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     Reply #180 - January 21, 2014, 01:57 AM
    I read your post hours ago, but I didn't know how to respond. Because this is your story, and I'm sorry that this is your story. The way that you explain your father, I feel like I know him, because I had a version of him in my life up until a few months ago, and it makes me feel even sadder for you, for the age that you were when you had to go through this. Because my version was not my father, so the emotional scars he left me with are not nearly as deep as I imagine yours was/is. And when I read about your mother, I wanted to reach through to hug her. And I wanted to hug you, too, for having to witness this all. This was just very hard to read. I'm happy you're far, far away from there.
    "so now, if you leave (Allahu A?lam is you already have) what will u do??? go out and show ur body to all the men??? sleep with countless men?? maashaAllah if you think think this is freedom or womens right then may Allah guide you to that which is correct."
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     Reply #181 - January 21, 2014, 02:18 AM
    It is horrible that you had to go through that yourself, even if they were not your parent. Nobody should have be to subjected to that kind of thing. I am also glad that you are not around it either and that it doesn't affect your life any further. Same for three and yeez..and anyone else that is far from it.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
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     Reply #182 - January 21, 2014, 02:39 AM
    It's strange and sad how alike all of our stories are here. But comforting, too. It's great to know you're not alone. You're a very strong person to write about this. Whenever I feel strong enough, maybe I'll write about it, too. Smiley
    "so now, if you leave (Allahu A?lam is you already have) what will u do??? go out and show ur body to all the men??? sleep with countless men?? maashaAllah if you think think this is freedom or womens right then may Allah guide you to that which is correct."
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     Reply #183 - January 21, 2014, 03:03 AM
    You are strong. We all are. We are alive and they do not hold sway of our minds. You will someday, when you are ready. Everyone will read it when you do.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
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     Reply #184 - January 24, 2014, 11:40 PM
    Part 30 http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/2014/01/24/part-30/
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #185 - January 25, 2014, 12:16 AM
    This is still looking familiar. You poor kids. Children be amanat. This is a violation. My sympathies. 
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
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     Reply #186 - January 25, 2014, 12:41 AM
    Amanat.. yes. Thank you...
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
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     Reply #187 - January 27, 2014, 06:49 AM
    Part 31 http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/2014/01/27/part-31/
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #188 - January 27, 2014, 01:28 PM
    Those internal and external conflicts sound alienating. It is hard to even label your interpersonal conflicts here as conflict, because most of them are just dismissive. A warning to all parents. This is a sympathetic read, certainly.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #189 - January 27, 2014, 08:55 PM
    Yeah, it was the dismissive nature that drover me insane and drove me to go deeper into myself. It also inspires low self-esteem.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #190 - January 27, 2014, 08:58 PM
    For certain. I would expect all those things. I hope I remember to have meetings with my children when they are older. The kind where I keep my mouth mostly shut.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
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     Reply #191 - January 27, 2014, 09:13 PM
    I'll help remind you to.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
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     Reply #192 - January 27, 2014, 09:28 PM
    That would be priceless, and much appreciated. Thank you.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
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     Reply #193 - January 27, 2014, 11:31 PM
    A pleasure, lady three.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #194 - January 28, 2014, 12:33 PM
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    there was an instance where I was told that I was seeking male attention for shaping my eyebrows since that contradicts a hadith which says that one can’t alter their physical appearances in any way.


    I could be wrong but I was told of a hadith recently where a woman approached the prophet and asked if she could do her eyebrows because she wanted her husband to find her attractive. He said yes. Either way, it goes back to doing it solely for a man and not just for her own enjoyment. Fun. But it does imply that only married women can do their eyebrows and only for their husbands' approval.

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    We had learned about free will and destiny not too long ago. I asked them what was the point of even trying to do anything if God had predicted our fate in life and the afterlife. It was all guaranteed to happen no matter our own desires to the contrary and even our thoughts and emotions were predetermined.


    My teacher said that it was because on the day of judgement when god shows us everything we did, we couldn't complain that we hadn't been given the chance to live that life. Which makes no sense. Also, really? God allows us to complain about that? That's the only thing? We can't question anything else, but apparently he's thought so far ahead that he's decided to let us live the life he already knows how we're going to live so we won't complain how unfair it is. Jeez, thanks, god.

    Great post!  grin12
    "so now, if you leave (Allahu A?lam is you already have) what will u do??? go out and show ur body to all the men??? sleep with countless men?? maashaAllah if you think think this is freedom or womens right then may Allah guide you to that which is correct."
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #195 - January 28, 2014, 12:49 PM
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    one can’t alter their physical appearances in any way


    Except for cutting away at children's genitals. Allah likes that.
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #196 - January 29, 2014, 04:57 AM
    Quote from: Ex Hijabi on January 28, 2014, 12:33 PM
    I could be wrong but I was told of a hadith recently where a woman approached the prophet and asked if she could do her eyebrows because she wanted her husband to find her attractive. He said yes. Either way, it goes back to doing it solely for a man and not just for her own enjoyment. Fun. But it does imply that only married women can do their eyebrows and only for their husbands' approval.


    I don't know if there is one out there like that. Haven't heard of it. I did a quick search and here is what I am talking about when I mentioned what the women said, they almost said it verbatim just like the article states.

    http://www.understanding-islam.com/q-and-a/sources-of-islam/hadith-condemning-women-who-style-their-eyebrows-by-shaving-or-trimming-their-edges-5597

    It is sad and amusing that there is even a debate about this topic, but I recently got into that with people on reddit. Some morons were trying to say that plucking eyebrows was part of proper hygiene and compared to taking a shower and brushing your hair. Fucking retarded. It's a standard of beauty in Western society not a matter of being clean.

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    My teacher said that it was because on the day of judgement when god shows us everything we did, we couldn't complain that we hadn't been given the chance to live that life. Which makes no sense. Also, really? God allows us to complain about that? That's the only thing? We can't question anything else, but apparently he's thought so far ahead that he's decided to let us live the life he already knows how we're going to live so we won't complain how unfair it is. Jeez, thanks, god.

    Great post!  grin12


    God.. so stupid! The whole free will bullshit in religion is so contradictory.  thnkyu

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    Except for cutting away at children's genitals. Allah likes that.


    Yup.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #197 - January 29, 2014, 09:06 AM
    Quote from: movingfeet on January 29, 2014, 04:57 AM
    I don't know if there is one out there like that. Haven't heard of it. I did a quick search and here is what I am talking about when I mentioned what the women said, they almost said it verbatim just like the article states.

    http://www.understanding-islam.com/q-and-a/sources-of-islam/hadith-condemning-women-who-style-their-eyebrows-by-shaving-or-trimming-their-edges-5597

    It is sad and amusing that there is even a debate about this topic, but I recently got into that with people on reddit. Some morons were trying to say that plucking eyebrows was part of proper hygiene and compared to taking a shower and brushing your hair. Fucking retarded. It's a standard of beauty in Western society not a matter of being clean.


    My sister told me, but I'm not sure where she heard it. But she plucks her eyebrows so it's all in self-interest. She had to find a hadith so she couldn't feel guilty.

    Also, lol Cheesy Hygienic, really? Do they not know the meaning of hygienic? How could shaping your eyebrows in anyway be hygienic?
    "so now, if you leave (Allahu A?lam is you already have) what will u do??? go out and show ur body to all the men??? sleep with countless men?? maashaAllah if you think think this is freedom or womens right then may Allah guide you to that which is correct."
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #198 - January 29, 2014, 11:18 PM
    lol hell if I know.. it's just like when I see men or women from the US bitch about how Muslims are so backward and oppressing women then turn around with shit like..."gynecology is the only suited medical profession for women or nurses and CNAs! being a man and a nurse is emasculating" or that stupid men's rights movement that is coming along lately.. pot calling the kettle black
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #199 - January 31, 2014, 06:06 PM
    Part 32 http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/2014/01/31/part-32/
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #200 - February 01, 2014, 12:27 AM
    You were mothering your mother, not just your siblings.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
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     Reply #201 - February 01, 2014, 12:38 AM
    hm yea, that's true.. never thought of it that way
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #202 - February 01, 2014, 12:44 AM
    How the fuck did I manage to overlook this thread for so long? You’re a very good writer. I guess I’ve got some reading to do.  Afro
    Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it.
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #203 - February 01, 2014, 12:47 AM
    Quote from: movingfeet on February 01, 2014, 12:38 AM
    hm yea, that's true.. never thought of it that way


    You were a mother long ago. A good one.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #204 - February 01, 2014, 12:58 AM
    Quote from: Minimow on February 01, 2014, 12:44 AM
    How the fuck did I manage to overlook this thread for so long? You’re a very good writer. I guess I’ve got some reading to do.  Afro


    Thank you! Hope you find it interesting.

    Thank you, three... hopefully I do better with my son in various ways.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #205 - February 01, 2014, 03:02 AM
    You will, you are, because you know what to avoid, and much more importantly, you remember how it felt to be a child. Empathy is everything.
    Don't let Hitler have the street.
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #206 - February 01, 2014, 03:11 AM
    Very true.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #207 - February 01, 2014, 04:18 AM
    That was heartbreaking. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I got stressed just by reading it. That is too much for anyone to handle, much less a child.
    "so now, if you leave (Allahu A?lam is you already have) what will u do??? go out and show ur body to all the men??? sleep with countless men?? maashaAllah if you think think this is freedom or womens right then may Allah guide you to that which is correct."
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #208 - February 01, 2014, 04:43 AM
    It was hard. I was always depressed and when I got older, I had anxiety attacks, but didn't know what they were... I have forgiven her though. She is the only person I was able to forgive. It felt good to finally get that story out. That was one of those that I never told anyone about.
    "Work without hope draws nectar in a sieve, and hope without an object cannot live." -Coleridge

    http://sinofgreed.wordpress.com/
  • The Sin Of Greed
     Reply #209 - February 01, 2014, 10:29 AM
     far away hug

     Cry

     Big hug

    No free mixing of the sexes is permitted on these forums or via PM or the various chat groups that are operating.

    Women must write modestly and all men must lower their case.

    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?425649-Have-some-Hayaa-%28modesty-shame%29-people!
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