia, how apathy is natural and doesn't make anyone a bad person, why I am special because of what I already have rather than what I feel the need to create, that emotions are a wonderful thing if I would just open myself up, how I don't need to always consider the entertainment of my audience.
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Reply #6 - June 02, 2012, 07:54 PM

Quote from: McGoogles on June 02, 2012, 07:39 PM
I wish I'd known how to stop acting, how to use my synaesthesia, how apathy is natural and doesn't make anyone a bad person, why I am special because of what I already have rather than what I feel the need to create, that emotions are a wonderful thing if I would just open myself up, how I don't need to always consider the entertainment of my audience.

What form of synaesthesia do you have?

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Reply #7 - June 02, 2012, 08:13 PM

Quote from: Solara on June 02, 2012, 09:35 AM

*I wish I'd known that love isn't really unconditional

Very easy to discover when people relinquish ridiculous fantasies and wild goose chases brought about by the constant hype of the pop culture,where 'giving' is not cool under any circumstances. it's all about you deserve this ,you deserve that etc but ...what about the other person?

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Reply #8 - June 02, 2012, 08:24 PM

Hypocrucifier! I thought you were gone from the forums! Glad to see you!

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Reply #9 - June 02, 2012, 08:34 PM

I wish I'd known that it wasn't my fault.
I wish I'd known that throwing up that one time at 13 would somehow mutate into a fully fledged eating disorder that would take hold of my life.
I wish I'd known that who people say they are and who they truly are, are very different things.

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Reply #10 - June 02, 2012, 08:37 PM

@ thread

I think about such things every night. The regrets and wishing I knew she was going to come back, etc, etc will be the end of me.

However the only thing I wish I did resulting from current knowledge is that I had bought a lot of so called forever stamps when I came to Amreeka and maybe a lot of gas (there's some gas bank where you fill up your tank with prices from long ago - when you had paid, I never really looked into it). Oh and I wish I knew about the housing bubble...

I know such things are probably not what most of you want to hear in a thread like this. I have regrets. Real regrets that drive me mad. I'm sorry I did some things, but "yo, that's the old me, in the end I got my homies" as the song goes.

But here's my dilemma with wishing I could send a message to myself from now to a certain date in the past : I would avoid doing one silly thing, sure but if you watched the classic Back to the Future movie then you know that one even insignificant change may change the whole course of later events, which I'm afraid could lead to new unpredictable situations where I would be able to do even more stupid stuff. Also my tragic life, all of it purely my fault I'll have you know, has some wonderful outcomes tied to tragedy, which I am not ready to replace with uncertainty of new reality resulting from knowing then what I didn't.

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Reply #11 - June 02, 2012, 08:54 PM

I don't wish that I could send a message back.

I wish that I could send myself back. More correctly, my thoughts and memories, to the present, disembodied and rehomed in my past self.

The date I would pick: 31 July, 1995. Let what mistakes I would make thence be those of one who knew better.

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Reply #12 - June 02, 2012, 09:23 PM

That things don't work out on their own.
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Reply #13 - June 02, 2012, 10:07 PM

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Reply #14 - June 02, 2012, 10:47 PM

Quote from: Stardust on June 02, 2012, 07:54 PM
What form of synaesthesia do you have?

I have person-colour, chromesthesia and grapheme-colour synaesthesia. The useful one is person-colour, because I can sort of deduce things about them based on their colour. (That's an unfortunate choice of words.)
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Reply #15 - June 02, 2012, 10:53 PM

Quote from: McGoogles on June 02, 2012, 10:47 PM
I have person-colour, chromesthesia and grapheme-colour synaesthesia. The useful one is person-colour, because I can sort of deduce things about them based on their colour. (That's an unfortunate choice of words.)

LOL.

That is so cool.

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Reply #16 - June 02, 2012, 11:02 PM

I know right? =D (I'm not saying thank-you because it's not like it's something that I can actually take credit for.)
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Reply #17 - June 03, 2012, 01:42 AM

how good vodka martini's were!!..

and all of the above!

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Reply #18 - June 03, 2012, 01:52 AM

I wish I'd have known not to read the Quran and find out that Islam is bullshit.
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Reply #19 - June 03, 2012, 01:54 AM

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You need to read this book.
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Reply #20 - June 03, 2012, 01:55 AM

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You need to read this book.
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Reply #21 - June 03, 2012, 02:03 AM

Quote from: Godot on June 03, 2012, 01:55 AM
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Aww, c'mon dude! It's better this way, isn't it?!

It is, I was kind of in a whiny mood after reading through this thread.
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Reply #22 - June 03, 2012, 08:01 AM

I wish I'd known that family is worthless.

That men after sex will say just about anything to get it, no matter how untrue it is, including "you are my friend above all else"

That there is no happily ever after.

That beating up school teachers was probably not the wisest choice.

That I didn't want children.

That yes the only love I would ever get from a man was the shit type, but that I didn't have to stay with him and that being alone is better.

That I was capable of more than I believed I was.

That something was wrong with me, would have spent less time trying to be normal.

That doing that to my body would cause me nothing but health problems down the line.

That repressing my questions about Islam was the worst thing to do.

That I could be more selective with my friends, so I didn't waste time and effort on so many false friends.

That there was dog shit in that grass.

That starting to reply on this thread would only remind me of all the things I wish I had known, and bring the HINDSIGHT HURT raining down on me big time.

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Reply #23 - June 03, 2012, 08:19 AM

I feel the need to reply to some of the stuff in this thread to ease up on the cynicism and pessimism...
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Reply #24 - June 03, 2012, 08:23 AM

Okay, let's see...

Quote from: Solara on June 02, 2012, 09:35 AM
*I wish I'd known that love isn't really unconditional

No one said all love is unconditional, but unconditional love exists.

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*I wish I'd known the truth about certain people so it wouldn't have come as such a shock

I generally treat people with trust unless they prove otherwise. I think the vast majority of people are trustworthy. But it's all about reciprocation. Don't give more than you are given. Any sort of relationship needs to be balanced for it to be healthy. A good friend will give back as much as they receive.
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Reply #25 - June 03, 2012, 08:30 AM

Quote from: Sprout on June 02, 2012, 03:13 PM
I wish I'd known the subject I chose wouldn't be great career wise

Who gives a crap? Undergraduate degrees are pretty worthless anyway. Do what makes you happy. Potential employers look at the experience you have rather than your degree. Your degree might provide some experience, but it might not be direct. For example, a degree in philosophy can get you hired as a writer, because philosophy requires a lot of writing, even if your job isn't directly related to what you studied.

My professor in my last journalism class told us directly that the piece of paper that is our degree is absolutely worthless. The thing of value is what we did to get it. Telling any media outlet that I have a degree in journalism isn't going to get me any job.
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Reply #26 - June 03, 2012, 08:36 AM

Quote from: Abood on June 03, 2012, 08:30 AM
Who gives a crap? Undergraduate degrees are pretty worthless anyway. Do what makes you happy. Potential employers look at the experience you have rather than your degree. Your degree might provide some experience, but it might not be direct. For example, a degree in philosophy can get you hired as a writer, because philosophy requires a lot of writing, even if your job isn't directly related to what you studied.

My professor in my last journalism class told us directly that the piece of paper that is our degree is absolutely worthless. The thing of value is what we did to get it. Telling any media outlet that I have a degree in journalism isn't going to get me any job.

I dunno, there are many careers that you can't touch with a bargepole without the right undergrad and postgrad degrees. I doubt you will get a job as a psychologist with a degree in journalism.

No doubt there are a bunch of degrees and jobs that don't need to match, but if your career path is more specific then no, what you did to get the journalism degree is not getting you a job as a psychologist.

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Reply #27 - June 03, 2012, 08:37 AM

Quote from: Abood on June 03, 2012, 08:30 AM
Who gives a crap? Undergraduate degrees are pretty worthless anyway. Do what makes you happy. Potential employers look at the experience you have rather than your degree. Your degree might provide some experience, but it might not be direct. For example, a degree in philosophy can get you hired as a writer, because philosophy requires a lot of writing, even if your job isn't directly related to what you studied.

My professor in my last journalism class told us directly that the piece of paper that is our degree is absolutely worthless. The thing of value is what we did to get it. Telling any media outlet that I have a degree in journalism isn't going to get me any job.

Saying you have a degree in 'so and so' indicates the work you had to do to get it. Also I think the importance of your undergrad is dependant on your subject and career choice.

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Reply #28 - June 03, 2012, 08:38 AM

DAMN IT BERBS lol

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Reply #29 - June 03, 2012, 08:42 AM

Quote from: BerberElla on June 03, 2012, 08:01 AM
That men after sex will say just about anything to get it, no matter how untrue it is, including "you are my friend above all else"

Or it could be that the way they feel towards you changed after having sex. It happens. Relationship dynamics change.

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That there is no happily ever after.

And there shouldn't be. What a boring ending.

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That yes the only love I would ever get from a man was the shit type, but that I didn't have to stay with him and that being alone is better.

A lot of people suck at relationships. I'm glad you got out of it, whatever it was.

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That something was wrong with me, would have spent less time trying to be normal.

This might sound like a platitude, but there's no such thing as normal. If there was, it would be boring. I found that I started being a lot happier and "shined" more when I stopped trying to be what I thought people expected of me.

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That I could be more selective with my friends, so I didn't waste time and effort on so many false friends.

The way I see it, you don't have to be close/good friends with all your friends. You can hang out with some people without taking your friendship too seriously. I think it's generally a problem with introverts that we try to get intimate with as many people as we can, but some people just can't handle it.

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That there was dog shit in that grass.

When I was in Paris with my family, we were in a cab and there was dog shit all over the floor in the back. It soiled our clothes and bags. That was 17 years ago. I still remember the smell.
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