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  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #30 - August 13, 2015, 09:53 PM
     Cheesy Cheesy
    So, there was no room in the post above those, for two hyphens?
    Hi
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #31 - August 13, 2015, 09:58 PM
    When I am king, you will be first against the wall.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #32 - August 13, 2015, 10:01 PM
    Lol, me and InceptioN
    Hi
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #33 - August 13, 2015, 10:06 PM
    Nah, just you buddy. Just you...
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #34 - August 13, 2015, 10:18 PM
     Cheesy Cheesy
    Hi
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #35 - August 13, 2015, 10:49 PM
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  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #36 - August 13, 2015, 10:52 PM
    I don't entirely mean what I wrote in the previous page, btw. I guess sometimes its hard for me to contain my negativity in a healthy way. So yeah, I hope anyone didn't take that too seriously.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #37 - August 13, 2015, 11:02 PM
    Actually, never mind I did mean it.

    Thing is, if you've never unintentionally hurt someone, you're doing it wrong. It's an important part of a healthy life to do that. Key thing is you shouldn't be trying to do it, if you catch my drift?
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #38 - August 13, 2015, 11:29 PM
    Like, let me give you the example of what I mean.

    When I broke up with my current ex-girlfriend who I had grown rather close to, it was because I had to and there was good reason behind it. However, that didn't really stop me from relishing the moment, and smiling and enjoying it when she broke down in tears. But yeah, she still had feelings for me for a while and it hurt, but at the end of the day we both grew tremendously from the relationship and we're both now still friends.

    So yeah, obviously the looking forward to her hurt part was wrong, but putting that aside, given the outcome was there anything wrong with what I did? We both gained a lot from our time together and are better for the whole experience and separation, so I'd say no and I'm definitely looking forward to more such "mistakes" in the future if they can turn out so well.  Smiley
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #39 - August 13, 2015, 11:44 PM
    Oh boy
    I have no clue what relationships are, but they sure are messy and full of drama.

    I only know friendships. Imo true love can only arise from a true friendship.


    And asbie, you are not as cold as you want us to believe  bunny
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #40 - August 14, 2015, 12:09 AM
    Gosh, then I must be doing a terrible job with the impression I'm giving!  cool2
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #41 - August 14, 2015, 12:17 AM
    I can see people's true nature  cool2

    On topic, I dont quite understand but I guess you have to trust the other person and to trust someone means you are being vulnerable Smiley
    We find the most comfort once we've reached the source of our fears.

  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #42 - August 15, 2015, 01:31 AM
    Quote from: INcePtion on August 13, 2015, 11:44 PM
    Imo true love can only arise from a true friendship.

    Not necessarily. Friendship doesn't always come before developing romantic feelings for someone.
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #43 - August 15, 2015, 03:06 PM
    But not all romantic feelings develop into a solid friendship which is why I think most couples have problems when they start to learn more about their lover or whatever.

    Isnt it funny how the most famous love stories are those that are about an impossible love?

     

  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #44 - August 15, 2015, 03:12 PM
    Actually quite predictable to be honest. When someone seems more tangible and human, its easier to see the flaws and mundanities that are not visible in an idealized love, which an impossible love usually is.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #45 - August 15, 2015, 03:16 PM
    Forbidden love has always tingled out most inner desires and fantasies.

    Or something like that.


    Ps.
    Isn't an easygoing and uneventful and/or predictable love kind of boring? I'd probably lose interest as soon as I feel that my partner doesn't awake some passion inside of me. But then again the fuck I know, I was in an arranged marriage for 7 years Grin
    "The healthiest people I know are those who are the first to label themselves fucked up." - three
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #46 - August 15, 2015, 03:29 PM
    That is why true love is so rare.
    The one that does not need words or some fancy gifts. The one that only needs feelings of affection and caring for each other without wanting but letting it be.

    Which sounds a bit utopic, considering the harsh reality that we are ego driven human beings  Roll Eyes
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #47 - August 15, 2015, 03:33 PM
    Quote from: asbie on August 15, 2015, 03:12 PM
    Actually quite predictable to be honest. When someone seems more tangible and human, its easier to see the flaws and mundanities that are not visible in an idealized love, which an impossible love usually is.


    Look at the wise asbie. Is that why you broke up with your ex since you realised that she is nothing but a bunch of bones deep inside?  Tongue
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #48 - August 15, 2015, 03:33 PM
    Quote from: Cornflower on August 15, 2015, 03:16 PM
    Forbidden love has always tingled out most inner desires and fantasies.

    Or something like that.


    Ps.
    Isn't an easygoing and uneventful and/or predictable love kind of boring? I'd probably lose interest as soon as I feel that my partner doesn't awake some passion inside of me. But then again the fuck I know, I was in an arranged marriage for 7 years Grin


    Well that depends. Life usually isn't easygoing, uneventful, or predictable. The way I see it, the more you identify those ups and downs with a sense of shared experience with a loving and committed partner, the more one's esteem and love for one's partner would grow.

    Either that, or this is just a sense of love that our generation will never know. Grin
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #49 - August 15, 2015, 03:37 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on August 15, 2015, 03:29 PM
    That is why true love is so rare.
    The one that does not need words or some fancy gifts. The one that only needs feeling of affection and caring for each other without wanting but letting it be.

    Which sounds a bit utopic, considering the harsh teality that we are ego driven human beings  Roll Eyes



    I rather think that neither men and women are conditioned by modern society to want this, with its difficult realities and more nuanced and delayed gratification.

    Lives can be difficult enough to cope with, without this added layer of challenge and uncertainty.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #50 - August 15, 2015, 03:40 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on August 15, 2015, 03:33 PM
    Look at the wise asbie. Is that why you broke up with your ex since you realised that she is nothing but a bunch of bones deep inside?  Tongue


    No, if you must know I broke up with her because we couldn't talk about any of the deeper and more important things with anything resembling a shared understanding, regardless of how patient and compassionate she was.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #51 - August 15, 2015, 03:42 PM
    far away hug
    Im sorry to hear about it but the positive thing is that now you are at least good friends.
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #52 - August 15, 2015, 03:43 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on August 15, 2015, 03:33 PM
    Look at the wise asbie. Is that why you broke up with your ex since you realised that she is nothing but a bunch of bones deep inside?  Tongue


    And I'll give you a bone deep inside!  Wink

    Acetabulum!  Smiley
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #53 - August 15, 2015, 03:59 PM
    .

  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #54 - August 15, 2015, 04:30 PM
    Quote from: INcePtion on August 15, 2015, 03:29 PM
    That is why true love is so rare.
    The one that does not need words or some fancy gifts. The one that only needs feelings of affection and caring for each other without wanting but letting it be.

    Which sounds a bit utopic, considering the harsh reality that we are ego driven human beings  Roll Eyes


    You seem to be talking about a couple being content with each other. That's not a rare utopian situation, it's a normal healthy relationship.
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #55 - August 15, 2015, 04:33 PM
    Meh. It seems most of us have dysfunctional relationships to refer to. Either it's representative of how people have it in general, which raises questions about what "normal" and "healthy" is, or maybe ex-Muslims seem to come from rather shitty backgrounds.
    "The healthiest people I know are those who are the first to label themselves fucked up." - three
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #56 - August 15, 2015, 04:35 PM
    Most people have had shitty relationships I would imagine.
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #57 - August 15, 2015, 04:35 PM
    But really, I'm not that cynical about love and relationships. I just don't think that everyone has the privilege to experience a good relationship. OK, I'm out of this thread.
    "The healthiest people I know are those who are the first to label themselves fucked up." - three
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #58 - August 15, 2015, 04:37 PM
    I would think that was obvious.
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • What Happens When You Make Yourself Vulnerable
     Reply #59 - August 15, 2015, 04:40 PM
    I had one good one. Then I found out it seemed ideal only because my husband had no intentions of keeping me, so he never bothered to honestly communicate with me about us, just agreed with whatever I said. By the time I figured all that out, I was divorced.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
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